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The most annoying thing that anyone can say to you at a wedding?
if they've paid for food and drink etc at the reception, the least you can do is awkwardly shuffle your feet for a few minutes.
Maybe the bride needs to stop being a spoiled brat
...i'm not flailing around knocking drinks and children over.
*sits in the corner with Mac_daddy thinking hes looking cool but is one of the few men to go to the hotel alone and cries into his compimentary tea*
Dancing is the best thing ever.
and someone out on Friday was still taking the piss. Thats how bad I am at dancing. When he was doing how I 'danced' a bunch of girls nearby started pissing themselves laughing.
Even if you look like a twat and make people uncontrollably laugh at you, its about how much fun you're having. Stop caring about what other people think.
I do feel sorry for people who get dragged up to dance at parties when they clearly REALLY don't want to
probably because you are opressed into being paranoid because you think you arn'y good at dancing.
If you could forget everything else and just let yourself go, then you would enjoy it, trust me. Get yourself down to your nearest 'rainbow rhythems'
Could you please sit the rest of the evening out. Thanks.
is like musical chairs. Free bar over is the equivalent of the music stopping and you not having a chair...gutted!!!
People who don't dance at weddings are shits. Wedding receptions are all about people dancing really badly and not giving a shit.
There was no dancing. Everyone just sat around vaguely listening to a string quartet and then shuffled off home. The bride seemed a little disappointed that people were leaving but I don't know what she expected when she had no band, dj or even dance floor.
that was the worst wedding ever
The reception was in a fancy restaurant in the central London, which had been closed for the occasion - must've cost a fortune. Really good food - lovely steak. But no atmosphere at all. They could have saved themselves £20k, had it in a scout hut with fish and chips and it would have been a hell of a lot more fun.
I'd much rather buy a cheaper dress and dispense with the fripperies like horse and carriage, cars and such nonsense, and whack a wodge of money beind the bar so everyone can get trollied and make sure there's a brilliant band.
I just want a big party.
with maybe some Dexy's Midnight Runners
mainly because i love fish and chips :)
when i got married (many MANY moons ago) we had mugs of bovril, pies, fish and chips and slice rolls at 11 so that everyone had the energy to keep on dancing till 3 :D
i think the carb crush would just make me a bit drowsy.
although to be fair, I suspect that most people under the age of 40 were also mainlining Class As :/
i've never taken Class As but yeah, I think I'd probably just be even more enthusiastic towards the fish and chips
At my mate's wedding in Devon the reception was in their garden - no room for a dance floor and no band - just some miserable bloke playing a massive keyboard. He wouldn't even play any Meat Loaf (my mates favourite artist). After the food we went off to the terrible disco at the holiday camp place we were all staying at = much more fun.
She snuck in booze then got rowdy.
Also, a 'dry wedding in manchester?' jokes.
I've seen some incredible sights, that are straight out of My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.
It's not a decent bash unless you've got barely pubescent girls dressed as old tarts bumping and grinding against each other, really.
we just kind-of waited til people reached that tipping point of drunkenness. if they drink, they will dance.
First of all people kept hassling me to play music. I was like @Errr, not only the first dance@ - it's not really the first dance if the dancefloor is already jammed.
Then this aunt came up to us, sozzled on sheery IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII'm the aunt. And the BRIDE's DAD likes this and THE BRIDE'S DAD like's that and THE BRIDE'S DAD won't be happy if you don't do this. All of which I found very confusing as we met the bride's dad who was a truly lovely man and not very imposing at all. Anyway I was like Well, THE BRIDE gave us a list of songs to play which we're sticking to, so NER
That wasn't strictly true - but it was a great defence against drunken relatives.
So many bizarre requests
Leonard Cohen (AT A WEDDING?! was my response)
After they did the bouquet throwing thing we played Single Ladies. YES.
Then at the end there was shit loads of cheese left so we took like a whole thing of it. Must have been about 8 pounds of cheese. And 5 pork pies.
Weddings are fucking epic
ELO would have been amazing.
An Evil Woman? Less so.
My brother in law played I am The Resurrection at my wedding - I don't even lie that song but it sounded like the best 6 minutes of my life that day.
Weddings are fucking brilliant and anyone who doesn't dance at them is a mong.
They were requested during the 'make the old ones dance till they go to bed' slot at the start
I was at one of my best mates weddings years ago back in my home town, they'd unwisely chosen to have the reception in the Town Hall which is a massive theatre-like space.
