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Mine is people tend to find me a bit cold sometimes. Not in a temperature sense, in an emotional sense.
people get the wrong impression of me a lot, for sure.
probably my face.
my great, massive, fuck-off head.
not really, im quite well built. my heads just well big
Mine is that I am unfeasibly lazy.
born of not being able to relate to the affectacious artificiality of the current society mores, this is a problem as this means i dont engage properly with the day to day workings and mechanisms of society
people can't handle it.
i just hate small talk and filling in gaps of silence with word for the sake of it, which when you really break it down constitutes a good 65% of all conversation.
people often confuse my resistance of this as being shy or awkward or rude but it's not, i just don't see why i should go through the tedious social etiquette of small talk when it's obvious neither of us care.
but unfortunately i think it's a necessary chore in connecting with new people, so i need to find a way to do it without getting depressed.
and realise that you are just being arrogant and obnoxious.
you just do it to avoid awkward silences. i don't dislike people who try to make small talk with me, i know why they're doing it, i just personally can't be bothered. don't really see how that makes me arrogant and obnoxious, especially since i know i need to make the effort in certain situations (eg parties, if i ever went to parties)
I can only half ass it at best because I wonder if I'm just boring the other person because they dislike smalltalk too, and I don't genuinely care for their response most of the time, I only do it as a formality. I know that in order for small talk to be effective in meeting new people you have to actually want to do it, but it's bloody hard. It's probably because I don't do enough interesting things. I'm sure if I did I wouldn't mind small talk because then I'd actually have something to say when someone asks 'what's up?'
because the answer has to be short, but not too short, and it can't be too heavy or depressing. i can hardly ever sum up my current emotional state in a neat lightweight paragraph.
one thing you can do is be brutally honest in a comical way (eg "well i'm unemployed and my cat died, but i got a drawer full of activia coupons so it's not all bad") and some people really like that, but then some people really don't. you need a thick skin to carry that out all the time.
I don't know to answer it. Do people even expect an answer?
EITHER SAY 'HOW ARE YOU?' OR JUST 'HI'.
or 'wattaaaaaap', if you're feeling feisty.
'not much' and then a retaliatory 'sup'. fuck that shit.
but then I always get the feeling they're thinking "Why is he even answering that? IT'S JUST A MEANINGLESS GREETING."
I think this is the point. It's unfair to leave it to everyone else because you can't be bothered. You owe it to other people not to make them feel uncomfortable around you, especially if you are forced upon them. It isn't just a way of avoiding awkward silences, it is the first step towards building a relationship with someone; making them feel comfortable around you; letting people know that you have no hostility towards them.
I know it's a pain, but you said it yourself 'I just personally can't be bothered". This can so easily be interpreted as arrogant and self indulgent.
Honestly, it is just a case of needing to grow up a bit.
that one is unique in their awkwardness/aloofness when it comes to this sort of thing. Most people are like this, they just eventually learn to get over it.
i'm not obligated to engage in trivial conversation, fuck that.
and it's only actually useful around people you don't really know yet. my family members still try to have small talk with me because there's often just nothing else to say.
or what about bumping into an old friend that you don't really care for anymore, is it constructive to engage in small talk then, when it's obvious you both just want to get away?
while i agree it's useful in building new relationships, i'm absolutely not buying that i HAVE to take part in it or i'm selfish.
Happy birthday though! :)
but I think I still manage to come across as being reasonably warm and friendly.
Ironically I'm a lot more talkative on the internet or in texts but probably come across much more dickish and cold.
recently i've become less and less able to bother with it, while still finding silence supremely awkward. so i still kinda *try* to fill up silences, but i'm pretty sure that now it just always comes across as bored sarcasm instead of interest or friendliness
does that count as a character trait? it's a social disease whatever it is
I find it hard to trust anyone
also a complete space cadet
I couldn't pick the worst one. (indecisive is one of them)
Also, too sexy.
nah real talks, I think way too much, which leads to overanalysis and a fair amount of needless panic.
That's the only thing though.
Who couldn't though, right?
i am a pretty big deal though
Dunno why. Its nothing I can help and it comes and goes. Its usually always linked to tiredness. Like I still haven't got into my new work hours which means I have to get up at 6am and I get home at 7pm, so I'm noticeably more emotional than I normally would be. I'm incredibly lucky that I have good people to tell me to shut up and stop being an idiot.
in the find it hard to communicate with people and would prefer some quiet time sense. But that's going with age i think.
so they think I'm a bit of a grumpy cunt, which to be fair I probably am. Most people tend to get on my tits a bit anyway. Other than that I like to think I'm ok-ish.
get to fuck
It's weird because I'm actually a good listener and I'm not looking to take over the conversation. More often than not I'll ask a question when it's my 'turn' to speak to encourage the other person to say more about a subject.
It's only been the last year or two that I've noticed it. It's not every conversation that I do it and no-one mentions it but I really notice and hate it.
me: so i was waiting at the bus stop for an hour then all of a sudden 3
you: buses come at once!
me: yeah. and i don't want to have to walk because it's a really l-
you: long way, yeah.
hate these people more than anything. it just gives off the impression that you're so impatient and distracted that you can't just shut your mouth hole for 10 seconds and listen.
but now I'm perfect.
It's bloody hard not to do the things you often dislike in other people.
addictive personality too
i dont think im a horrible or unkind person though, i would hate to be like that.
sometimes i'll stop mid-sentence because i've forgotton what im talking about, i have to ask the same questions over and over again because i forget the answers and i just generally forget everything all the time.
also bit of a space cadet, according to my siblings
you seem to have listed my traits too....but im puzzled by one thing....what is a 'space cadet'?
Or professional if I'm feeling fancy.
Otherwise you've pretty much nailed me note for note. It kinda frustrates me when I go off on a tangent mid conversation, and then can't remember what my original point was. That and I'm awful at remembering names.
And I guess by space cadet you mean you zone out mid-conversation, and often reply with 'sorry, what?'.
This is an uplifting thread.
That sounds exactly like my workmate. The fact you both have exactly the same symptoms leads me to believe you have some sort of disorder. Sort it out.
we can name the disorder after him
That shit should be used sparingly but I'm just too darn rash for my own good.
"lovely but difficult"
"flighty and unreliable"
this from both
and this from the most recent one
"because of the way you are there maybe isn't someone out there for you"
- believing my opinion to be fact. i'm stopping this.
- trying to fix every problem (physical or emotional) i have given to me. i do this because of my job. this is hard to control.
- too quick to like someone.
Probably talk too much, lie quite often. Oh dear.
I guess it's ok to be a bit full of yourself?
Similarly, if you're really interesting, it's ok to talk a lot?