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Best thing to do is cut the mofo off completly.
Delete number, facebook etc
somehow, following this advice can make you look like a massive needy psycho.
Looks sensible enough but somehow doesn't work in practice
surely the opposite would potentially have that result? :S
Storm round there now, kick her in the crotch and yell "Bitch, there's no chance of us ever having sex!" Punch Mike in the face on your way out and set the building on fire.
It's pretty much your only option now.
"What is Delia smiths address (letsbe? avenue)"
it's bad enough (like someone said up there ^) finding out through facebook but for the person to actually go out of their way to tell you, what's the need?
I think if my ex decided to tell me he was with someone new I'd have to say "I don't care" (though I probably would) and then delete/block them until I no longer care.
and are liable to bump into each other at places or hear about what they're up to from mutual friends, it's better for them to say something than wait 'til you bump into them and the new partner or hear about it on the grapevine?
We live far away now and I'm not in contact with any of her friends
you MIGHT bump into them somewhere and find out about their new relationship that way but you may not so it's probably best they don't seek you out to tell you about it and cause unnecessary stress/drama.
I don't know, I don't really have mutual friends with my exes luckily.
Texts and FB messages and such. And I've responded because staying in touch, even to argue, is a bit less worse than facing up to the fact that it's properly over and moving on. We lived together y'see.
However I was in town today and, for the first time, thinking 'I really do fancy meeting someone new.' Felt like I might be turning a corner. Now this has knocked the wind out of my sails a bit :\
(MTFU can be taken as read)
Harsh though it is, take it as the sign you needed that it's properly over and you should follow through with trying to meet somebody new.
It's not pleasant but nothing's changed - she's no more your ex now than she was this morning. Don't get down about it but instead let it spur you on to sorting your own life out.
In order for you to move forward. Even if it's a tempory thing.
you may not want to but you can't help but dwell in the past if there's still reminders of what you had by keeping in contact.
Cut ties until you feel you've moved on and then think about whether you really want to get back in touch with her or not, it may turn out right now that the only reason you don't want to cut ties is because you are holding yourself back from having to move on and accept things.
I speak from my own experience, of course I don't know how things are for you but I think marilyninthesky is right and she even posted all her replies in the right place so I think you should follow her advice.
And yes, you're both right. Thank you.
I especially made an effort to reply in the right place tonight.
Automatik, I can understand the hurt, especially when you have lived with someone but it will get easier.
Good time to write an album!
I will miss your randomly placed replies though :(
"I just thought you should know"
why? WHY? why should i know? so I can spend agonising nights lying on the floor, piss drunk on cheap cider, imagining you with your legs wrapped around him and a look of pleasure on your face?
and it's ALWAYS the person who broke your heart that "just thought you should know", isn't it?
the person who had their heart broken never seeks out the heart breaker to say "Oh just so you know, I'm seeing someone new now".
Bastard heart-breakers, just have to rub it in that little bit extra.
I've also posted a thread about poo
I AM A DISER!
Oh, wait...I just need Martbowski to start a hate thread about me and then I've made it! I mean he's even called Meowington a cunt (why?) and I've not got that yet.
but it seems like the right thing to do. Once upon a time I was kinda seeing a girl. We went our separate ways and in the meantime I got a girlfriend. I saw my 'exgirlfriend' later that year, felt like I had to get it off my chest so that we could be friends.
As it happens she was also going out with someone at the time, so my confession didn't really have the same impact. But I felt it would've been a bit better to tell her than for her to hear it through the grapevine.
I know, you don't really owe the other party anything in that situation, but... y'know... it's a gentlemanly thing to do. And for someone to do that to you (tell you to your face, that is), particularly considering the multiple ways you could find out in our modern age, shows that at least they think well of you.
Sub-thread: worst circumstances imaginable to find out that your ex is going out with someone new? Anyone got any good stories? I don't.
I think it's the wrong thing to do - telling your ex you're with someone new might ease your conscience but for all your know it may just tear them up. It's probably better for them being in blissful ignorance, if they discover you're with someone new then they will have to deal with it but actually telling them to their face seems unnecessary to me.
If it was me, I'd rather not be told and if I find out some other way then so be it but the person telling me to my face they're seeing someone else won't help anything at all and may just stress me out. That's just me.
there's a dude who i recently went raging mental at for something (long story) and he refuses to talk to me now (as if i'm the person who did something wrong! just because i went mental. okay. fine.) i've tried a couple of times this week but i've given up and am now on the long road to non-contact. it's not going that well. the last time i cut him off i lasted a week before drunkenly phoning him up by the bins outside a wetherspoons in bristol (after mining his number back from my call history! unfortunately i just realised i have his number memorised, fffuuuu). this time i hope it lasts longer. i'm sure i'll forget him soon. :( hm.
please stop moving my post around and make it APPEAR in the right place, THANKS.
