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that broke up with you like a week ago.
i'm not good at these sort of threads i'm usually quite happy but jesus christ.
Thanks to YOUR FUCKING MATE!!!
Give us a little more context, Dicko... what did she say? Mmmmmwhatchasaaaay.... hmmmthatchooonlymeantweeeeelll?..... wellohcourseyoudiiiiid
Heidegger from FFVII
It's a small workday, sometimes to my chagrin and detriment
Ducking Auto Correct!!
if we bump into each other
OR she well misses you.
There is a definite art to what happens next.... but I am no master. I am good at the fucking it up further approach though....
i have not done it successful ever i don't think. who knows!
are you ok?
We were up all night on the phone chatting about life and stuff. We do it quite a lot. She's unsure about this new guy she's been seeing and I offered some advice; she in turn tried to help me with some of my own love life quandries.
I like that we're still really good friends. Of course it took many months of utter despair and heartache to get to this point, but stick in there, by god. Stick in there.
She phoned me, but she also said he's pretty good. Your model appears flawed.
get in touch with your awesomeness. Or just touch yourself if that is too much effort.
if you answer them.
that's what i am doing for my ex who keeps inviting me to nights out that she is organising and inviting all my mates.
My one regret in life is that I didn't fuck one vulnerable ex over quite enough
i'd rather have that regret than having actually done it, to be fair.
horses for courses.
and maintain said voice throughout, denying all knowledge of your alter ego, her, or england.
This girl doesn't call him Dicko...
I saw the phrase 'like a week ago'. It was either a week ago or not. I hope she shits in your breadbin.
when the break up happened. she called me last night.
i don't have a breadbin i freeze all my bread.
I'm sorry for your loss
she refuses to let the past go.
(i hope i spelt all that correctly).
SHe's being really fucking cruel actually. ONe week post-split is far too soon to be offering he olivebranch of friendship, the only exception I can think of being where it was the kind of relationship where there wasn't much love and you were BOTH quite happy to walk away. (doens't sound like this is the case here). I think you should ignore her for the time being until you feel better- if she persists, a short email saying that you'd rather she didn't contact you for a few weeks should do the trick. If you split with someone you have to allow them time to move on and be respectful of that- what she's doing is filling your head with thoughts olf her, which is very controlling and mean. Of course, she might be hurting too, but I reckon you still both need time to cool your heels before even thinking about what ifs.
When my ex dumped me, I told him that I didn't want to see him again and that I would have my friend stop by and get the books and things that I had loaned to him. He got massively upset and the only thing I could do was ignore him. We started talking again, but only briefly - he would contact me once a week and it was like he just wanted to check in to see if I was doing okay to make himself feel better. This was two months ago. We talk more often now but things are still really weird. We went out for dinner last week and ended up sleeping together - bad idea. I hope someday the pair of us can be friends, but right now it's not looking likely.
I don't know your situation, but I agree with PickledOeuf: ignore your ex for a while. I'm sure that she misses you too, but you can't show your hand and let her continue to hurt you :(
2 weeks after she had been an arsehole and broken up with me, asking me how I was. Never replied. They only do it to make themselves feel better. Like, 'oh, I hope he doesn't hate me. I'll make things better by trying to be nice'. When really they should do the opposite and just fuck off and leave you alone.
Being dumped is always a bummer and will take longer to get over. My ex broke up with my on the same day I was made redundant which massively got me down. Not only that but he called me a week later to tell me about his awesome night out which involved almost getting involved in a threesome. Naturally I was somewhat pissed off and upset so I told him not to contact him and I'd speak to him when I was ready. It was nice to gain some control back and now we're good friends.
that was a bit weird.
It's a bit like a phone call direct into your mind!!!
That would surely be a win then?