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Anyone know a case where this has actually worked out? I just read this and got a bit hormonal:
Had my older sister at 19 and me at 20, two more followed.
Basically if I was my Dad I'd be married with two kids now and expecting a third. That is mental to me.
Christians though innit, my little sister got married last year at 20 and has a kid now.
I think my parents met at the age I am now. At the point, my mum was already engaged to someone else, but my dad wooed her away with Kit Kats and a mo-ped.
friend's wedding last week...they're 25 and have been together 10 years.
and thought for a second your parents were 25. :-/
i was created by scientists looking to make a more loving, nurturing male, ready to worship and adore women.
unfortuanately, they also gave me the male pattern baldness gene by mistake, so they left me at the side of the pier, knowing that i could never reach my full love potential with a dome head.
so much love to give, so little women willing to take it.
i think i might have an idea for a comic.
engaged at 18
know quite a few people from my school who met there and are still together/now married 15 odd years later...
think it is to do with how you 'grow up' together really
The T-shirt I gave Adam featured a bear fighting a shark; he gave me earrings shaped like shark teeth (we often have similar ideas). Then we noticed there was a fly buzzing around the room, so Adam started chasing it, doing ninja moves in his underwear.
and i bet instead of wedding rings, they got matching tattoos.
and theyre children are boring so be ware
but, no. My God she's awful. She should have gone to the superior college and improved her writing style instead of just being all RAD.
writing for robots. I've got the robot market sewn up but the writing for animals market, unbelievably, remains untapped.....
Nope. I got nothing. (Did you not think it was a bit sweet? Maybe my hormones are running a bit high).
There was nothing to like about her. I felt sorry for her husband and also sorry for the education that she could have had, had she been less of a feckless fanny.
I'm not feeling hormonal any more.
and then tot op it all off, there's a fucking Doonsbury on the right.
It always feel like I've walked in on a really good anecdote halfway through being told.
I was 23 when I got married; am now 32. (But we weren't childhood sweethearts; met at uni)
just a general thing
I mean, marriage scares me because I'm young (20) but I've been with my current gf for 4 years now and It's just kind of turned out that way - certainly hasn't been smooth sailing that's for sure. Anybody who thinks relationships are easy are just as delusional as those who believe in love.
I think, just to avoid the social stigma, I'd just get married at around 26-27 so when you have children you're not an old fart and you don't get accused of being a boring old twat. I had to house sit for some super-young newly weds (21) and it was the most depressing experience. No music at all (except Now! This is music or some bullocks) or good movies. Shit like 'Good Luck Chuck' and fucking 'Step Brothers'. Fuck me it was an experience. Their walls were sparsely covered with souvenir postcards from their one of trip to Russia and there were photos fucking everywhere. Everywhere I went I saw their ugly married faces.
They seemed happy though - the husband a boring as shit IT man and the wife being.... a boring as shit IT person. Gah, just kills me to think about it.
So yeah marriage eh?
It's a universal experience shared by nearly all the cultures of the world.
You can certainly quibble over the cause and I certainly don't believe it's some mystical powerful force or any of that bollocks but regardless of the chemistry, it's hard to deny that it exists.
Agree with you re: relationships being difficult though
I have to refrain from punching him in the face whenever I remember that.
My dad 33
What has gotten into you? Yesterday talking about cocks over and over again and then tweeting me something about pussys and now THIS. You should ban yourself.
don't be mean
Can someone do a summary?
Get married in early 20s. Have crisis of doubt. Split up and move cross country. Get back together. Enjoy lovely indie lifestyle. Boast of their eternal love. Smirk at those less fortunate.
no one can
it is impossible
humankind is not able to achieve this
are those that grew up in, and want to live the rest of their life in, the same small village.
Fair play to them I suppose, but I can't help thinking that they're missing out on a lot of life experiences and the chance to meet other people.
Yeah, you might be happy now, but how do you know you won't be happier somewhere else? That can apply to anyone at any time, I'm sure, but like you say, childhood sweethearts have never really have the chance for comparisons.
then I guess that question never arises.
The problems occur when the situation changes. I kind of image it to be similar to when Amish adolescents are on Rumspringa.
It's the vast majority, iirc. Though you could argue that after spending your whole life living in one way, the fear and shock of change is just too much to overcome.
You're in a truely bad relationship if you're unable to experience new things. It doesn't matter whether a couple met when they were young or not - the same rules usually apply. Just as lomg as you don't screw around really. Not sure about the small town thing. What 'life experience' are we talking about here?
going to university, living in another city, gaining independence from your parents, meeting new people and forming new friends and relationships, travelling the world, experiencing the thrill of a new crush, the heartbreak of a break-up, that kind of thing.
If you can't do all of those thins in a relationship, you're in te wrong relationship, irrelevant if you're 19 or 40
Couple from my school, went to different unis, worked for a few years at home, just went travelling together for a year, just recently moved to Liverpool and got engaged on their 10 year anniversary. And they're not dicks.
She is fit though, that probably helps.
It's so rare for a relationship to last from such a young age so It's often considered better to avoid rather than persist, seem the general consensus to me.
