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how many times has this been done?
left his fiancee on an island when they went traveling together
He probably had it planned since day one after she knocked into him in a bar causing him to spill his WKD.
It was a distance thing so seemed practical.
Only happened the once though, I'm not too good at ending things, I just tend to not put any effort into a relationship until I get dumped.*
*This hasn't happened in ages as I've been in stable relationships and might have grown up. :s
I don't regret ending the relationship but she probably deserved more than that
the worst way was probably not that serious of a relationship, i was young.. we held hands up town and kissed up the Derrys walls. That was the height of a romance. But i got my mate to ring him to tell him i didnt want to 'go with him' anymore because he had no personality.
The more serious of break ups - we were just about to sign for a house. I ended the relationship on a Wednesday, Ended my Job on a Thursday and packed my stuff and moved to Belfast on the Friday. ^ Pretty difficult break up. He was in bits about it :( we are mates now though.
and so when I moved to a new town after uni I just sort of stopped answering calls (it had only been a three week relationship and seriously this girl was balls annoying, psychotically so).
Anyway, about a year later, I accidentally texted her number instead of my friend Jan's while undertaking a pub quiz, and therefore the first correspondence she had from me since my dissappearance was:
"who won ashes in 96? I NEED TO KNOW!".
She texted back.
"If I ever see you again, I'll kill you."
but I have to say, cheating in a pub quiz makes you worse than Hitler.
... so they had the last laugh.
or i'm remembering the year wrong...
probably the second one.
met her in tears having found out her gran had died. Emergency re-plan, resulted in spending an obligatory night biting my tongue staring at the wall over her shoulder as she sobbed into mine. Went home the next morning, decided I couldn't keep stringing it out as we were only a month or two in and I certainly didn't want to deal with funerals and shit, so met up with her that afternoon for a 5 minute "sorry for the timing, but er, yeah, bye" chat
Felt harsh but necessary
While they were at work! LOL!
and getting my friend to go and give it to him. I kissed his best friend. Whoops!
My first serious boyfriend of 3 years dumped me on the phone on a Sunday morning. Completely out of the blue! Then started going out with someone else the next week.
once by text, what a coward! Haha
I have been dumped by email before. Work email as well. I bet that was delightful for the IT guys to read.
Mine are JUICY.
My mate of mine started flirting with a girl he knew from work via social networking sites (mainly Myspace) until she eventually decided to dump her boyfriend (of four years) in favour of him.
There was a short month of heavy petting and adult play, all hidden from people at work to avoid awkwardness.
At the end of the month, he broke up with her. By Myspace message. In their office, he sits in a desk opposite her. I imagine that wasn't awkward at all.
I didn't break up with her badly (texting her or anything) - we just had a conversation where it was like, well, we're going to different universities, it would be long distance, maybe this is a good time to just say we'll be friends... but apparently she was a mental and loved me and thought we were going to be together FOREVER. Led her to utter the immortal line: 'Are you saying we only have... the summer?'
But yeah, on a day all our mates were going out getting pissed and celebrating, she was in tears and I felt like the biggest cunt in the world.
at least you havn't had any mental ex's turn up at your flat with a large knife and a hammer hidden in their jacket.
Probably not your type though, as my ex...
was a man...
DUN DUN DDDDDDUUUUUN!
In my defence, I'd tried to break up with him over the phone several times and he wasn't taking it. I lived in oxford at the time and he was in scotland. I was i uni and he was at school. (I was 19, he was 16). It was't in any way a serious relationship, although I had taken his virginity, so I guess it maybe had some signifcance for him.
Anyway, I don't really want to tell this now, so in short- I snogged somebody else on TV and when the putative ex-bf tuned in with some friends to watch the show, knowing I'd be on it, he saw me kissing this other guy. IN FRONT OF ALL OF HIS FRIENDS. AT HOCKEY CAMP. It was awful. I don't even remember kissing the guy, never mind doing so on camera.
I've never done anything so hateful since, and still feel awful about it.
Did you kiss Dennis Pennis??
Did you keep it along with his one good record and that jumper that was so warm?
and now my head is filled with imagery and there are tears from wincing in my eyes.
The phrasing was too good...
She's charming and very beautiful. Her features don't look so goofy in real life.
The type that goes on to the ross-from-friends-laminated-card.
