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Well, are you? And how's that working out for you?
In fact, we still show on my 'info' bit as being in a relationship. One of the trivial but awkward and apinful things I need to discuss with him when I go home this weekend (massive 'eeeek') is remedying all of that kind of stuff. I don't want to just unilaterally announce to the FB world 'Lulu is no longer in a relationship with Mrlulu'.
We are still very close frineds though, and neither of us has had a big public romance since we split. Things will undoubtedly change once that happens.
and that's one of the questions it asks you when you fill out your profile for the first time.
Scout, I'll give that a go.
Also *painful and *friends
(stupid plonky wine fingers)
but we probably could now i suppose. we've both moved on enough i think. it's mental.
i still masturbate to her profile pictures.
saw her at latitude, was the first time in about three years. ended up hiding from the rain whilst drinking awful red wine and taking the piss out of each other and ridiculous shared memories. it was actually fun once the intial awkward passed, i was surprised.
but he added me after we split up. He gets on my nerves doing show-off-y status updates about 10 times a day.
where the Maserati dealership is in Monaco?!?!?!!11'
That sort of thing?
They're all about how clever he is and how he's got a PhD and some kind of science job.
Mere curiosity, a request? Or are you considering requesting?
I'm playing a bit of a dangerous game with facebook just now because although the Ex and I are split up, there has been a bit of debate over the last few months about a possible reconciliation (another lovely topic of conversation for this weekend). What makes things dangerous is the fact that I have made a couple of *cough* acquaintances over the last 8 months (nothing serious- most are more like flirtations) who are also now fb friends. Nothing like a bit of facebook roulette.
We've been split up 18 months and we have dinner together once a week for a few months then he suddenly decides to blank me for months at a time but without a reason why. Then the cycle starts all over again. And I'm always a walk over about it. But now I'm trying to cut him out of my life completely so want to remove him....
- I do like to see what he's upto (stalker)
- I'd still be friends with all his family and friends on there so might be a bit of an arsey thing to do
- And also, the bitch in me likes him to know how brilliant my life is. Mwahahaha.
Sounds like he's got a split personality. Well done on getting away from that.
She thought i'd be sad enough to find her new guy and warn her how much scum she was. As if i still couldn't find him if i wanted. I'm very happy she's not on my facebook, i would've deleted her anyway.
I'm still good friends with most of my exes, they're pretty cool gals, just not quite cool enough. :D
heart still goes a bit when if her comments pop up. What a sad c*nt. First proper gf though, so i guess it'll be reet soon. Chat to her sometimes on the old dog and bone.
deleted after break up to make things easier mutually. havent added back since, it's been a year. i think she has had the better life since so im okay with her not being able to see my profile
and there's no way I'm adding them as friends. that's a whole can of worms i don't want to open.
working out fine, thanks
The most recent ex Miss DanielKelly delted me a month or two after I dumped her ass because a picture of me at a party, holding a beer and smiling with one of my (very male) friends appeared on her feed thingy. Apparently I was rubbing the fact that I'd moved on in her face. It wasn't even me posting the pictures.
Christ, she was thick. I wonder if she's still so thick?
You dirty get.
Has it's ups and downs. She has a new haircut and looks hot though :( Mind you, she's probably still bonkers :)
Not friends with the most recent ex though, as she is pure satan.
he is getting married now too, just got engaged, it was weird him telling me but im happy for him as he seems to be really happy.
my recent ex has been blocked from my facebook, but only for a while, ill unblock him when we can both deal with being single and seeing eachother with other people. we've been having a hard time lately, well, with him breaking into my house and stealing all my CD's :( i still care about him tho, just wish we could be civil.
all of this sounds a bit of a chore
i thought that was the point?
when we split up i thought it'd just bring up all sorts of arguments if i deleted him. and now we never speak. i suppose i could delete him, as it'd stop photos of him and his new gf popping up all over the place. meh.
including my first love who fucked me over seriously in the mid 90s when we were 16. Didn't speak or anything for 12 years and then re-connect via f***book and now have a very breezy superficial and chatty thing going on based on our mutual love of cats.
One of my exes' husbands is a facebook friend which is a bit bizarre. He is an IT guy and updates his status every 30 seconds. Every time it pops up I can't help thinking 'I knobbed your wife...'
But its fucking painful. Especially since we only split cause she moved abroad...
I can't really handle seeing how he's moved on so quickly.
I get a text everytime a photo of me goes up with a female, saying "I didn't know you were seeing so-and-so", to which I get annoyed and reply "I'm not, why did you think that?", and she says "I know you always liked her."
THIS IS WHY WE'RE NOT TOGETHER ANYMORE.
Delete/block and be done with it/her.
She'd try her hardest not to mention it, but she'd have to ask eventually.
asides my first one who is a married crazy jesusfreak who thinks i'm in the devils palm.
otherwise i get on well with all of them and usually exchange a few words here n there and have a really good friendship with two of them.
