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On facebook how do you find out who is going to parties you haven't been invited too?

chris-budget [Edit] [Delete] 64 replies 15:30, 5 December '11

thanks!

yours

Detective Chris

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  • Friends' events?

    Alan_Shearer | 5 Dec '11, 15:32 | X
    • how do i find that?

      i appreciate this is liek talking to yr mum about how to USE THE INTERNET but I don't ever go on facebook

      chris-budget @Alan_Shearer | 5 Dec '11, 15:34 | X
  • -> Events

    -> Friend's events

    chris_is_uncool

    meowington | 5 Dec '11, 15:34 | X
    • OH I thought this was chris_is_cool

      meowington @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 15:43 | X
      • might change my username

        this happens too often

        chris-budget @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 15:44 | X
  • This is really sad.

    ZooKeepersBoy | 5 Dec '11, 15:35 | X
    • it does seem a bit sad you are right

      it's not quite as sad as it seems

      chris-budget @ZooKeepersBoy | 5 Dec '11, 15:39 | X
      • no man it is.

        come hug me

        xylopwn @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:40 | X
        • ha ha

          I DON'T WANT TO GO ANYWAY!

          chris-budget @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 15:42 | X
  • If it's public, it's obvious - just click on the event link, they're right there

    if you can't see a list of people, they've been hidden on purpose, I don't think there's any way to get at it.

    DaisyFlower | 5 Dec '11, 15:35 | X
    • hmmmm....

      nothing there
      I'll just have to send the spys in

      chris-budget @DaisyFlower | 5 Dec '11, 15:39 | X
  • sub-thread

    QUESTION
    in a purely hypothetical scenario where you haven't been invited to a PARTY, would you confront the perpetrator of the snub or just let it slide?

    chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:49 | X
    • ^This

      You're obviously not invited for a reason. Either they don't like you or you're just easy to forget about. SORRY TO BREAK IT TO YOU.

      meowington @cat-race | 5 Dec '11, 15:53 | X
      • when are you, scout and moousse going to come to london?

        meowington @cat-race | 5 Dec '11, 15:57 | X
        • Leeds it a bit far

          and I have work on thurs :(

          meowington @cat-race | 5 Dec '11, 16:07 | X
          • let it slide noted

            in answer to yr question.
            theoretically I wouldn't be demanding anything other than an explanation as to why I haven't been invited to a party of someone who I have know for 10 + years, see ----fairly--- regularly and haven't, to my knowledge, fallen out with.
            I fully agree that I don't have any right to demand to be invited ANYWHERE

            chris-budget @cat-race | 5 Dec '11, 15:56 | X
            • Maybe they just forgot to invite you?

              meowington @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:58 | X
              theguywithnousername this'd this
              • Whenever I invite people to parties on Facebook I pretty much click on the people I happen to spot I want to invite as I scroll through my friends

                and hope anyone I omit will hear about it through other friends.

                It's pretty damn easy on the Facebook invite system to not invite someone. I wouldn't go in all guns blazing. Do you have a mutual friend who can get to raise it with the person having the party and see what they say?

                theguywithnousername @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 16:02 | X
              • maybe

                MAY
                BE

                chris-budget @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 16:02 | X
            • could it be that they have invited someone you don't get on with?

              maybe an ex girlfriend or someone? or perhaps they just forgot. or maybe facebook was being an idiot when sending invites out.

              shes_so_high @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 16:01 | X
          • Arrange a cribbage evening on the same night.

            Show them you can have fun without them.

            marckee @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:53 | X
          • In almost all cases let it slide.

            If it was one of my closest friends and they'd invited all our mutual closest friends but not me I might bring up the subject and see what they said. Or, if for some reason I really wanted to go (say all my friends were going but I didn't know the person whose party it was), get a friend who was closer friends with the party host than me to angle for an invitation for me.