But yeah it can work. About to head off to Mexico with my gf and I'm only 20 (she is also 20). She is fit also which I agree, helps a lot. She goes out to club etc without me etc. No problem there. I'm a bit more of an introvert and she respects that. Spend most of my time recording. We're going to the same uni also (helps massively). So yeah - luck, just luck.
And I don't mean subjectively fit either.
Whilst I wish you all the very best and hope it works out happily for you, I think the majority of people will change quite a lot during their early -mid 20s. Job opportunities can intervene and career aspirations can mean that tough decisions have to be made- the grass also starts to look so much greener and lusher as you move towards 'settling down' and plots opf people reassess their priorities. Of course, whilst lots of couples diverge and converge at different rates and times, some will manage to be 'on the same page' (i hate that phrase but I can't think of another) for enough of the time together for it to be worth it and for it to work. I hope that's you (assuming that's what you want) because you sound nice. That's not to say that you don't have certain odds stacked against you though.
find that those who get together at school, and who stay together for the rest of their lives, tend to stay in the same place.
I didn't say that it was always the case.
which hardly invalidates my argument.
I've pondered many a time over these issues and It's soul crushing. The whole 'grass is greener' issue is probably one of the worst emotions (asides from guilt) that plague the human condition. I was going to mention Robert Smith actually, since he's one of my musical inspirations (especially Pornography era Cure) and I was pleasantly surprised since most of his lyrics seem to deal with loss and pain, perhaps the pain experienced in long term relationships? And the social stigma of it all.
I understand where you're coming from Pickled that's for sure. So many issues and problems that I'm sure I'll have to deal with once they come. I've already dealt with many problems as it is. And I've brought up the idea of breaking up many an occasion (and have before) but there is something strangely alluring. Don't really want a job though to be honest and I'm doing a useless Arts degree. More concerned about the state of the music industry than relationships in general.
Oh yeah, you must have hobbies! Fucking thank god for hobbies.
Ah to poor ones heart out on a music forum!
and I suspect you'll be fine however this one goes :)
My pout stands though a good relationship is a good relationship whatever your age, I'm happy to accept you are less likely to know yourself enough to stay together if you're young, but my point was the things you listed you should be able to do with someone you love, even if it is difficult.
two of my friends have been together since they were 16 (they're 30 odd now). they dont live in a small town.
And I didn't say anything about sleeping with other people.
Not bothered about slagging around or anything, but I'd definitely wake up when I was 30 if I'd married in my teens, strangle my wife, throw the kids in a skip and go on a crack binge. The thought is truely monstrous. Fair play to those that do it, very jealous.
Kinda makes me wonder where his lyrics* came from.
*when The Cure were good
** Yes, there was a point they were good
*** Go away
How does it feel knowing that you're most likely the reason they survived long enough to still be together now?
My parents would probably be astronauts and cashmoney millionaires if they'd been less impulsive.
I got engaged at 17. We did not stay together. PHEW.
Safety wink? Nah.
Though apparently he's still in love with me. Not altogether surprising.
Clark refriended me yesterday.
And I have been engaged twice.
How's the missus, Brusma?
Where all like oh I'll love you forever, we're totally going to get married. She split up with me when she went off to uni and even then we got back together again. Then a year later we both fell out of love with each other and in love with other people - though at least I was big enough to admit it. She denied even having the slightest feeling for the person I know she wanted. They're married now, go figure.
Now we're both 27 and I think back and we literally could not have developed into two more different people. We would both be so miserable if we were still together
Well that explains a lot.
Lord Byron was renowned for his affairs and dislike for monogamy. Most of us are influenced by the things we read/listen to - it's an obvious influence is all.
Kitchmo is the least like this person that I know.
That sounds cool just the sentence. Well if he is, I apologize. Embarrassing indeed.
Venice-visiting, poetry prize winning, long-distance swimming, woman seducing maverick.
Can't think of anyone round here like that.
*Flexes in the mirror*.
Byron seems an arrogant cunt to be blunt.
*weeps in the mirror*
And again :D
Stop checking out my guns.
It was so obvious that we'd grown to actively and mutually dislike each other's company, and yet she persisted with acting the wounded party. I remember saying breaking up with her, her refuting that we were breaking up, then me saying 'but you don't even like me any more'.
Her response? 'THAT'S NOT THE FUCKING POINT'. In fact, for all I know she still hasn't accepted that we're broken up.
Having listed at naseum all the ways we were moving apart, she phrased it 'are we going to be ok?' in order to force my hand and be 'the bad guy'
...after pointing out all that is massively wrong and how we should stop seeing each other.........
*so what are you trying to say then!?*
she's a year older than me. never went to school together. we're now 29 and 30, not married, no children, just cats. we've lived in 3 different cities together, all across the u.s. (from baltimore to los angeles to seattle). neither of us make a lot of money, we rarely fight, we've each had one episode of infidelity which we were both honest about and forgiven for, and probably would be again if it happened again. all in all we're pretty happy given our circumstances, might get married someday, probably never having kids though.....
we are not religious in any way.
Wish you the best! It's good you're not religious as well AND you're also cats which are so much cooler than dogs.
To both have an episode of infidelity. That is something I would have a massive problem with.
I'm now nearly 26...
i still haven't got a girlfriend by the way.
just saying like. phew.
women eh? god.