Anyway, the bride and groom were at the top table overseeing everyone and my rowdy table were taking cigarette breaks every half hour or so cause we were young and carefree and smoked a lot back then. My mate was Best Man and halfway through the night he sheepishly came over to our table and said, "Can you guys stop going out for cigarettes, Melanie (the bride) doesn't like it when you all get up and walk out..."
Needless to say we were outraged and upped the fag intake after that, think we were outside most of the night.
Not sure how I feel about this looking back, guess it's their fault for having their wedding in a fucking huge soulless room. In more intimate surroundings our sneaky fag breaks would have likely gone unnoticed.
I mean, it was her wedding dude.
Please show your working out
The room itself was absolutely enormous, you could fit a bus in the space between the tables. There was no way you could lark about without being spotted by the 'top table', we all felt like we were being watched the whole time which made the desire to misbehave even greater.
Looking back it's quite childish but when you've got a table of pissed up people being asked not to do something the group mentality is going to kick in and we were going to do it more.
that it'd be a bit soul destroying to see people disappear off during the meal, but to ask people not to do so is every bit as rude as the doing it in the first place. far too many brides get their heads stuck up their arses when it come to their weddings- understandably it's an important day for them, but you can't expect other people to take the occasion as seriously as you do.
which would be really noticable, going in dribs and draps would be cooler.
It wasn't really a massive group. No way we would have gone out during the meal or speeches, think this all happened afterwards when people were starting to dance.
I have mixed feelings looking back. There were a few 'events' leading up to the wedding that had pissed off me and some of my table, we were annoyed at the bride and I'm sure this contributed to our bad behaviour.
Basically not being able to enjoy yourself, and getting told off.
Bloody love weddings though.
Outrageous. I think I'd have been tempted to leave if somebody had spoken to me like that after I'd made the effort to go to their wedding, buy a gift, get an outfit, etc etc.
also, I think this trhead needs more meths. Where is the tyke?
most peoples idea of 'romantic' and 'fun' makes me want to fucking die.
And I have never seen a wedding dress that doesn't look completely hideous, not one.
are straight couples allowed civil partnerships yet?
It's up to you whether you have teh party to go with it- it's not cumpulsory. You sound like the kind of killjoy whose wedding wouldn't be very well attended anyway, so everybody wins, hey?
I know there was a couple who filed for one that I read about in the news a while back, never heard if it was approved or not though.
And I know, but the lame expensive party is expected of you when you et married, but I really don't get what's fun about having all your friends and family (who probably don't even get along) all wear suits and go along to some town hall somewhere and pretend to enjoy eachothers company.
But I don't see the point in getting married in the first place anyway, why do you need some ceremony to tell your partner ou love them?
One couple wanted to play 'angels' by Robie williams at their civil ceremony and the registrar wouldn't allow it (which surely is a bit pish, although it spared that terrible song getting played, I guess.)
I agree with you on your last point to a degree- I guess for some people it's extra security that they crave. for others, it's a celebration of your coupledom. It's certainly not necessary, but for some people it's a nice thing to do.
You get the choice between religious vowes or non-religious ones (my grandmother used to be a registrar), and a 'wedding' is still considered a religious thing, did you read that story in some redtop accompanied by the phrase 'ITS PC GONE MAD' by any chance?
And the parties all just seem very fake and dull, and I'm sure everyone involved would have much more fun doing their usual friday night thing, as opposed to something they'd never ever choose to do outside of it being a wedding.
Not the majority crowd of over 30's and family who generally enjoy weddings. Not saying all over 30's love weddings by the way, just can imagine it becomes a bit more of an 'event' to look forward to.
or getting all soppy about something that's supposed to be 'romantic' and such.
I'm sure there are exceptions and some weddings are great, but on the whole they just seem like an awful boring and mostly negative experience.
a) big parties
b) rooms full of people
c) people you don't know
well gee, sport, i see why weddings might not float your boat
I just don't se how a big ugly white dress and saying some boring pre-written and cliched vowes in front of a room/church full of people is 'romantic'.
and the food wasn't very good either and the faux-'classiness' of the whole ordeal was cringeworthy.
but rather the couple getting married?
for my chums to do the usual Friday night shenanigans but in smart dress and in a country club instead of Shoreditch/City/Barnet/etc
out of interest.
it's a special occasion and I think (most) folk like getting their glad rags on and having a bop.
Your kilt and invite are in the post ;)
mental I know
as opposed to with people you do know/like?
rather than just sticking a pin in a phonebook and sending them an invite.
are you saying you know and like everyone that your friends know and like?
