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At 31, i do think sometimes that it's all been worthless, i have no house, realtionship, kids...
Why the hell did I waste my teenage years listening to the kind of music that I did, and going to the kind of gigs that I did? You can do that stuff in late 20s, 30s, 40s so on so on and nobody thinks you're weird for it.
Urghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. Stupid teenage self. And now I'm starting to look old, and I don't want to look old, I want to be able to wear Gap Kids clothes and look okay in them.
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Um, yeah. Why do you need any of that stuff anyhow? What's the deal with owning a house? And I won't even mention the last two... I mean, what's even the problem? You can do all that stuff later if you really want. I can't. My life is pretty much over.
for every minute you spend regretting something you can never undo, you're wasting time you'll never get back
but i realised pretty recently that for the last 10 years or so i've been waiting for my life to start, rather than actually starting it. i feel like it's not been a complete waste by any means, but certainly not pleased with myself.
How do you start?
Where do you go?
Who do you need to know?
I feel like I am currently wasting my life instead.
Life's about being happy, isn't it? If taking it at a slow pace makes you happy short-term, you're not doing a great deal wrong. It might not hold you in the best stead for later life, but you've got time on your side.
No-one realistically makes huge changes to thier lives. They like to think they do, but changing job, deciding to study, moving - it's all standard shit. People just trundle along at slightly different paces, filling their time with stuff, 95% of which is ultimately useless.
I'd probably make a list, or sutin; negative and positives, then decide what subtle changes you can make to change the former. You'll probably find you're not that far off track, though there's no right or wrong way. Some people are extremely career-driven but ultimately hugely boring. Others aren't that way inclined at all. Most will fall in the middle. Pretty much all will wonder at some point if they've done it the right way, though. I wouldn't worry about it.
What would you prefer to be doing, out of interest - having a degree but working in Sainsburys? Having a wife nagging you every day? Being in a band and getting paid in beer? Being Mr Proper Career, loadsa money but dead inside, sat in a warm office for 50 hours a week? There's no ideal life. Everyone wishes they were doing something else, that's just how it goes.
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lets make out
I'm on track so far.
impossible for it to have wasted it
i'm 23 now, i should be established in the first team.
the sunset of my injury - plagued career.
- do just that, and smash it next season
- get scouted by a non-league club
- smash it some more and go on a cup run, all the way through the FA cup qualifiers.
- do some giant killing by being the beating heart of the non-league team
- either a) make it few the first few rounds proper and get snapped up by a lower league team, or b) make history and lead your team to fairytale FA Cup glory, and get snapped up by a Premier League.club.
- break into their first team.
- get an international call-up.
- win everything, ever.
Its' tough. By a certain age, shouldn't you have kids and be responsible? Can anyone nowadays have a safe job which can let you plan for stuff like a house/settling down? Why are the only two girls i've had a connection with in the last 2 years got boyfriends and don't want to go out with me?
So many questions, so little answers!
don't judge yourself by what you see other people doing. Make decisions that will make you happy. It's a shame if it didn't work out with a couple of girls you liked but all you can do is move on from that
Worry has been replaced by despair and ennui.
My parents were married with careers (which they're still in), a house and a child by the time they were 23, but I've chosen to disregard that as mental instead of feeling pressured.
say i need to move on with my life and get a proper job. but i'm pretty content with life so i see no reason to change things. i'm independent from my parents, i pay my own way, and i have enough money to do a few things i want to do. most importantly tho, i have shit loads of friends who i am able to spend lots of time with. there are so many thing in my life that could be a million times worse.
if you ask me on a bad day tho, yeah i have no hope for the future. but 97% of the time, it's all good.
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But I think there's a lot of evidence to suggest there is a happiness baseline that doesnt really change regardless of success etc.
I am so busy doing nothing... that the idea of doing anything - which as you know, always leads to something - cuts into the nothing and then forces me to have to drop everything.