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Last status update: About August 2010
I'm such a good guy.
i only really use facebook to send videos to my friends who are more than likely in the room next door
rarely update my status, just use it to keep in contact with a few friends
does anyone need a study to work out that people who constantly talk about themselves and upload pictures is narcissistic?
are people who have something to promote. either gigs or music in most cases.
i have 768 facebook friends. i only delete people when they're annoying me, which isn't very often.
my last status updates were a week ago asking who was coming and then thanking those that did come to my birthday drinks.
the one before that it was my favourite quote from mock the week
spiderman, look out ! it's rolled-up newspaper man !
You wouldn't bother getting up on a stage or trying to flog your music otherwise.
there are plenty of musicians - primary songwriters and bandleaders in particular - who are indeed total narcissists, and there's no doubting it's a more common trait among musicians and artists in general than in other fields, but narcissism is being self-absorbed in a very negative way.
there are many whom, though expressive and possessing the traits that influence such expression, are not especially narcissistic.
yuck, didn't construct that sentence particularly well...
I don't think being active and expressive online necessarily equates with negative characteristics. It's kind of saying "people who express themselves a lot are attention seeking lunatics" - and seem to think that being quiet, docile and private is a preferred state of being.
How about being a socially open person, accepting of new people, having a lot of active opinions and being engaged with current events, enjoying sharing images and experiences with a wide circle of friends and acquaintances (what Facebook is for), adding colleagues as well as friends, adding interesting people you met out as a way of getting to know them rather than never seeing them again, posting albums of pictures to share with distant family and friends, liking to keep a "current" profile pic in terms of season or whatever...
I actually believe that relaxing the barriers of what is private can be the opposite of narcissism actually - not believing yourself to be special at all. Being closed off or very private could be seen as egotism in thinking one's private life is high currency and to be guarded like treasure. Relaxing that admits that you are one of billions and that personal matters really mean fuck all in the wider scheme of things...
Oops. I am being sensitive to perceived criticism, a classic sign of being a borderline personality.
I think it basically depends how you go about using social media.
For what it's worth I don't think you're *that* narcissistic - that is to say I think everyone is narcissistic to some extent...and I would say you register as someone who is massively so.
However, the girl who added me two weeks ago - constant changing of her profile pic and status updates about her fucking hair colour (what she has changed it too...whether she is sure about it...what she might change it too next) - is an attention seeking, narcissistic fuckwit who I deleted pretty quickly.
fuck my posting in this thread. fuck it.
think it was Freud
I don't see that as a bad thing. Like that equally tenuous study that said most young people are having their first "sexual experience" online. And I thought: "so what? Many teenagers are very self-conscious but highly articulate, so that probably suits 'em well - how is some kind of online sexual experience better or worse than a fumble in some house party spare room?"
People demonise online culture too much, just out of a fear of the new.
But at the same time, it's kind of bollocks.
only 4 hours prior to posting this? Probably could have saved yourself a bit of time.
mugs branded with his own name
isn't that just himself ???
My name is John Rogers hi thanks yeah
well the John bit's right.
Attempting to reason with aggressive people on DiS = so utterly pointless.
Stepping away from the keyboard.
I guess that would be quite narcissistic though, and we've already established you're not narcissistic, so you're right, I must have been mistaken, sorry.
I don't possess such negative characteristics.
I know more then 150 people, or know of them... I used to know a good percentage of them... I guess that doesn't count but they're still on my facebook friends list, we were good friends once but times change. Does this mean I'm a narcissist? Probably
... or attributes the results of studies to activities you are involved in ...
... otherwise, no.
where can i taake this narcistism test
no, when i said 'I thought I was', I was not referring to my narcissm being in the past, I was referring to my thinking 'that I was one' was in the past :D
i see what they mean about shallow friendships but then i think it's a fairly liberal use of the word when you apply it to facebook anyway. it's just people innit who you cross paths with and stick in your little black book. it's fine.