Its about celebrating YOUR love with YOUR friends.
why force a load of people to pretend to be all nice and as if they're having the time of their lives just because YOU want YOUR day to be 'extra special', do people have so little going on in their lives that they need to prove to all their friends how much they love their partner by blowing an obscene amount of money on some contrived ceremony and party, instead of you know, just getting on with their lives with their partners.
it might be that you didn't like the other people at this wedding because you are a weird social maladjust </ad-hominem>
you don't find any of them annoying orintolerable?
coming up dry, tbh.
there's people i've not known there and not spoken to, but that's ok because generally i've had enough friends/family AND lovely new people to be introduced to, to last more than an afternoon/evening.
maybe this is because generally at weddings i've found people are happy, and behave well towards each other. maybe i've just been to good weddings, or only met good people. maybe people are easier to get on with at weddings, or maybe i just don't go into them thinking "THIS IS THE WORST THING EVER BECAUSE OF ALL THESE IDEAS IN MY MIND THAT HAVE NEVER BEEN TESTED IN THE REAL WORLD", idk.
I feel quite sorry for you and dread to think what kind of misery you must have suffered in your short life to be quite so joyless. And yes, I know that this is also patronising to you, but for as long as you continue to whine like Kevin the teenager, I'll continue to address you as such.
Maybe I just don't buy into the same ideas of what's 'fun' or 'romantic' as you seem to.
I just see little enjoyment to be taken from attending a wedding, the majourity of people in this world seem to be really dull, and being stuck in some place with a load of them and being forced to get along with them in fear of upsetting whoever's wedding it is and ruining their 'special day' just isn't my idea of fun. The same goes for having a wedding myself, why would I want to inflict that on people? It all also seems a bit attention seeking, 'oh, look at me, I'm happy and in a relationship and for the whole day you have to come watch me prove how happy and in love I am with a ceremony and a party', why doe people feel the need? Is it insecurity? Are they convincing other people or themselves of how happy they are? Surely if they were happy and in love they'd be content with just that, instead of having to try and prove it to everyone.
And how people can find weddings at all romantic is beyond me, hell the bride is still 'given away' by her dad to her husband, how people with even half a brain find that romantic and not just offensive is completely beyond me.
Being romantic is doing something new and exciting and nice that you know your partner will enjoy and be pleased with, not just doing something because for whatever reason it's the 'done thing'.
But if people are simple enough to be happy with something like that, then let them I suppose, just as long as I don't have to be dragged in to it too often, I'm gonna stop now because this post has become a poorly written rambling rant now.
...you'll fit right in on internet forums.
Maybe I just have a bit more going on in my life that I don't have to look to contrived rubbish for enjoyment, I don't like Micheal Mccintyre either, I must be some kind misanthropist mustn't I?
it'll probably come back now I'm posting this one.
(sorry, I know, YAWN).
In short, there must be no religious or spiritual references in any reading or music performed at a civil ceremony. the vows must be entirely secular or else the registrar will not perform the marriage.
I don't read red tops thanks, but I do read.
Because my gran definitely said you could choose the religious vowes or the non-religious ones, and I see no reason why she'd lie about it.
read the bit on the government's own webiste about civil ceremonies and stop arguing with somebody who actually knows what they're taliking about
I was just asking if it was a new rule or not, as you say, you're obviously the one who knows what you're talking about, and I'm sure my grandmother who's job it was knew nothing about what she was doing at all.
because she's talking pish.
she's dead now, but I can assure you she was perfectly sane.
but I can only imagine that you've picked up something that she has said in the wrong way. The rules actually used to be much stricter and they were eased slightly in 2005 to give registrar's more discretion when deciding what to vet, based on context, which remains teh current position (although most remain fairly strict on the matter).
Judging by your posts in this thread you're going to die friendless and alone being eaten by the cats you thought were your only companions
I was pleased to report that from 7pm until 1am, there were never less than 15-20 people on the dancefloor at any one point.
Well, except for M.O.P.'s 'Ante up'...
I just get hammered. Those who don't dance are losers, imho, they can piss off. i like to dance, drunk, like a motherfucker. and i am wearing a kilt, so that get's a lot of attention.
anyway, yeah. fuck the haters.
i think the worst thing at a wedding is the waiting - the bit between the ceremony and the actual meal is excuriating. when they go and get their photos? fuck off. if you are not involved in that bit, you should bring a carry out along for the ride. christ.
I now know they were signing the wedding certificates.
But us plebs had no idea. Was sitting in an uncomfortable pew for half an hour thinking what the fuck is going on I just want to get fucked
Turned out alright though as it was Ramadan so my mate El couldn't eat or drink so I had his bottle of wine and most of his dinner
As his name was Anthony.
That and the fact he was absolutely nothing like Swiss Toni.
