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what do you do with a housemate who refuses to clean up?
yes, another thread sorry.
i mean hardcore refuses to do anything.
specifically, the bin: it's always me who changes the bin. not that it's a massive job, but it's the principle. i was toying with the idea of chucking the bin away altogether. but then there'll be a build-up of bags. the skip for the bin-bags is only a short walk from the house, but he won't do it. what a prick. any ideas?
leave the bin bags outside his door everytime its his turn
But beware
He will put it back outside your door the first time.
most likely
id do it anyway because when they get all angry about it and ask why they would really have any comeback to 'because its your turn' so long as you took it out every other time.
maybe start a thread about it on DiS.
one step ahead of you, brah
This is what will happen, because i've been there and still am.
You will get angry about it for about 3 weeks. Then you will just get used to it and take it out yourself. Then every now and again you will once again get a bit pissed off (generally when they have managed to balance something on top of the pile they were meant to take out). You will move on and take the bin out.
There's no point in complaining about it. People are shit.
Just get used to it and live safe in the knowledge that you are a better person than he for showing some fucking responsibility.
yeah i guess
it sucks though. sucks so much
Exactly.
Eventually you get to the point where you either live with people who do their fair share of housework (or, at least, do it without acting offended with you for daring to bring up their laziness), or you get enough money to live on your own. It's part of growing up.
it's not something you can tell about a person before you move in to a house
How many of you are there in the house and do the opthers feel the same way?
Is it just the bin or other general duties?
if you have teh support ot=f teh others then I'd be tempted to cget everyone together and explain that he needs to start pulling his weight or else you'll advertise for another housemate. He's possibly putting you all in breach of the terms of your lease with his sloppy ways and all of your deposits could potentially be at risk.
Another thing (which a friend in a similar situation mooted recently) was to accept he'll never clean and agree to get a cleaner in once a week with him paying a much larger fraction of it because he creates most of teh uncleaned mess. this only works if there are a lot of you and you all agree he's a fucking pig stye.
the last option is for you to move out.
Once they vomit on the toilet seat
and leave mooncups on the side of the shower... that's when you have real problems.
mooncups?
fucking hell...tweezer are you from brighton?
because
it reminds me of a girl i lived with who left a bowl full of sick outside my bedroom door
http://drownedinsound.com/community/boards/social/4265119#r5530637
link them to this thread
That's NOTHING
my flatmate uses about 1/3 of a toilet roll every time he does a shit. I'm not exaggerating. We've all told him to use less, but he point-blank refuses. The downside to this is not just him wasting quite a lot of money, but the fact that I don't think he's actually done a shit in this house where there hasn't been a massive ball of arse-wiped toilet roll in the loo when I or someone else has gone in to use it. You have to flush it several times to get it to go down. I'm pretty sure one day he's going to block the toilet and we're gonna have to pay for a plumber. Well, he is anyway. I just hope it's not me that gets covered in shitwater and arsewipe loo roll when it happens.
There's nothing that can be done, you can't win
Whatever you do or say, whatever approach you take, if you ever mention it in any way whatsoever, regardless of your tone or meaning you'll end up being referred to you amongst his/her friends as Tony Binn or Binjamin Netanyahu or Binny Twat Corn for the the rest of your life. Just let it go. Let it all go.
i don't care about that,
his friends are probably all dicks as well if he has any.
my housemate
caused a scene this evening by burning a piece of bread to a cinder, making an huge mess in the process, there's still a faint smell lingering... but yeah as said upthread, people can be dicks especially if you move into a house of strangers and you don't know their habits
I had this problem about 5 years ago
Just put every single thing that he leaves out and refuses to clear away on his bed while he's out. Wrappers, dirty dishes and glasses, everything. The bullshit soon stops.
Note: you're going to want a lock on *your* door if you do this, of course.
he locks his door.
from the inside.
there's 2 new people as well
so i wouldn't always be sure stuff is his, not anymore anyway. unfortunately the 2 new people seem to not be doing a whole lot either
so you're now living with THREE clatty skanks?
Move out.
leave it on their bed
also works if they never do any washing up or throw out spoiled/bad food
have you spoken to him about it?
indirectly
i don't really desire confrontation, and i have a short temper.
is this at halls? don't really know your situation sorry
if it is then i feel for you. the worst year of my life was living in halls.
if you have more flatmates that are willing to 'take out the trash' (sorry) speak to them and then get together and confront him
it may not work, but at least you'll know in your mind that 1) he knows you're pissed with him and 2) why he is the way he is- which is probably like 90% of the annoyance
also you can get your own bin
in your room or whatever you feel is acceptable, and just use that yourself. don't use the communal bin and then you don't have to empty it. also live safe in the knowledge that you'll probably live with better ppl one day - yesterday my mate emailed me at work and said "you better chnage the fucking bin before i get home you scruffy cunt" and i duly obliged
he probably said change
^ this
some people are actually just really oblivious and honestly don't realise how much you are cleaning up after them. try a passive-aggressive note.
