on a scale from "one" to "restraining order" (cynical cunts need not reply)
how weird is it to contact someone that you fancy when you haven't given each other your numbers or anything?
basically i fancy this guy that i got off with and after much deliberation i asked our mutual friend for his number tonight but she'd have to ask someone else for it. so i'm not too keen on that. i'm also not too keen on sending the creepy facebook message. a couple of my other friends said that i should just add the guy on facebook and get it overwith, but i think that would be a bit weird as well.
on the other hand i would really like to see him again, in a casual setting like (not like go to the pub just the two of us and make it awkward as fuck) and so my choices seem to be 1) get my friend to ask someone else for his number 2) do a creepy facebook message/add thing 3) wait until i run into him which could be months from now or this weekend or anything in between, and i'd rather it was sooner than later.
inb4 don't ask the internet for advice.
thanks.
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Get your friend to 'friend suggest' you to this guy.
Is there a chance that you'll never see him again if you don't get his number now?
i don't think i'd NEVER see him again as we have friends in common
but like i said, there's no saying when it would be
Check his F-book events
and just happen to be out in the same place and at the same time.
do this
if you can realistically be in the same place with him and some mutual friends [so he's not like ".......err... what are you doing here?"] there is nothing wrong with engineering it.
the facebook message isn't creepy though, unless you make it creepy. my boyfriend did it a few days after we first met though nothing had happened [beyond sitting at his place together drinking], and we've been together since. if you've gotten somewhere with the guy already i think you can be forgiven for contacting him directly. and facebook is less pressure than a phonecall. do it.
Add him on Facebook
"The creepy Facebook message"?
Fuck you. I think if you've already got off with him, asking a friend for his number is okay.
lol
also i DID ask my friend for his number
but she would have to ask someone else who i don't really know but that probably know the guy.
I don't really see the difference
there's a MASSIVE difference
Why?
because, as i said, i don't know them and he does
and i dont want them to go like "LOL THIS GIRL ASKED ME FOR YOUR NUMBER"
add him on fb
send him pictures of your tits
he's seen my tits though
I love the Scandinavian definition of
'got off with'...
i didn't want to go into detail, k
I think it's time you went into detail
after throwing that one out there! We were under the impression that you kissed at a party or something. But if there were dirty pillows involved, then it's a whole different game.
By that I mean, you should definitely add him on facebook - it's more direct. Asking your friend to ask someone else for his number is kinda juvenile.
Add him on facebook, and make sure your profile pic is a good one before you do.
And I love marckee!
:D
I've had a girl get my number of a mutual friend before
I thought it was cute. But yeah, 2's probably the safest option.
I tried the facebook approach
we're now friends but I'm too scared to say "hi, I fancy you" without sounding like an idiot, getting shot down or loads of people seeing it.
Tell her IRL
We'll still be here for you if it all goes wrong.
I haven't seen her for a while
I bumped into her all the time about two months back, now I've only since her like twice since.
Even though it makes me sick when I say this but wouldn't be better if I asked her out for a drink or something on facebook?
No
zapsta is the master of relationships
:')
In the land of the blind...
you might eventually get laid
Touché
:D
you beat me to it
nice
i would only be like "hey if you're out this weekend then we should meet up"
not like WE SHOULD GO TO THE PUB JUST YOU AND ME AND MAKE IT AS AWKWARD AS POSSIBLE
actually yeah, this is a better idea
there's a monthly club night on this Saturday (I think) where all the indie kids go to. Her last comment to me on facebook was about seeing me there.
There's my in, it's been right in my face all along!
send her pictures of your tits
are you going to japandroids on sunday?
probably not
i've never heard of them, plus there's the rugby on saturday and my birthday on monday. i'm too old to be drinking three nights in a row.
I'd've though you'd've been above these sissy dilemmas
i normally don't get to the stage of these dilemmas
He'd probably have given you his number if he'd wanted you to have it.
see, i'm not normally one to ruin a perfectly decent casual thing
by insisting on exchanging numbers and that kind of thing. but i have it from reliable sources that he's well shy and everything and he did try and get me to come for a drink t'other night when he was drunk. some would say that's a good thing cause you're more honest when drunk or whatever, some (like me) would say that doesn't really count for anything.