See also: my mate Andrew we nicknamed Butch. because he wasn't
but instead of sitting about like left-pricks four nigerian woman sang some made up song about god and how big a hard on he has for humans.
Me and my mates (Including the groom who revoked his faith) went to a Catholic school and the ceremony was Anglican.
My best mate is a vicar's son so I've had more exposure to it than the others - but their faces when everyone 'carried on' during Our Father was quite the picture, accompanied by many a whispered 'what the fuck is going on?!'
We had to say it in assembly every morning, and the Catholic kids would refuse to join in.
N.B. I was completely raised (and still am) atheist, but the school refused to let me and my brobro off assembly. SO UNFAIR when the Muslim/Jewish kids got to sit outside the assembly hall on little plastic chairs on their own :(
playing on repeat at mine. I'll wait till it stops being funny and fuck off to the pub. As long as I have a good time, thats the main thing.
Father Stack...I bet he smoked with cigarettes.
I've got one this weekend and I'm very excited about it.
I've only been to two weddings. One where I was a bridesmaid and one where I was just a guest. It was a well good one with loads of free booze and loads of food and dancing was happening.
and anyone who's not on the dancefloor for "Sherriff Fatman" is getting crossbowed.
My cousin is getting married this Friday and I've got to do a reading at the ceremony, bah.
Also, the wedding has caused a massive stink because his parents didn't contribute to the costs so haven't got their names on the invitations. They promised cash before but they sometimes don't fulfil their promises so he couldn't take the risk and end up stumping up what they didn't.
This is obviously the biggest embarrassment possible and has caused my poor cousin nothing but pain. He was handed an envelope of cash after the invitations went out and he asked, "Is this for the wedding? I can get your names added if it is?" The reply was, "No, this is a gift, we'll just be guests at your wedding..."
I thought that it was usually the brides parents on the invites anyway?
I do now... a bit.
Basically if his parents had contributed a sum then they'd be on the invites too, so it'd be "[Both Sets Of Parents] invite you..." This is what happened at my sisters wedding.
Nowadays though, many coupkles will pay for their own weddings, or perhaps both parents will make a contribution, and so you sometimes see both sets of parents, sometimes the invitation is in the name of the bride and groom.
It's all fairly menaingless nonsense, but for some reason it's the sort of thing that makes older relatives all fall out with each other.
cause there is no reason why one side could afford to pay what the other side pays. IDK, I think if I were ever to get married, my parents would maybe bring a bottle, and that would be it.
my fiancee agrees on principle but still likes the idea of a 'big wedding'
But what irks me the most about modern day weddings is the sense of expectation heaped on you, the attendee, some people have. I was well aware that not everybody is flush or wanting to spend what precious little holiday they have attending our bash, so we kept it small and intimate. This is also because it's cheaper and I'm a tight ass.
But increasingly weddings and stag dos are huge events, in the middle of nowhere at lodges you have to stay at for a mere £170 a night or on a Tuesday. A fucking Tuesday, meaning you'll require 2 or 3 days off work to go along.
I love just about every one I've been to mind and a good wedding is one of the best things ever. I just don't think it's fair to expect people to be able to fork out heavily for it, financially or time wise.
Someone I know is off to a 5 day affair this year.
There just isn't any need for that, is there? Even Kate Moss' festival wedding is only 3 days long...
My mate is getting married next year, and the reception is going to be in his local village hall in Oxfordshire. They're making the decorations themselves and there'll be a makeshift bar.
I bet it'll be fucking brilliant.
A lot of my friends from uni are pretty minted. Kinda dreading what they come up with. Thankfully a couple of the most opulent aren't the marrying kind
It shows so little respect for the guests that you expect them to spend £500 on hotels, mega-stags, big gifts, travel expenses. As a point of principle, I don't generally buy wedding gifts. If me and Mrs me ever decide to get hitched, I will be repaying everyone by not sending them a list, and not asking for anything.
I have been to some absolutely brilliant, no free bar, only a buffet, travel by public transport weddings, and I have been to some (one in particular) absolutely shit, mega-expensive, in the grounds of a stately home weddings.
And Marquees. What is the deal with them - basically, you hire a posh house and stick a tent in the garden, in which you could be anywhere. If you are hellbent on being in a big white tent, you might as well pitch it in a bog in Luton, as it will be exactly the same on the inside.
I've got friends coming down from Scotland, one of which is a bridesmaid. She's organised me a hen doo for up there which seems to be taking on new levels of elaborateness and I'm guilt-freaking about how much my friends will have to fork out for the hen, travel, hotel and gift. I've actually told a couple of them to not bother contributing to teh gift list, only to be met with a chorus of "but we WANT to".