            Otherwise I'd just accept I wasn't invited and do something else with my evening.

            theguywithnousername @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:55 | X
          • start your own party

            and invite all their guests and have blackjack and hookers so everyone will go to your party instead

            guntrip @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:55 | X
          • next time you see them

            What you doing on the...? whatever date it is
            Oh that's the night of THE PARTY, you are coming right?
            ...what PARTY? Oh, sounds great, yeah I'll come.

            Done.

            JustJay @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 15:56 | X
            icouldwinarabbit this'd this
            • To be honest I'm impressed with this after your fuck up with hip_young_gunslinger down there VVVV

              TheoGB @JustJay | 5 Dec '11, 16:33 | X
              • I'm usually R

                but this usually proves to be a relatively painless way of getting to stand awkwardly in the corner at THE PARTY

                JustJay @TheoGB | 5 Dec '11, 16:47 | X
          • Shit. You mean everyone's inviting each other to parties on facebook?

            I might have to join. I wondered why I'd stopped partying :(

            thewarn | 5 Dec '11, 16:08 | X
          • Here's an awkward party invite story.

            So, every year since we were at university, my good friend B has invited people to his house in the country a few days before Christmas. It's become an annual occasion that a group of about 8 of us look forward too very much.

            However, last year, friend R fell out with friend Z when he confessed his love to her and was rejected. He then went a bit mental. B never really liked R anyway, so used this as an excuse not to invite him last year, in fact, never even told him him it was happening (and as it went, R was busy with work anyway).

            This year, B has sent out his invites, and again left R out. This was okay, and we were all careful not to mention it when he was around. Until last week when we were all at dinner, and friend J suddenly said across the table loud enough for all to hear: 'Hey, are you going to B's party?'. I don't know why I didn't just flat out lie and say I hadn't heard anything about it and spared everyone's blushes, but instead, I just sort of pulled this face of panic and horror and tried to indicate with my eyes that he should shut the fuck up. I could feel everyone else at the table cringe. Someone actually ran from the table, so uncomfortable it was. J somehow misinterpreted my looks for confusion and blundered on: 'B's party? The 17th? Yeah? You coming? Like last year? Yeah?' After about two minutes of intense social pain, he sort of shrugged and gave up. R left very quickly after that. He's been very quiet since. I really hope he hasn't topped himself.

            hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:26 | X
            • And now he's a lesbian.

              hip_young_gunslinger @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:27 | X
            • POOR R

              chris-budget @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:29 | X
              Antpocalypsenow this'd this
              • Yeah, this all sounds really cool to him, and it probably is.

                But he's very odd, and he's never really fit in to our gang. We met at uni and all went out of our way to bring him in and help him take part, but he just proved to be completely resistant to socialisation. The thing with Z was ridiculous. He really annoyed a lot of people. And it's up to B who he invites to his house (and his parents who generously cook for us).

                Friends are complicated.

                hip_young_gunslinger @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 16:33 | X
                • COOL?

                  I meant cruel. Hahahahah.

                  hip_young_gunslinger @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:35 | X
                  • You bastard! :D

                    TheoGB @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:39 | X
                    hip_young_gunslinger and meowington this'd this
                • Aw J.

                  meowington @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:36 | X
                • mmmm.

                  if someone's not part of the group and won't fit in.. don't go for dinner with them, because it's basically false hope isn't it?

                  I have a bit of an ire for 'gangs'. People generally become bitchy, gossipy and judgemental the second an 'us/them' fence is put up.

                  xylopwn @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:55 | X
                  DaisyFlower this'd this
                  • Well, I say 'gang', it's not exactly West Side Story.

                    Just a bunch of people who lived in the same corridor at uni and became mates. R lived there as well, so in the first weeks we invited him along to stuff out of politeness, even though he was shy/awkward/antisocial depending on how you looked at it. Although our efforts never really met with much reward, he kept hanging out with us. It eventually just reached a clumsy plateau where ostensibly he's our friend but really he's massively isolated despite all our efforts. Some of us keep trying, and some, like B, have decided to give up.

                    hip_young_gunslinger @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:00 | X
                    • If R's being a C to someone within the group

                      it seems reasonable to tell him to FO.