I couldn't stop myself from texting/messaging my ex every now and again and then got annoyed when it didn't work out how I wanted i.e. I would be ignored or receive an unsatisfactory reply and it escalated until finally we had a huge blow-out argument where I cut ties with him completely and I felt really good for about a week and then came the regret, but I stuck to my no-contacting for a good few months.
Unfortunately I caved a few days ago and messaged him but then without him even getting my message yet, he texted me so that was a nice surprise and a weird coincidence.
Basically, patience is key (I just wish I had some).
And the salvaging the number from your call history - I deleted his number but then fished out a very old phone of mine in the hope his number was on there (unfortunately it was an old number).
i just got off the phone with him. ROFL.
'I had a girlfriend once' thread.
just fill your life with nice things, good friends and plenty of activity until time heals the wounds.
or yeah, just kick her in the womb
meaningless sex. Just think of it as her "fucking you out of her system"
Yeah, good one.
I would give anything to be lonely, ANYTHING
Next thing you're going to tell us you really are a female.
i will probably having a similar conversation this week.
i'll find out the crim of the crop of youtubes for you.
You too Dickster.
I definitely think its best you cut all ties though. When my ex and I FINALLY broke up, I deleted everything and we didn't contact each other for a good month or two. Its essential that you have the time apart as if you don't, you'll get used to talking everyday and it will kind of be like you're still together but just not having the intimacy etc. I lived with the person I cut all ties with and it was the hardest thing i've ever had to do. You're so used to seeing them everyday that its just difficult to stop talking to them altogether but it really does help as in the future, when they do get in touch and you do end up meeting up/talking on the phone just as friends and having general chit chat, its so much more easier! Usually its all sad and relationshippy mess gets brought up but I think if you don't talk to them ALL THE TIME then when you do talk to them, its just lovely because its easy and you're just like friends again.
being as everyones different n all.
however, do you agree that its different to love someone than it is to be in love with someone?
Like you say, it's just because it's a bit like we're still together that way. Anyway I need to stop airing this in public.
What are you doing arriving online at this hour, hm?
(not sure if I would...probably would actually)
Just stay positive, bake things (nigellas chocolate peanut squares are delish - I'll PM you the recipe tomorrow) and just do lots of lovely things to make yourself very cheerful!
Well I've been out, got a bit boozy and now I seem to have sobered right up and am WIDE AWAKE. This is a bit crud.
There's just TOO MUCH FOOD.
You should come on tinychat, there's been all kinds nudity tonight :D
ooh I would come on tinychat but I get a bit too hooked and end up on there til REALLY late and never leave!
The food soaks it all up! I've been eating AND drinking way too much lately (I love good food especially cheese and biscuits!). I have a massive food baby which someone will not be pleased about when he sees me on Wednesday :(
Yeah we've got wendsleydale+cranberries AND stilton+apricot. POSH CHEESE FTW.
Who's not going to be pleased about your food baby? You might give birt[ABANDON]
I've mainly been eating a nice sussex brie, blacksticks blue (my favourite!) and little goats cheese wheel. I love goats cheese quite a lot and could eat it all day. I need to make these little tartine things which are bread with some kind of tomato sauce/paste with mushrooms, peppers, grated emmental and big rounds of goats cheese! You pop them under the grill and they go all melty and yummy and OMG I'M FLIPPING STARVING!
(vital bit: mouseover)
I've not seen that one before.
Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the home
Your ex girlfriend was riding his xmas bone.
Her stockings were hung by the chimney with care,
In hopes that he wouldnt cum in her hair
someone you're not going out with is going out with someone else ?
unless her break up excuse was something like
'It's not you, I just need to be on my own for a little while to work through some issues and then when I've got myself straight we'll pick up where we left off'
I don't see how this can be unexpected news
but it's still horrible, especially if you really liked them and it's a relatively recent break up. I guess a little part of you still hopes they will turn around and want to get back to you, so them getting a boyfriend is the final nail in the coffin really.
I'm shit with metaphors.
the new guy could turn out to be a complete cock and make her realise what she is missing with you.
Dont mean to raise your hopes unrealisticly but it has been known to happen
then post pics of the action on her facebook page with the caption 'wish you were here'.