Why did you even reply to kik? You said cynical cunts need not reply...
send me pictures of your tits
check your pm's ;) ;) ;) ;)
i never realised you looked so much like Telly Savalas!
cracking pair though
???
http://media.skateboard.com.au/forum/images/ist2_2553987-great-tits.jpg (NSFW)
uncanny
don't tell whiterussian i passed on her pic
she probably wouldn't be best pleased
http://www.manboobs.co.uk/img/submissions/1235399452DSC02342.JPG
as if i would mind, that's a well flattering pic of me
.... kik?
hard to get excited over a girl who can't grow a decent moustache
Add him on facebook NAO!
i will (probably) fb message him tomorrow but i'm not gonna do anything NOW
as you can tell the times of these things quite easily and it's pretty late right now.
jesus
I'm not holding up much hope for DiS when even girls need to man the fuck up
I don't at all see what's wrong with a facebook message, as you've got off with them. I'd usually wait a 3/4 times before adding "a slamming hottie" I didn't know well, but surely if you've tasted their saliva it's cool straight away. Was there a reason for not exchanging deets in the first place? Presumably it was a drunk thing and you forgot yeah? THIS IS WHAT FACEBOOK IS FOR AWKWARD INDIE TYPES! Track that man down now. You're a girl, there's a 3476% higher chance it might actually work.
*3/4 meats through friends etc
.
not a friend of the vegetarian?
MTFU
you goddamn pussy.
Late to the party: Add him on Facebook.
The phone number thing sounds like too much of a palava.
so let's recap
1. you like him
2. he saw your tits (i'm assuming by mutual consent not by flashing)
3. but you think adding him on fb would be creepy
erm...
HUH?
2. is a big assumption to make
I don't get this at all
What do you think Facebook is for?
Engineer a meeting.
ie make sure you're at something he's at and be like: "oh hi, fancy seeing you here." Then flash your tits again.
You're welcome.
I think either of these options is fine
Either get his number or message him on Facebook...
More importantly remember the worst thing that he can say is 'No' rather than getting yourself wound up about it you might as well just know.
Just to let you know that the last sentence is my Mum's advice for pretty much every problem of this type. I think her underlying message was that the world will continue to turn regardless, so if you like him then do it yeah?
Seinfeld - the stakeout!
kids today has television taught you nothing!
he didn't give you his number...
which means
a) he doesn't fancy you
b) he expects you to contact him on facebook if you do want to see him again
so I would go for the facebook option. Or you could just stalk him at various facebook events to see if he's out and see how it is.
I'd agree with this.
If he's seen your tits, you're entitled to add/send message on facebook.
People have been added for much less, without appearing stalkery.
i just saw the 'he's seen my tits' post
okay, it seems a rather hopeless situation now
If you're having to think this hard about it, I'd uh, not make the effort to chase him up.
Haha, what?
if getting off with someone is not a valid reason to add them on facebook then I don't know what is.
I tried to find a girl on facebook that I spoke to at a bus stop (yeah, I see the funnies)/on the bus. From our conversation I knew a few things about her yet I'd forgotten to ask for her name, which in hindsight was really stupid but loads of people got in the way on the bus we were on and I didn't get a chance in the end :(
What's wrong with adding people on facebook? They can always reject you. Also, you'd definitely know where you stood if you did get rejected.
I did this once!
It didn't work out.
you've slept with him and he's part of your wider social circle
i'd say it's pretty okay to add him on facebook
I'm her e t
^ damn it
anyway, I'm here to represent the cynical cunts & I'd say facebook messaging is a definite ok.
"go home, whiterussian, go home"
:D
Hmm
Tricky one really. He wasnt shy enough to have sex with you but he was too shy to give you his number? Answer seems obvious to me (sorry not trying to be mean).
gumtree lost connections.
alternatively, well... just ask your friend to ask her friend for his number. or do the facebook thing. If it were me, I wouldn't mind.
Jesus H Christ!
Has this deranged harpy still not found anyone dumb enough to chuck their muck up her dried up husk of a flange?
Men of Wales, lower your sights.
bit harsh like
nice posting alex. not up there with your usual bitter misogyny, but a good effort.
Shouldn't you be blogging about negligees?
nothing to do with the thread
but Alex that made me laugh it did.
did she reject you?
sore...
sensational post
oh alex
you're overthinking it
if it doesn't happen naturally it doesn't happen
also he can easily add you if he wants to? he can see your comments on his friends facebooks etc