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Or if you're planning on getting married, what's it to be?
I think I'd like to dance to Come Here by Kath Bloom, maybe.
When's it due? Boy or girl, or do you not want to know?
I'm not getting married
but we didn't do a proper first dance, we were talking to people and stuff. But that was the first song where we were both able to go and dance.
(Last song of the evening was Killing in the Name.)
They didn't know about the glass, obviously. I think bamos broke his toe and olegrich's trousers got ripped.
was arriving to see two 8-year-old boys in kilts standing on a table and doing air guitar to The Boys Are Back In Town.
I later found out that it was actually written about the guy's brother. but hey.
Is it embarrassing dancing with everyone watching?
we were the centre of attention the whole day, i guess, so by that point in proceedings i was used to it.
i've heard of people taking dance lessons for their first dance. adam to learn some sam rockwell moves?
like Ross and Monica from Friends.
My friends danced to The Darkness and kind of jumped up and down a bit, it was alright. I think it's easier to shuffle through a nice dance and keep your head down.
I'd probably chose something Motown to dance to. I wouldn't want a pop song or a recent song anyway.
and being with someone who has an equally insane but wildly different music taste, is that I suspect that when the time comes, it's going to take some serious haggling, and possibly even some kind of panel debate to decide on a song. Hmm.
We just shuffled about a bit to it but it was fab.
at my cousin's wedding in summer, her friends are some drama school lovies who were in casualty together or something. Anyway, they got up and sang Come What May from Moulin Rouge whilst my cousin and her hubby danced. It was really theatrical and high pitched and the most embarrassing thing ever.
My wife suffers from fibro myalgia and rheumatoid arthritis. She was determined to get through the ceremony without her walking stick or the use of a chair. She managed it but by the time the reception came round there was no chance of her being able to dance. She's always said we'll have one if she ever goes into remission with the new medication, but wanted something shit like Aerosmith, which I vetoed straightaway. Unfortunately we don't always see eye to eye when it comes to music.
when do get to have your first dance. I hope it's soon :)
Stupid auto-immune diseases.
they've been together over 40 years. so yeah, there's no need for a big service or anything.
bammers are you planning to have Do It Like A Dude as your first dance?
but I'd probably choose You Are A Runner by Wolf Parade. Or something by Westlife.
Think my brother's was a Shayne Ward song. Fucking hell.
I think if I ever got married I'd like it to be a bit of a secret, I'd have a big party afterwards at some point but I don't think I'd even say what it was for until everyone arrived. I don't like the idea of all eyes on me for a day or being the only ones on the dance floor. It's like a night out gone wrong.
I don't really fit in with traditional weddings. Luckily my girlfriend is totally aware of this.
That's my goal.
thats how it should be done. proper dancing to proper music.
i made a decision right there that that was how it should be done.
I'd like to dance to this :)
I'm such an old lady. I went to a xmas party in an old cinema in London once and this film was playing all night in the background, I was so excited!
wear a chelsea shirt and play that Dion Dublin musical instrument. Yep Blue Dan Dube.
What a wonderful morning.
my mum, and we didnt have any official first dance or anything formal, the first dance where we danced together at the wedding was probably 'Love Cats' by the cure or 'Virginia Plain' Roxy Music or 'Sound and Vision' Bowie....probably
or Aerosmith - I dont want to miss a thing ;)
is so perfect
I mean, I don't think the song choice would have to be super-literal, but wouldn't it feel a bit odd shuffling round the dancefloor to "I look to you and I see nothing" on your wedding day?
Birdhouse in your soul (we think).
Fuck knows how we're gonna dance to it though. It's very important that no one watches us.
firstdance r gay
Are you going to pogo?
That sounds brilliant! I can't imagine the dance moves involved.
(well, she has: nothing to do with me is it?)
Got 'for what is chatteris' by Half man half biscuit for the signing of the register.
If only you could unsee things.
We only practice danced once, the day before. Its actually not very danceable AT ALL.
it went down pretty well.
they had "fire in my heart" by sfa, which was lovely.
And one of the readings was most of the second half of this song. I think it's lovely lyrically and musically and would make a smashing first song.
My wife is a massive fan - nice appropriate lyrics though, and not slow so none of the fumbling, uncomfortable stumbling around
First Day of My Life by Bright Eyes (although apparently Pete Wentz and Ashley Simpson did this, so maybe not).
Hysteric by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs.
Our Little Corner of the World by Yo La Tengo.
I'm not alliiwed to sing anymore. Just DIY.
We weren't going to do one and then got forced, spur of the moment and that was all I could think of... Or renegade master.
Ur band r so cool!
(I actually quite like Fall Out Boy).
Purple Bottle is a contender...
But not sure we can dance to it!
