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Should guys ever do this in texts to girls? It seems a bit camp to me.
It never makes me feel camp.
I'm getting really bad for putting LOTS of xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx at the end of emails to clients when I'm in a rush- force of habit I suppose. My latest target was the girl who works at the letting agency who manage my flat. I didn't notice until she responded with a solitary kiss at the end of her response to me, which I found odd, until I scrolled down and saw the fifteen or so kisses I'd sent to her. Horrifying.
the really awkward quiet kid in our group just sent everyone a message on facebook asking us to go to a birthday meal with him and signed off with 'xx'.
made me cringe so bad :(
but normally i do yeah. might as well.
but for some reason this has really made me well up. I hope people aren't mean to him and get him a nice present and go to his meal and give him a cute kiss on the cheek. I really hope this so much.
we do try with him. but it's like pulling teeth sometimes. (might not kiss him on the cheek)
I feel better now. I think I'm overly soft just now.
Boys and girls alike.
but have been crushed by the fact that everyone else does so now I do... I am not popular enough to be different.
Never anyone else. I think if they're showered around too much then people will get complacent. They need to earn my virtual kisses.
Like how there's some people I'll hug, kiss on the cheek or shake hands with in person, but others I won't. I don't think it's a big deal.
and half the time i forget.
THIS IS THE BEST METHOD. kiss people who kiss you, like, cos they're the only ones that would be offended if you didn't.
shit aint' right.
you wouldn't kiss me in real life would you? well, yeah, you would, but that's besides the point damnit
i will usually put an x or two at the end of my reply. never usually do it unprovoked though. i am not a man.
If not, no.
i just count and match them like a robot
Or sometimes to male friends cos it's well jokes, yeah?
but only because I'm old-fashioned and sign off with my name (no prizes for guessing). Has caused confusion with a few people who for some reason thought that still counted as x-ing them.
I'll match whatever the other person does if I'm replying to something. Otherwise it just depends how much I like them at that given moment. Never more than one x though, unless I'm being facetious.
if it's a girl I fancy, or if it's just a good girl mate, though usually just if the general tone of the conversation has perked me up or I am attempting to be extra nice or whatever. Not if I'm just saying "I'm at the back of the pub garden" or something. Occasionally I'll throw one in there to a guy just to weird them out.
1 is the rule though. 2 max.
I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.
What happened to all the nice guys?
The answer is simple: you did.
See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were fucking treated you.
At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.
Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, once again, you did.
You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.
If you were five years younger.
So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've fucked yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fucking want you, now.
A Recovering Nice Guy
probably close to the bone for 67% of DiS users. I include me.
x - i want to spend more time with you
xx - i want to spend more time with you... in bed
my buds already know i love them
containing how many kisses is the standard amount to send to each person.