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Is it odd that I am getting it at 25.
Cheer up emo kid.
maybe it is still to come
despite being very forgiving, because no matter how much of a cunt someone is, it's not like they have any choice in the matter. same goes for most of the people responsible for other people growing up to be cunts.
I do believe in a semblance of free will, but I think it's kind of rare, and I think that only people capable of doing the hard thing, making the selfless choice, will make that choice. weaker people need stronger people to guide them towards positive decisions.
"because no matter how much of a cunt someone is, it's not like they have any choice in the matter."
eh? people can't choose whether to be dicks or not?
they tend to be nice.
whereas unsavoury types are less able/completely unable to act compassionately.
due to their upbringing, their nurturing or lack of, negative conditioning, etc.
but free-will, which I define as the ability to make the hard choice, is generally a trait of good people.
everyone makes their own decisions
I don't really believe it any more. I think free will is mostly an illusion, that people are compelled to do things by urges/impulses instilled in them by everything they experience, and bad people just lack discipline/compassion, which would compell them not to do bad things.
i think it's just easier to be a cunt, the same that's it's easier to moan about stuff rather than make the effort to change. people are just lazy, that's all, they're not bad.
it is just lazyness, i.e. weakness, i.e. they haven't had the discipline instilled in them to not revert to their worst animal instincts.
obviously, you can be disciplined and 'bad'; doing the wrong thing if you've been raised 'good' is the hard thing, and there are people with strongly reinforced negative views who can influence people to act like them.
I guess it's all illusory, the idea of free will. even making the positive choice is just one urge stronger than another.
maybe it's entirely an illusion. when people do things despite one urge, it's due to another urge. when people pick between two equally appealing things, one urge is probably slightly stronger.
probs a bit more complex when it comes to picking at random.
i just find it hard to believe that people are inherently bad (whether due to upbringing or genetics) i just don't buy it. i'm no expert but if i can go for a swim (that took real effort) then people can choose to do anything
inherently 'good'/'bad'...people are born mostly blank, maybe predisposed to certain mindsets, but they can be almost any kind of person depending on how they are raised, whi they interact with.
they can change, although the more deeply instilled a trait is, the harder it is to change.
in terms of you going swimming, obviously you have picked up on a kind of 'exercise is fun & good for you' vibe, and felt compelled. maybe you wanted to go because you used to, and you felt compelled to because of something deeper in yr heart.
I hate hate. it's just the worst emotion.
Shyness is nice
so right now, I hate just about everyone
Maybe I just need to go outdoors more.
I knew you would show.
Definitely didn't hate everyone but didn't really respect myself either
thinking about that year makes me cringe. A really really dark year for me. Luckily i managed to get off of what i was doing and take control of my life again.
Hope things have been better for you now also :)
Starting from when I joined DiS in January 2010, of course ;)