Ones who are mental, no, just no.
hence why i don't go on facebook
it's been 2 years and she still gives me the shakes
one is a bit crazy and lied about being pregnant. not good.
We're still friends so why on earth not?
This has not been a problem with my current girlfriend either. Which is how it should be. I've always thought that if you instinctively have a problem with your partner being mates with their ex then you shuold probably get that looked at...
It does help to be tactful/sensitive in the situations, i'd say...
and two flings
we broke up eight years ago, and i added him about when i joined facebook three years ago.
i wonder what people do with pictures of old boyfriends/girlfriends and the comments on them after they break up and meet someone else who happens to be on facebook? i guess you just keep them?
I have an album from our trip to Berlin, with us both still tagged etc. Don't know whether to leave it on or take it off, it's not really an issue until either of us get into another 'serious' relationship. Even then I wouldn't be bothered keeping them up.
it depends on some of the pictures. any obviously 'romantic' pictures are a bit awkward to have around. facebook is like an album of all your life permanently on show. i don't like it.
They're photos of your life and I wouldn't want to be with someone who can't handle the idea that I once went out with other people. It's a good way of finding the potential mentals if they question anything weird on your tagged photos.
A friend of mine told me that I studied with his ex and then I talked to her and we kind of got together and she didn't want to tell him and stuff since it had ended quite badly. And well, her profile was full of pictures of them together since he was kind of a photographer. That was weird...
I have not removed any tags of my ex. But they are only pics of koalas and my drawings of fat babies eating chocolate
deleted her again because I couldn't concentrate on my dissertation..will add again once it's done...
her photos were on private but I know how to hack into those so I defriended her to stop me from doing it
who keeps on inviting me to the 'fan of breathing groups' and every status reads 'i luv me kidz!!!!' and shit...
reminds me how old I've become
Until time has healed a bit.
So a block from facebook and i'm delightfully oblivious.
If you're lurking, cheers.
but I've got the most random people on facebook..from school and stuff..thoroughly unpleasant people I don't intend to ever meet but I'm lazy and just click on accept.
The only person I have rejected was an old nazi flatmate and I'm convinced he's trying to track me down to pin an unpaid gas bill on me so I declined his request...everyone else I just add and forget about it....oh and I removed you when you added me by accident once when you first came on FB, but that's because I knew it was an accident.
Therefore seems a bit weird singling her out and blocking her..and the only reason I did was for this week while I study. She may or may not accept if i add her again.
First proper gf/ex:
She just invited me t'other day, funnily enough. I've yet to reply. She split with me 10+ years ago cos I was gonna (but didn't in the end) do a dumb bulk purchase of trips as a favour for some mates. She went ballistic and called it a day, even though she was fine with doing bongs due to peer pressure without knowing what it actually was (bearing in mind that both of us were fairly goody-two-shoes-ish and neither of us did anything 'substance-centric'). Young 'uns eh? We split and remained on decent terms, but didn't really make the effort to stay in touch. In the last 10 years there's only really been a couple of clear-the-air emails. It would seem she's now married with a kid. I'll probably add her, but with some restrictions. I think my mum still misses her a bit(!).
Second proper gf/ex:
Yeah, she's added. We were housesharing before being together. And decent pals, pretty much, after. Still have a catch-up and a natter now & again. I went to her wedding last year. No probs.
splitting with the second ex, we went on a pre-planned holiday together.
Although, to be fair, a mate of mine can beat that - he split with his gf of 10 years and they still went to Thailand together for two weeks. Tense times, I imagine.
Dumped a girlfriend I had moved into my flat months prior, then went on a 2 week visit to Sydney as a couple after we realised we couldn't change the flights. Meet the parents and everything.
We broke up again shortly after getting back to London.
On the original question.... I broke up with a short term (a few months) girlfriend a couple of weeks ago and deleted her, and her number from my phone (in case of drunk texting).
This system works for me from experience, for people I don't have much history with, but who might still temporarily ruin my mojo if I was to stay in contact.
I have longer term girlfriends on FB though as we are good mates.
I can't stay friends with any ex's. Kills me.
looking forward to a stomach churning obliteration from your life! after a delicious meal, of course.
Might as well enjoy the transmission.
You're Welsh so my grandparents would ostracise me for doing so.
it automatically limits each others profiles, gives no updates etc for like a year or something, that way it wouldnt be anyones fault
Unless you had a proper falling out or are just emotionally feeble it would be a bit pathetic to de-friend them just because they’re an ex
but i only have one truly unpleasant ex, who really upset me a while ago. but actually, we have a lot of mutual friends so even if i blocked him on facebook i occasionally have to see him in real life. i saw him last night weirdly.
and my most recent ex is amazing, we go out a lot together, i still love his friends they are great. so yeah, we are on really good terms, meaning facebook isn't an issue, but then neither of us have had a relationship since.