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I am pretty useless.
Mother and sister both text me today to ring my dad and wish him a happy bithday, I had no idea.
Never forget birthdays, always return home to cook for them on birthdays/mother's and father's day. Weekly phone call etc.
Even rare enough that I answer their calls. I should really sort that out, not fair really.
and all other important family occasions. Ring home a few times a week. Send letters and flowers to my mum, and texts like 'FUCKING TORRES' to my dad (to which I got a crude attempt at a smiley face back from him this morning. at least i think it was meant to be a smiley face. maybe he's had a stroke and nobody's told me, oMFG.)
Having said that, I have a lifestyle that deeply concerns them, as they know that I'm a bit of a loose cannon. My mum once said to me that I'm the most fun she could wish for in her life but the biggest possible worry. I know they'd like me to move back to scotland and be closer to them, home, and the family business, and to stop 'gallivanting'.
So, I don't know really. I probably balance out as pretty average.
I always think my dad should give my grandad a call a bit more often, but then I sometimes go weeks without speaking to my old man.
Obviously we're both busier than my grandad and he lives on his own, but we don't need to speak to each other more than once a week unless we're organising stuff.
Get big guilt about not paying enough attention to my mum. When you get a bit older you realise what a big cunt you were as a teenager and the shit they did for you/ had to put up with.
I live at the other end of the country now and don't make it back often enough.
My mum cries every time I leave at the end of a visit. Makes me feel awful just thinking about it, actually.
I just feel inattentive.
to be a good daughter. I'm the youngest of 4 girls. With the exception of my eldest sister, my sisters don't call our parents to check in or even make the effort to visit. My parents are lucky to hear from them on holidays, birthdays, etc. I know it really bums my dad out so I try extra hard to call often and plan visits 2 or 3 times a year. My sisters have put our parents through some real shit over the years so I try really hard to be the "good" daughter.
see each other every couple of months. Generally remember birthdays and such. They're very good to me, I hope I don't cause them too much worry.
Make sure we have regular days out together, help her with all the tech stuff she needs help with, get her tickets to the things she likes (Rufus Wainwright on Monday for instance).
Call every few days, visit twice a month to help the aul lad with keeping the house. I'm pretty close to them to be fair