Oh no wait, that was Phil Collins.
Not really the kinda thing most DiSers would be into, but I'm proud of what we achieved in our time together.
Never got to go on tour with Phil Collins though :(
Im bored at work
If you're just seeing someone is it still splitting up? I've never dumped an actual girlfriend.
I was trying to meet them so I could do it in person but they were basically refusing because "You're going to split up with me" (she was perceptive). After about an hour of cylical discussion I lost my temper and did it quite cack handedly over the phone. It was for the best.
There was also the standard "simply stop talking to them" phase when I was about 22. Such a coward
we'd been seeing each other for a few months, with me driving down to London to see her. I was kind of feeling uncomfortable where the relationship was going and wasn't that into her, so I just didn't turn up.
I heard through mutual friends that she was really, really upset. Turns out her last serious boyfriend had 'just not turned up' once because he'd died in a car accident.
Over 12 years ago and I still feel quite ashamed
Presuming that she'd encountered men before, I thought the message was clear. It wasn't. Next time I saw her, totally by accident, I had to actually do the deed. Was pretty annoyed, tbh.
I ended a burgeoning thing via a facebook message once. I had done something I shouldn't have, and felt so guilty that I had to come clean IMMMMEDIATELY. Why didn't I make a phone call? Because I'm a huge coward. She totally schooled me on it too: proper lucid explanation why, although what I was saying was understandable, it was absolutely not a cool way to do things. Massive respect for her, and I will never do it again.
at a house party, when we were both really drunk. She cried a lot and had to go home. I felt pretty bad.
Welcome to Dumpsville. Population: you
We weren't really 'going out' though, simply 'seeing' each other.
He's probably still gonna kill himself when he discovers I'm going out with someone now.
I've only done this once.
was over the phone on my last ever day of school, just after i'd found out my grandmother had terminal cancer. As if that wasn't bad enough he justified it by saying we were never going out, even though he'd introduced me to his parents and friends (and his grandmother when i helped him help her move house) as his girlfriend. I didn't even like him that much anyway. How humiliating.
by writing about how i wanted to dump them and ballsing up the filters so only she could see it, instead of everyone but her.
I went to sleep, woke up the next morning to a text that said "well you can FUCK OFF then"
so everyone should try it?
Not once, not twice ..... but thrice! same girl n'all. I dont learn my lessons
only for her to put her father on the line to try and convince me not too. not so much the cruellest way i've dumped someone as the cruellest way i've been counter dumped.
anyway, here's a lesson from a master:
dumped me by text. Apparently I was 'too clingy'. Mind you, I think I saw him in town recently, and he was hippo-sized, so maybe I won in the end.
I think I decided to end that one, (although it was all very muddled), then I ran off with a mate of his and fell completely off the rails.
Thanks for asking.
we went out for dinner, then the cinema, and then i broke and put her on a 3 hour train ride home. i offered to pay for the ticket.
Worst thing anyone's done to me was deciding she wanted to get back together with me two months after the break-up, just as I was getting comfortable with just being friends again, then deciding she actually didn't want to get back together just after I'd agreed to get back together with her. That was very frustrating.
Yet still slightly funnier and less sentimental than the week I got it confused with Scrubs.
though my uni boyfriend dumped in quite an amusing way. We had been together for a year - but were more like best mates then a couple, anyway I finished uni a year before he did as he failed his fianl year, and so I started working and of course the work hours v uni life were completely different and we never saw each other. anyway the inevitable chat happened one Saturday and we decided to have a week to think about whether we would continue the realtionship or break up. That Tuesday I got a call from his best mate asking if I was okay and he was there is I needed to talk. I asked what he was referring to and he had said my ex was telling everyone we had broken up. So I called him asking when this happened to which he responded 'Oh I just thought it would be best to just break up' it would have been nice to have let me know instead of being informed by his mate. Though I did start laughing. Best break up ever.
then ran off.
[NB I was 37 years old at the time]
Occasionally it's good to act like you're in a primetime BBC sitcom.
I felt terrible about it (especially cos she seemed absolutely distraught), but I knew I wouldn't be able to leave it hanging in my mind for a reasonable time after her big day. Easily the most difficult thing I've ever done.
She doesn't talk to me any more, cos she thought I'd been ignoring her after the break-up. This is only half true.