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Still hung up on them? Otherwise they would just say "an ex", right?
'The ex' - usually the most recent.
'An ex' - others.
Can't understand the fuss tbh. I guess it shows they still loom large to some degree.
You people think too much :D
oh christ I'm referencing previous threads from memory. Kill me.
Must have been drunken posting.
I don't think I really care about this too much. The use of 'the' as opposed to 'my' implies that there's always one who is more of a loomer than others, but that is just a matter of fact for some people (e.g. when I refer to an ex, it would be more likely to be my ex husband and the boy i went out with when I was 15.)
Sometimes I think it's appropriate to dehumanise them and sometimes it's not. I wish I could get more excited about this :D
Get excited about The Ex instead:
Both of them are 'my ex' if not.
it also depends on what his name *is* because if it's a fairly common name sometimes you have to clarify which 'john@ you're talking about. Hmmmm. Agree that there's probably a bit of overthinking in relation to this, but I definitely swing between being super-respectful about their existance and importance as part of my history, and wishing I could pretend I'd never met them. Mostly I think I'm in the middle.
I'm telling Musefreak.
I can't cross her from my memory
She meant everything to me
She meant every word she said
When she said I'll never love again
Be my ex until the end
And I know I'll never feel that way again
She's just my ex
She's my ex
She marks the spot where I'm the weakest one
I can't expect she'll change her ways
Can't accept the things she's done
She's just my ex
Nothing more, nothing less
But she'll always be my ex
i've only got one proper, full time ex.
I'll use his name when I'm talking to people who know him. I won't really use his name when talking to a new boyfriend. Its all a bit odd and uncomfortable and i'd rather not.
When I was with him I didn't refer to him as A boyfriend or THE boyfriend, he was MY boyfriend therefore he is now MY ex boyfriend.
looks like he's dan's ex-boyfriend too
Because she is not MY ex.
you know that alphabeat song "don't you touch my boyfriend, he's not your boyfriend, he's mine" well I liked that song back when it came out and I once put it as my facebook (or was it myspace then?) status. Like a WEEK LATER my boyfriend drumped me for someone else who he had been seeing being my back for a week or so. Coincidence? I think not.
I'm getting all kinds of weird mental images now...
(entry #2 obvs)
"The Ex" = someone who broke your heart in such a painful and (likely) drawn out way that you were left as little more than a drunken wreck with a large collection of Leonard Cohen records
but frankly this is an embarassment to the genre.
wa-wa wa-wa wa-wa wa-wa wa-wa wa-wa waaa" http://www.last.fm/music/Man+is+Slapped/Socially+Inept+EP/...Exgirlfriend
YOU'RE the embarassment to the genre.
Deal with it.
I would have given my life for her
And my computer's running really slowly.
I'm not sure I got my meaning across properly.
depends. i guess if you only have one ex...
as well as being the one most likely to crop up and give you bother?
Are there different levels of married-ness?
We were only slightly married.
I hardly even use the term ex at all I usually just say the persons name. As for "The Ex" I've often seen it reserved for the most significant breakup.