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especially first dates?
yes? no? why? stories?
- It would be too loud to talk
- lots of more handsome men than you
- You will end up stinking of sweat (yours/others)
- you will end up stinking of beer (yours/others)
although I once (around 2004) took a man I liked to see the Eighties Matchbox at the ICA. Great band, great venue, probably one of the best gigs I've ever been to, I paid for his ticket. And he said it was "okay". "okay". I was so pissed off.
But a good place to hook up with girls easily without saying much
It's too loud to talk
It stinks of stale beer and fat man sweat
You can't say the band are great without sounding insincere - possible music taste clashes
It'll be really expensive to get her drunk enough to renege on her morals of never sleeping with someone on a first date
And possibly the venue. I'd totally go to a jazz thing at the Green Mill for a first date, and it could easily be one of the best dates ever, but I really doubt I'd go see, like, *any* rock band about which I can get excited at the Bottom Lounge or something. Sitting down in a romantically-lit booth in a venue with a classy bar, easy chatting between songs and after the set = big yes. Standing around amongst sweaty guys and being witnessed geeking out singing along and perhaps getting thrown around awkwardly, as your first impression = nuh-ah. There's a spectrum.
this would be an issue for me. if its a band you really love, it can be a bit embarrassing to have someone you fancy watch you watching them
You go to a nice, quiet bar first to do the chat thing, then swing by the gig and catch the band or two you wanted to (standing at the back so you don't get sweaty), before a night cap somewhere else nice.
First date with my current girlfriend was pints and "getting to know you" at a quiet romantic pub, tubelord with lots of beers at the venue then on somewhere swisher for whiskys.
but like others have said, it depends on the venue. when my ex and i first starting seeing each other, we would go to this one club that had the stage at one end and a bar at the far end, so we could sit at the bar and chat while the band played and still be able to hear each other just fine. they were really great dates.
due to lack of talking and probably lack of liking the band and being a bit bored.
I like alley's idea of the romantically lit booth place. I want to go to there.
I went to Sunset Rubdown this time last year, though it wasn't really a date I guess, and it was great fun and obviously we're still together.
We did get outrageously drunk though.
They're only good if you meet up for a bit before hand an have time to chat and stuff afterwards, if you're just going to the gig then it's pretty much the same as going to the cinema on a first date in that you don't really get to speak to each other.
take a lassie to see Liars about a month ago, but she started seeing some guy who likes The View the day before the gig.
Seems I dodged a bullet on this one anyway.
I took someone to one, and to be blunt...the evening did not progress according to my plan.
If its a good band, you'll have a great time, and have loads to talk about afterwards.
A lot of girls are indifferent. Then it's liable to go tits up.
I'd say there are far safer options for first dates.
I think the venue was alright for it though, as it had a downstairs bar area where you could go and chat. I can imagine a small one room venue where you're struggling to hear might be less appealing.
i think it would be a better idea for a second or third date. but you probably shouldn't take dating advice from me.
it should be ok.
Good advice. Pretty much exactly what I was after
And I think I might do the romantic little underground jazz bar as recommended above instead. But I was there the other week with a few mates and one lad said "this is a proper second date bar innit" so hmm.
HmmmmMmmmmmM. I'm on my blackbarry btw. Hiya.
That's a very non-PC way to describe your new bf, btw.
And hiya and well done for being able to multi-task in such an impressive manner.
If it's just a small pub-type gig, then sure, because it's easy enough to go and watch a band for a bit, then leave whenever without feeling bad for not staying for the whole evening to see all the bands. If it's at a decent or big venue and there's lots of acts you want to see, culminating with an hour-long+ performance by the headline band then it wouldn't be that great a date, unless you consider great dates to be ones without any talking.
i think its a great idea if you are both really into music
on way too many things to list here
but i took a firstish date to a noise gig. worst idea ever, he looked terrified as grown men bashed each other to the ground.
he turned to me at one point and said: "why are they SO angry?"
and then it was really annoying when one of the better bands came on and i got really into it and he looked bored out of his mind and was then staring at me, making me wonder if i was doing some weird head-nodding or something.
not wanting to go to the same kinds of gigs as a bf/gf would be pretty shit.
that said, going to a gig without any real before or after bit might not be the best first date. <bitchy>especially if wrightylew's trying to drag her along to see nowaysis or whoever.</bitchy>