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what the fuck are you supposed to write on a card for a dead person?
why the fuck are you writing a card to a dead person?
so nosey people have something to read at the funeral.
take it seriously and write it as if it is to them, like if you got a chance to tell them something one last time, you must have something you'd like to them, or a happy memory that you have of them, that'd cheer up other people.
PS. where's tinychat gone to? I'm working tonight and expect company when i get home!
"our/my thoughts are with you"
or an exert of one, maybe. Depends who it is, how mawkish you're feeling about it. I'm sorry, by the way.
I like the Hemingway lines from his friend's, and later his own, eulogy;
"...above the hills, the blue windless skies, now he will be part of them forever"
is to have some weeping, inconsolable french fancy or english rose, elaboratly drape herself over my coffin and then quote at length some work of great literature, as it's the only words she can find to do justice to my passing. that's the barometer right? that's when you know it was all ok.
you don't mind if I recite Leda and The Swan, though, right?
^ bad taste
Insert nice anecdote about how you'll miss them and every time you pass that place where you did that thing together you'll smile and think of X
I remember being in the pub with my folks once and the son of my mum's friend came over and thanked my mum for the lovely words of condolence in the card she'd sent. She had written a small piece about she often thought about Y from way back when. It was just a few lines but the guy was in tears thanking my mum for letting him know something about his mum that he had never known.
wha's the craic down/up there?
hope it's ticking by nicely wherever you are.
i went for the funnies and it wasn't even funny. sorry pal.
seriously then. i'd suggest....be brief....don't get too mawkish.....make the tone the equivilant of smart/casual dress....compliment their life....perhaps suggest they will be missed. but brevity is the key i think.
then there probably isn't anything specific to write. Just say something generic like "Always in our thoughts".
Overhead the albatross hangs motionless upon the air
And deep beneath the rolling waves
In labyrinths of coral caves
The echo of a distant tide
Comes willowing across the sand
And everything is green and submarine.
And no-one called us to the land
And no-one knows the wheres or whys
But something stirs and something tries
And starts to climb towards the light
Strangers passing in the street
By chance two separate glances meet
And I am you and what I see is me
And do I take you by the hand
And lead you through the land
And help me understand the best I can
And no-one calls us to move on
And no-one forces down our eyes
And no-one speaks and no-one tries
And no-one flies around the sun
Cloudless everyday you fall upon my waking eyes
inviting and inciting me to rise
And through the window in the wall
Come streaming in on sunlight wings
A million bright ambassadors of morning
And no-one sings me lullabies
And no-one makes me close my eyes
And so I throw the windows wide
And call to you across the sky
on the business card that comes with the flowers...
I haven't a clue what to write.
something funny / poignant.
there you go, a serious answer to a difficult question.