In which case, fine, but I do feel pretty bad when I tot up roughly what the whole thing will cost my Scottish friends without contributing to a gift :/
We reckon if we do it, we will provide a short list for family, and not one at all for friends. That'll stop them.
We said 'NO GIFTS', and we still got about £1000 worth of John Lewis vouchers.
Not that I'm complaining mind, it was rather touching they all did that and sorted it out amongst themselves. I think it's just that people will often feel like they want to donate, be it out of love or a sense of expectancy.
having stone cold dissed them at their weddings.
I dont care about forking out a few hundred for my 15 - 20 good friends over the next 6 - 7 years each time. The problem is when some tool who youre working with decides to have his stag in Las Vegas, Wedding in the Carribean and spreads it over a week guilt tripping you into going with him.
I'm having a wedding party at the end of this year, in the afternoon, in a pub. Probably won't even have a stag do.
That's pretty much what I did. And it was the best thing ever.
If you need me to DJ by the way or you want to see a KILLER playlist, drop me a line...
You should have a DiS Stag do. By that, I mean a game of football with some beers after.
Friday's are fine. Tuesdays however ARE NOT.
Plus, being brutal, some people can get away with overseas or midweek weddings because they're pretty awesome people. Others, just because they are spending £2000 on a dress? Less so...
Our stag do ( we did a joint one as we have 90% mutual friends) was a pub crawl by the river. It was fucking brilliant.
A friend of mine has put the feelers out to our group of friends about going to Miami for 3 days next year for his stag do.
MIAMI. I'm basically looking at £1,000 to cover the 3 days. Maybe more. Trouble is, everyone else has gone "BRILLIANT! Count me in!". I can't not go and I'd feel like a prize tool telling him that's it's too expensive for me. I could justify spending that amount for a 2 week holiday, but for 3 days!
Massive guilt pangs. I'm feeling like the spoil sport and he's one of my best mates, but it's lot to ask of someone. Especially when you don't get paid as much as your lawyer and charter surveyor friends.
What should I do?
It's fucking ridiculous. Just shows ignoroance and arrogance expecting people to stump up that sort of money for them. Just tell them, thanks, but can't afford it, have a great time. If they are any kind of a mate they will feel absolutely terrible.
Even if my best mate was getting married and she suddenly decided to have her hen ON ANOTHER CONTINENT I'd have to decline as I just don't have that kind of cash to throw about.
Surely your chum would understand and if there's any lasting damage shoudl you decline - well, silly him.
I'm simply going to say 'Sorry it's too expensive and I can't come'
I can't even afford to take my missus on holiday to Europe - no way I'm going on a stag do to Miami
that you don't earn as much as the others and simply won't be able to afford that. Maybe some of the wealthier lot will chip in a bit more to subsidise? I've had to offer to do this at hen parties befroe, because I couldn't in all conscience stomach the fact that some friends who were poor stuidents were being made to fork out the same as everybody else for a trip to sodding bristol.
but I certainly earned more than my friends who were students and had part-time jobs in shops.
I'd sack it off. As soon as you do it, other people will and he may reconsider this extravagant 3 day stag and jsut go to brighton instead.
A few years ago my mate and his wife got married in New Zealand on January 4th. I was playing in a band with him at the time in Edinburgh and had pretty much introduced him to his wife but I simply could not bring myself to stump up all that cash not to mention the personal time (I would have likely have had to miss Xmas) to go all the way across the world for a wedding.
I wasn't very popular but stuck by my guns.
I'll let you know how it goes when I see him on Wednesday.
the DJ needs to up their game. It's not rocket science. No need to drag non-dancers up against their will.
Also, largely on-side with StormJH, but cba to get involved beyond that, cos I said my piece in the recent identi-thread. And the majority of the population seem to get strangely miffed by the weddings-aren't-for-me-ta types. If you wanna invite me along to your big day though, that's cool, imma getting my sweat on just as soon as the DJ pulls their finger out and plays Crazy In Love. After that, Gino pls. Here we, here we, here we fuckin go.
and have lots of scottish relatives, and have a ceilidh. weddings with ceilidhs >>>>>>>>>> weddings with 'disco's'
with enough people knowing what they're doing though. My Grad Ball's ceilidh sucked because it was full of posh southerners being ironic.
and learned to do the gay gordons in PE *snigger*
it's literally impossible to not look good dancing whilst wearing a suit. You will always look like a badass
i hate having to get dressed up.
if i ever have to have a wedding, i'd book the grand ole oprey in glasgow and wear shorts.
that sounds fucking amazing.