i speak from the experience of possibly having been this person
when you live in a four-person flat, it's very easy to keep putting off taking out the bins cos you just forget and then when you notice you're always busy or in a rush but you'll totes do it later but then whoops! someone else already did it! a gentle suggestion of a cleaning rota can solve this problem.
na i appreciate the advice, i've been that guy too
but this is definitely not the case. he knows exactly what he's doing.
this is true thinking about it
it can be the case that everyone in the house is abit slack and everyone has different thresholds of tollerance so the person with the lowest ends up doing things but others might have done if things were left a little longer. Its also important everyone is aware of things they might do that might annoy other people, there is nothing worse than when some one criticises you for something pretty minor when youve let loads of similar things of theirs slide many times, think thats when people dont react well or get defensive
fair points, but not applicable here.
Have a nice, reasonable chat wiv 'im. You're both adults, bruv.
'cos then he won't be expectin' it when you cut 'is face for still doin' it.
Danny is always right.
Innit guv?!
dirty protest
Move in with collswallap
oh god i was having a similar conversation the other day, but about austrian flatmates
WHY ARE THEY SO EFFICIENT?!
uk flatmate train of thought: "oh... the bin's getting full... i guess it'll need doing... later..."
austrian flatmate train of thought "oh... the bin's getting full... and i'm stood right in front of it so i'll just take it out now"
they make me feel so lazy, whereas i'm just... getting round to it. :D
I do that and I'm not Austrian.
I'm not lazy either.
I've always had an open dialogue with housemates about it.
I did live with a good friend of mine who was a bit of a pain because he was ALWAYS in and so was constantly making mess, but there were three of us living in the house and he would play us off each other.
soak his nightlights with shower spray
Banned the EX housemate from the house
told her how annoying she was then stopped speaking to her, I feel a lot better for it. She left a FLEM cup (she said, I used one of your mugs to spit in) unwashed for 6months! SIX MONTHS! That was sat in the middle of this little eco-system she had established in the kitchen, if it's your roof FINE but not the KITCHEN/Living Room.
I have a tolerance of 2weeks, so I'm not harsh but SIX MONTHS. I think in her six month time living here she did the total in the house.
Washed up maybe 3 times
Never took out the bins
Helped tidy the living room once
Now I say banned from the house? What could that mean, she's moved out? Well she didn't clean up after she moved out, at all, but came back because she had to use our Gas (she didn't realize you had to actually pay for a gas card!!! and spent all her money on alcohol and cigarettes) so had to use our cooker. I said 'if you clean up'... she did clean up, the one plate she used.. NONE OF THE PANS NONE OF THE Dozens of dishes she had left... not the flem cup NOTHING!
The next day she knocked on the door at 7am to ask if she could use our Bath, when I found out about this I told her to fuck off and never step foot in this house again.
WORST HOUSEMATE EVER
a cup of phlegmy spit
Untouched for 6 months.
jesus fuckin christ, i need to go and lie down. god help me if I ever need to share a house with people again.
Haha who was this?
You and Sam are hardly Mr Muscle and Mr Sheen. Though I did used to leave the toilet in quite a state at times, fair game.
call his mum
she raised him so on some level its her fault
^ this is an awesome idea.
Give him warning first though.
shit in the bin
and leave it on his bed
you can thank me later
Nah, too obvious and too easy to get rid of
What you want to do is wait 'til he's out then shit on a plate. Take the plate and the microwave through to his room and microwave it for about 3 hours (or however long he's out), then remove the evidence. He'll never be able to get rid of the stink, but neither will he ever find out where it's coming from, and he'll scrub the whole house trying to get rid of it.
You may have to say goodbye to your microwave though.
Alternatively, buy a sack of ladybirds from some organic farm place and put them in his bed
this disparity between these two suggestions
is astounding :D
Well, there's probably a lot of middle ground to explore
Shave his belly with a rusty razor
Shave his belly with a rusty razor
Shave his belly with a rusty razor
Earl-aye in the morning
HIT HIM IN THE BELLY WITH A HAMMER.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rbiNFbyPV4s
You could give up
And just clean after them. Probably works out less hassle in the long run.
Hi ManBearPig's lazy flatmate.
Ctrl+F "shit in the bin"
Good hustle guys.
i do try
:D
About 3am
kick down his bedroom door and start wailing on him with a snooker ball in a football sock.
missed this. quality.
??
http://www.flickr.com/photos/27812787@N06/6220200412/in/photostream
:D
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yn7o35NcJwo&feature=player_detailpage#t=39s