                      Trust me, better in long run.

                      xylopwn @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 17:05 | X
                      • It seems like R isn't being a massive C

                        but isn't a very rewarding friend, through no fault of anyone in the group. It seems like they've tried with R but he's just being a bit of a C to a certain person who has reacted in a way that is just like 'I can't be bothered with him becuase he can't be bothered with me' which is right really. Friendships take work from either side, not just one side.

                        meowington @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:10 | X
                        • thing is, i completely agree

                          i'm just positing that if someone isn't pulling their weight as a friend or actually worth the unappreciated effort, it's better to cut them out clearly than to keep them around but exclude them from things at a group discretion.

                          I know I do/have.

                          xylopwn @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 17:12 | X
                          • I'm not too sure about this.

                            I don't think I could actively cut someone out of a group especially if that person was like this R is, clearly a bit socially inept. I'll just leave the inviting to someone else. Not ma problem.

                            meowington @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:16 | X
                            • spose.

                              i guess if you don't really have anyone else to hang out with, even that kind of friendship is something to hang on to.

                              Very sad though :(

                              xylopwn @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 17:19 | X
                              • Yeah I suppose

                                but that's R's problem to have to deal with, not everyone elses. If they have no one else, they need to up their game and be someone people want to hang around with otherwise they'll have no problem dropping him. Very sad.

                                meowington @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:21 | X
                                • ahaha you're kind of arguing both my point and its alternative here!

                                  but yes. i guess the obvious thing is for the group to say "we want you out and about, but you made us really uncomfy a while back and it's sort of stuck that way"

                                  xylopwn @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 17:23 | X
                                  • I'm undecided about how I feel here

                                    basically because I'm totally awesome and a massive pushover all at once.

                                    The party host should step up and say this to R so he knows and his feelings aren't hurt :( POOR R!

                                    meowington @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:25 | X
                                    • actually agreed. it's on B to make things at least understandable

                                      so it doesn't seem like a random snubbing.

                                      H_Y_G, let him know.

                                      And yeah, the problem with social epicentres like you and I is that it's so hard to relate.

                                      *suddenly starts dancing the robot as balloon nets open and friends pour into building*

                                      xylopwn @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 17:28 | X
                                      • TOTES

                                        *does the worm whilst 100 kittens fall out my pockets*

                                        meowington @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:31 | X
                                        xylopwn this'd this
                    • a clumsy plateau

                      :)

                      meowington @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 17:06 | X
                      • playing at atp

                        xylopwn @meowington | 5 Dec '11, 17:07 | X
                  • sounds like DIS

                    chris-budget @xylopwn | 5 Dec '11, 17:33 | X
            • Post to 'this' for everyone who's ever been 'J' in this scenario.

              TheoGB @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:32 | X
              TheoGB, chris-budget, Matt_was_taken, meowington, werk, andyvine, and DaveMK this'd this
              • Wait. 'J'?!?! Are you actually talking about yourself in the 3rd person?

                TheoGB @TheoGB | 5 Dec '11, 16:33 | X
                • No. I am the I in this story.

                  J's name also happens to begin with J.

                  hip_young_gunslinger @TheoGB | 5 Dec '11, 16:35 | X
                  • yeah yeah course you are

                    R!

                    chris-budget @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 16:54 | X
                    • *Sobs*

                      hip_young_gunslinger @chris-budget | 5 Dec '11, 17:00 | X
            • R is this guy right

              http://youtu.be/RLgI-qbrWVo

              andyvine @hip_young_gunslinger | 5 Dec '11, 17:16 | X
              • No, I think he's this guy

                http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LMACpa_oXjk

                TheoGB @andyvine | 5 Dec '11, 17:27 | X
          • i think you should start drinking now

            and at about 2am go banging on their front door screaming and crying WHY DON'T YOU WANT ME ANYMORE?!

            CrispinAlexander | 5 Dec '11, 16:44 | X
          • Oh dear oh dear.

            ChintzyLacroix | 5 Dec '11, 17:15 | X
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