I know most people go with 'Suicide Note Parts 1 and 2' but that's just the way we are.
wwwwwrrraaaaaaaaaggggggghhhhhh *dun dun dun dun dunnnn dun dun dun dun dunnnnn*
we just had afternoon dinner/little party thing
Gorkys were the soundtrack to that though
Congratulations to you and Boobs!
Actually, the whole idea of a wedding where I stand up in front of everyone and recite vows and give a speech later terrifies me.
Shotgun wedding in Vegas or nothing, I think.
Charlie from Busted in rolling in his grave.
like clair de lune by debussy or something. but it's like 5 mins long so realistically something much shorter.
'I Don't Want To Miss A Thing' and 'Sweet Child Of Mine' respectively.
The one I was best man at, they had 'More Than Words' by Extreme. I think his missus chose it.
My mate James didn't have a dance at his wedding reception; there was just some old fart on a massive keyboard who didn't take any requests. I know he would have wanted something by Meat Loaf though.
I've never had to think about this, but if I ever get married - If I could, I'd probably pick something tasteful, something artistic, laced with romance that wood knock them off their feet and the kind of personal message that wood make such an impression. I'm glad I haven't yet though.
and while its a tad risky cos its a quick tempo but we are thinking:
Womack & Womack - Teardrops! :D
Incredible song, but the lyrics are really not first dance-friendly!
"Whenever I hear goodbyes, remind me baby of you
I break down and cry, next time I'll be true, yeah
Fever for lost romance remind me baby of you
I took a crazy chance
Next time I'll be true, I'll be true, I'll be true"
fuck it, its such a good song and will start the dancing as we mean to go on :)
to maximize finger-clicking dance routine possibilities
or modern love by david bowie
Kiss by Scout Niblett it is.
but we got sidetracked with guests. I ended up having a word with the celidh band who did a slow waltz thing that introduced us to the dancefloor - everybody else piled on pretty quick cos they were all desperate to get jigging. Good Timezzz
ours was There Is A Light That Never Goes Out. We had the problem whereby our 'song' is Yoshimi Battles The Pink Robots, which you can't really dance to and which wouldn't make any sense to most people there, so we went for another song we'd had a few romantic dances to before (we met as students, which probably explains it).
FYI nervous grooms/brides: if you've done things right, everyone will be absolutely ruined by the time you get to your first dance, so you needn't be nervous about that. What you SHOULD be nervous about is your speech, if you're doing one.
but I would choose this
or maybe this
We got married two years ago on the Thai island Koh Samui at this beautiful resort :
If i am to get married to my current bf. then yes ^ Aphex Twin... its kind of (weirdly) our tune.. fuck the guests, it would be our day
but probably 'Breathe Me' by Sia.
or because it's slightly more up beat One Evening by Feist
Unlikely to happen, mind
A wedding I went to last year had apparently asked for some Frank Sinatra tune or other.
But it turns out the DJs were a bit cheapskate and had apparently downloaded the track for free.
So waht? Wel... what they thought was the track was actually not the track asked for due to some error in the tagging. So after an intro unfamiliar to the happy couple, the verse kicks in...
#She gets too hungry, for dinner at eight
#She loves the theater, but doesn't come late
#She'd never bother, with people she'd hate
#That's why the lady is a tramp
Cue: a very angry groom kicking off with the DJs, and the best man having to step in and diffuse the rather tense atmosphere that had developed amongst the assembled guests.
PS: I'd probably opt for Canonball by The Breeders cos in my mind it's kinda 'our song', but she'd probably choose something much more 'appropriate'. Although she doesn't wanna get married/have a wedding so it's kinda academic.
what would be the point of diffusing this atmosphere?
angry groom -> tense atmosphere -> bad vibes -> best man calms things down -> good vibes
Diffuse vs Defuse
I should probably get out more.
it's a fair cop though.
La La Love You then My First, My Last, My Everything.
We decided we couldn't bear to be seen attempting to dance properly, so we went for grinning spasms.
Would be me guess. Either that or the theme from Jurassic Park.
And faded into this...
We encouraged everyone to join us on the second one.
Not the easiest to dance to, though?!
The shock of seeing me on the dancefloor, tempered any thoughts of people criticising my "moves". I imagine.
I can't even begin to think about having to be sober and dance infront of loads of people.
Pretty glad I never had to decide.
during the actual ceremony. INDIE
They had The Universal by blur. It was lovely, though I did keep thinking I'd forgotten to pay my gas bill.
It was actually the most nervous I've ever ever been. I was retching in the toilets before all the guests came down. Like I fuck up on one of my DJ nights, big dfeal, I look like a tit. But this is a wedding man! People will remember this shit the rest of their lives.
Thankfully, we nailed it. Amid some truly odd requests
before I'd even started playing music cos obvs you do the first dance first was giving out "Well, the FATHER OF THE BRIDE likes this funk act and THE FATHER OF THE BRIDE likes this funk act". To which I replied "Well, the FUCKING BRIDE gave me a list of 300 songs to play and they're not on it so tough shit" (I didn't swear at her but my God it took everything I had not to).
