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ignore or confront?
[picture of Freddie Mercury]
"I'm Freddie Mercury. It's been reported that I slept with over 3,000 men. I died of AIDS in 1991 aged just 45."
[picture of Hugh Hefner]
"I'm Hugh Hefner. It's been reported that I've slept with over 3,000 women. I'm alive, aged 81, and currently porking SEVEN blonde playmates."
BROWN OF PINK?
STOP AND THINK!
he's just worried about you
the ":(" was my own addition
"one in the pink, one in the stink"?
no? okay then.
worked better when Big Break was still on
nothing but respect for that joke :)
I would definitely say something, but it's unlikely my dad would send that to me.
Changing parents opinions: never gonna happen.
Having arguments with parents: pointless, and might get you written out of the will.
Could at least get him to stop forwarding that kind of stuff though.
so we can see if you're just being a bit of a fag
just say "please dont send me this sort of thing" then?
- the email
- a picture of your Dad
come out as bisexual
introduce tunde to him as your boyfriend
i would be extremely angry if my dad forwarded me something like this. though he can barely work a computer so it probs wouldn't happen. anyway, i would email him and say you didn't find it funny and actually found it really offensive. and say you hope that he doesn't hold such negative opinions of gay men. or something like that.
Nothing to be gained here. Delete, move on, accept that he's from a different comedy period and has slightly different views. End of drama.
and HE'LL BE INUNDATED WITH THE STUFF (not gay people, chain e-mails)
In a social context, it might be different (though I'd find it difficult not be annoyed then too) but getting stuff sent to your personal e-mail is a bit off.
BANG! and the offensiveness is gone.
You don't have this in conversations. Unfortunately. Otherwise I'd have backspaced the fuck outta my mother.
i'd pop up with some kind of "oo-er missus" comment
i have parents that are casually racist and would certainly be homophobic if the concept of gayness wasn't completely foreign to them. I've always pointedly disagreed with what they've said, to their faces, without necessarily expecting them to change.
I always feel slightly sick if I'm around people that hold those kinds of views and it's doubly worse if those people gave birth to you.
I guess you have to weigh up every fight though against the amount of time you spend with them. If it's near zero, then maybe it's not worth bringing up. Or add it to the list of 'THIS IS HOW I'M GOING TO BE NOTHING LIKE YOU' which expands with age.
Or perhaps the first part of sarkyfox's post (the 'don't find it funny, no moar pls' bit). Don't lecture him on why his views are wrong and why he is a very bad man though.
he's about 60 so doesn't actually have many friends
if someone in my family said something like that i'd not let it go, especially said by a member of my family. ever. in fact i've had past arguments with my brothers about similar issues, and hopefully it's made them at least question their views.
Like, serious arguing, anyway. There's nothing to gain, personally. I've done it before, and I just realised afterwards that all I was doing was wasting my time. What am I going to get? A higher-risk of angering myself into a heart attack and that's about it.
Arguably, my decision to do nothing about it makes me a modern-day Nero. That's another argument I can't be bothered to have as well though. I've got better things to do with my time than argue.
Apathy: giving me more time to watch telly since 2001.
I mean I've witnessed a bit of casual homophobia in my family, but the above is really dumb and offensive.
[gentle safety wank]
he's ex military, australian, votes tory. well used to. might be bnp nowadays.
of telling you NOT to grow that moustache.
stop reading into things that aren't there.
i confronted my dad when he forwarded a vaguely racist joke he'd received from a colleague and never heard the last of it. think i upset him by pointing out his negligence in spreading the text.
btw, my dad's not a racist.
and then posted on here about it?
that was pretty much the worst thing in my life and i've spent the last two years feeling fucking terrible about it, having apologised as much as possible to all concerned.
what's your point?
I was just curious as to whether it had actually happened or whether I'd imagined it. I can't even remember my own home phone number yet I remember that, it's pretty worrying.
No offence meant and apologies for the side track.
If it's spoken, confront.
This kind of thing is too delicate for email conversations.
I wonder if I can get that as a car bumper sticker.
that should put a stop to it.
Sad times we live in.
'don't send me this shit'
caption: "DONT FUCK WITH US I KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE"
one probably liked to take chances, live dangerously and unpredictably in some ways...the other used his money to ensure a reliable supply of compliant women who need/want the money, he didnt take chances on whether he could pull without the money. In that respect I would prefer to be like FM
it's not very nice but like bamos says, really not worth getting into a massive argument about unless you think it's likely to happen frequently. if he sends you anything like it again, that's the time to go 'er actually dad can you just not forward me stuff like that? i don't really wanna see it'.
if you want to avoid an ideological debate altogether you could just tell him your work monitors your emails liekWOAH and you got a bollocking for opening it.
Titty emails, gay-bashing emails...
Maybe he's gradually testing you to see if you'll finally crack and confirm his suspicion that you are a massive gayer and then you can dump the beard and move on.
He's doing it so you guys can have a more honest and open relationship, obvz :'''')
Even my dad's aren't that bad. If your dad is anything like my dad he ain't going to listen to you at all if confronted. If anything he will probably send you even more of these emails and bring out the immortal 'I would love to have a next door neighbour that was _____' line. Oh noes!