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mate of 15 years who you live with
hits on girl you openly admit all night that you're interested in.
nothing nearing physical. It really sucks when that happens, I get a sick feeling in my stomach.
so I'm being a twat.
I just expect him to realise how much I would be upset by this. He had no idea, which surprises me greatly. I shouted at him and then storemd off home. Idiot.
Still, I feel kind of let down.
why I'm being a goon?
maybe he liked her too? and if you'd pulled her he'd feel the same?
but he hadn't said anything all night to that effect,
My point being, had he done so, I would've backed away.
What am I on about?
he refuses before she gets to finish the request
You had a go at the guy in front of the lady in question?
1. Inform the internet
2. Confront him
I will regret telling you lot later. But for now...
he's tried to ring me. given me all the "i need to live my life" bullshit.
Am I wrong in thinking we're in unwritten rule male friend territory here?
I was being incredibly suggestive with her all night and she showed some interest back as well. I admit, it's not my style to be as forward as him, but hey, I wouldn't be me without that.
BUT BUT BUT
I said to him I was interested, that I liked her. Surely that is, after that much time of being friends, enough to say "don't go there". I would've at least appreciated a "Mate, I like her, are you alright with that?" conversation. I probably would've said yes at this point anyway.
I asked for reactions, I got some.
clearly in this dumb state I've fired off a few texts as well.
Most have come back saying he is out of order. This thread is balancing this out.
I guess you need to understand the both of us to read this situation. I just know tomorrow he'll be all apologetic. Great, but he got laid, I didn't. Easy for him to be apologetic about things.
I just expect a little loyalty from my mates.
But I'd spent a significant amount of time speaking to her. More than him.
I do see where you're coming from. It's not really about her, it's more about him not realising that I might be upset about it.
2 hours before I pretty much spelled it out to him. He still went ahead anyway. It's just something I expect a friend, one which I live with, whom we've been through everything over the last 15 years together, to take note of.
if you spent ages talking to her, and then he just swans up and nails her, she obviously feels some kind of chemical attraction to him and would only have made the jiggy-jiggy with you as a last resort at the end of the night.
Good looking, charismatic people are cunts, basically.
thank you for taking the time even to consider this whole situation.
Sober, I wouldn't post it.
that whatever the subject, the usual suspects on DiS get involeved and lengthen their battle.
If you do it whilst you're both drunk then it could NEVER escalate.
he was mildly drunk too. On drinks I HAD BOUGHT HIM!
Is being close friends for that amount of time considered gay these days?
and daub "COCKBLOCKER" on the wall in foot high letters. I'd probably take the fecal path, but that's just me
endulging in lots of loud music and vodka
But I take your suggestion on board, thanks! :D
when he comes through the door.
if people had to stick to that rule no one would get anywhere with anyone
oops, I'm turning into a pedant loser now! The night gets better!
unless something had actually happened between you and her he hasnt done anything wrong, for all you know he may have liked her for longer and liked her more than you do, just because you mentioned it first doesnt mean he is under any obligation to not pursue things, it would mean putting your happiness above his own
I'd like nothing more than him to be happy. I think actually he is, happier than me at this moment in time I mean. I'd like to think I would know, as twatish as that sounds.
But that is kind of the point.
I told him I liked her. Seriously, am I really missing socal conduct this much that close mates ignore this? Fair enough if I am. I just missed the memo.
that sounds wrong. I meant I know that he is happy. He's happy with who he is, his job etc as he has told me. Not just happier than me, which sounds really wrong.
so you both only met her last night? there hasnt even been a long standing crush, you seem concerned that a close mate would do something without regards to your feelings yet don't seem regard his, if you both followed your rule neither of you would have a chance (and if its because you said you liked her first thats abit silly, you cant just say dibs on them). If it had been a long standing thing it would be slightly different, but only to an extent if it turns out there is nothing between 2 people but there could be something with someone else I dont think a true friend would hold their friend back
i think if you made it clear to your friend you fancied her he should have waited and if you didnt do anything about it after a week or so, told you how he felt and made his move.
It's all been sorted now. I conceded I was being over the top, he said he was too drunk to take in anything I said about this girl - someone that falling out over really wasn't worth it - but had he known I was interested he wouldn't have gone after her.
Zooey Decshanel, Clare Danes, Marnie Stern's hott slutty bassist, Suzie Dent from Countdown and Louise Hollins from the BBC London news.
i'm just pretty happy about, or at least content with, most things.
just thought i'd share. as you were.
suggestions on what to do now?
all the cool kids are doing it lol!1!1
I'll give it a go though
why do people do that?
My arm hurts and is all bleedy now. :(
ask this girl
Bit odd ain't it?
why do you say that?
just a phase innit. doesnt really matter.
Can't see myself ever doing it. I might have done it once while drunk but can't remember what happened that night.
Your story is full of holes fullerov.
in the hostel I was staying at with a fucker of a headache, shirtless and bleeding from a myriad of cuts on my arms and chest.
I have no idea what happened to me, but I guess I could have done it to myself then forgotten.
"Maybe every time you enter a room, just compile a list
of people in there you'd consider boning and then pass the list around to your mates so they know what's off-limits?"
I feel like dancing in laughter.
It's a different matter if you're talking about someone who you've built up a longing for over the course of weeks and months, but what you're describing is really just the law of the jungle. If it's someone you've met that night, more often than not the only thing this is based on is that you saw her tits from across the room, and you liked them, and you conveyed this to your friend.
Do kids not learn how to cockblock these days? I learned to cockblock on the streets - seriously, if anyone finds themselves in this situation with me, they should think again, because by the end of the night, I will have made it so even your grandparents won't be able to look you in the eye, so complete will my cockblock be. And I will do it so professionally, that my pointing out the time you shit your pants the last time you brought a girl home will not only bring down your chances, but will appear to be motivated out of such concern for your well being, that it will only improve my own.
THIS is what you should have done. Take him down. Take him down to cockblocking Chinatown.
she's not your wife so you've no right in thinking you can issue a hands off warning pal.
if you like her fucking go for it but don't sit around crying into your cereal in the morning because you can hear your flatmate balling this lass 'cause he had the balls to say make a move
MTFU just doesn't cut it here
i call shotgun on the next girl to post in this thread
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