One girl threatened to punch me unless I played Beyonce immediately. moments later she stacked it through a table of glasses and had to go home.
But mostly they came from middle aged men and all started with "You must be getting this a lot but have you got any....."
-anything you know, a bit hardcore 90s ravey
-Emerson Lake and Palmer
-Merry Christmas Everyone by Shakin Stevens (it was September)
Though i'm not married yet.
Still a nice song tho.
when he was on tour.
But it doesn't really matter, I guess. There's loads of songs I think are really romantic and they've probably got a horrible meaning to them. I don't care.
I thought it was just about pleading with someone not to leave.
she's saying how 'they don't love you like I love you' cos she knows he's sleeping about but she doesn't care as long as they stay together.
he hasn't even admitted we are dating.
Don't know if we're providing the first dance yet
although kinda "Peg" by Steely Dan.
We got embarrassed about 15 seconds in and told everyone to start dancing.
Good song though.
There are some supreme Fishplums pics from when this occured
SO SOMEONE BETTER BE LISTENING TO IT
I went to a friend's wedding last year and he had his first dance to 'State of Love and Trust' by Pearl Jam, which was the only decision his wife let him make in the wedding. It was really awkward watching all the guests laugh and smile for the first few seconds, but as the song went on, the bride and groom were running out of ideas and everyone was getting bored and checking their watches.
And before that I went to a workmate's wedding and he and his new wife just kind of swayed on the dancefloor, holding hands, and talking in each others' ears, and everyone got bored and started talking amongst themselves and forgot to applaud at the end.
I'd probably have a real dance to 'I Let Love In' by Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds. Might just get married to do this.
Sam Cooke - Nothing can change this love
Something by The Supremes I would imagine.
even if you don't get married in a church you can still have a reception. Contrary to popular belief parties aren't just the preserve of the religous.
is generally frowned upon
so at the last wedding i was at, i was all 'this will be shania twain i bet'
and when it was, everyone i said it to was like 'FUCK MAN, YOU'RE AMAZING'
pretty good night. didn't score me any tail, but it was still good.
anyway, i'd have cigarettes and coffee by otis redding.
Probably slightly cliched, but it is a great song. Not great for dancing though.
Seemed like a really good idea before we did it but it seemed to go on forever! Not ordinarily a problem apart from the fact that everyone is kind of staring you shuffling awkwardly to the song.
This was promptly followed by 'Foux de Fafa' by Flight of the Conchords for all the French speakers...
knew something seemed odd about that title
What's wrong with you all?
...gets me every time *sniff*
First two lines "Oh nothing’s gonna change my love for you,
I wanna spend my life with you" think it will sum up my things exactly .... just need to find the girl now :-(
but it's quite short and I'm worried that, by the time we get to the dancefloor, it'll be finished. Maybe I'll have it twice.
Quite short?! Lasts for like a minute or something doesnt it?
Cracking song though
'Quite short?!' in the sense of that being an understatement. Reading it back it sounds like im saying its not that short at all.
If we're efficient about it though, that could be a positive - no awkwardness as she rests her head on my shoulder and it slowly dawns on her that she's going to be spending the rest of her life with me.
a lovely efficient dance followed by a peck on the cheek should stave off the regret factor at least for another couple of hours.
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how people have / would dance to indie songs at their wedding.
I know it's "all about you" and stuff but you've got to know your audience surely?
I'd go for something neutral like someone said Sam Cooke earlier up. Grandads love it and it's still cool.
It's because people are convinced that music not sanctioned as 'pop' or 'classic' is going to scare people away that there's not greater love of different types of music.
Or maybe all your family are close-minded idiots? Happens.
Impossible to dance (sensibly) to.
my boyfriend promised me we'll have the national play at our wedding, which i think was his way of ensuring we never get married.
walk down the aisle to 'Bring Your Daughter To The Slaughter' - Bride's father was 'unimpressed'.
I sang Hello, I Love You, Maddy sang Dream a Little Dream.
Earlier she'd walked down the aisle to The Rain Song, we then signed the register to the tune of My Old Man by Joni Mitchell, which includes the line "we don't need no piece of paper from the city hall" and left the registry office to The Word by The Beatles.
which happened in a posh garden in front of a beach and we were alone in Barbados. I wasn't hugely musically inclined back in those days. Well, I was, but in a different way. So I can't even remember the first song we heard together after the wedding.
The soppy romantic in me would like this Sigur Ros song:
It's beautiful, simple, and very easy to dance to. And as it's in a made-up language, you can interpret the words as you wish.
The cynic in me would have this song:
Maybe I can find a middle ground. And someone I dig enough to marry again one day.
*World's smallest violin*
Have I told you lately