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and im fucking shitting myself!!
how is it, single life?
I havent been single since i was 16 :(
Dog that I am.
But I LIKE your style.
A little adjustment time is expected. In the long run it will feel as comfortable and natural as breathing.
You mustn't let these things get the better of you. Yes, it will be different, but not in a bad way.
I wish you all the best and my offer of dinner still stands.
My five year relationship ended last October and I'm quite content on my own.
Except that you can do what you like, when you want, and there's more room in the bed.
the rest of you arent fulling me full of hope
actually feel quite sad. i might have to leave work here as im finding it hard to keep it together.
relationships are such a melt :(
I was here a few months ago... it's okay after a while. I'm getting used to it now... I thought my life was pretty much over when my girlfriend left me, but, y'know I just laugh about it now... it's kinda fun.
well it was until it got all sunny and that and then people like walking around hugging and shit. bastards.
i too hadn't been single since 16 until early this year. i like it. doing whatever i want, when ever i want.
i do get lonely. that's the bad part. luckily i have girls that i can flirt with heavily and kiss. heh.
I enjoy it, and I like my own space and freedom. Plus you can go out and do whatever you like with whoever you like. But there of course times when you wish somebody loved you. It really depends on the kind of person you are I think. Some people just can't stand their own company.
then i remember that that is something i need to find first.
this is AWFUL!
I've always been someone that goes from relationship to relationship, leaving one girl for another, or always seeing someone. Like, I'd never been properly single from the age of about 15, im 23 now. Been on my own for about half a year.
It's weird, it took me ages to adjust to being on my own. My last break up took a lot of my confidence. But after the intial first couple of months of really really missing the attention and lack of sex and general craving of having someone there, you get totally used to your own company, and just get on with it. I quite like it really, having no commitments and things.
It gets easier.
in fact i think it's important to spend some time being single so you can get to know yourself and no rely on anyone. that sounds really harsh but that's not how i meant it. being single is a good thing, it's a learning curve and you grow as a person (now i sound like a shitty motivational book!).
definitely makes you a stronger person.
same as being in a relationship. There is no stock answer.
it's firm but fair.
Feel for you, really do. You'll be okay over time...
Being single isn't all roses but it is FAR superior to being in a shit or broken relationship.
I was going out with a girl for 4 and a half years and she dumped me out the blue, I was gutted for a while and felt i had lost my best friend (which I had). After the dust settled and I was able to get back to normal I enjoyed single life. As others have mentioned you can do what you want when you want and there is more space in the bed.
Of course you still miss things like the simple and great pleasure of waking up next to someone you love and having a wee cuddle before you get up and go off to work in the morning.
I didn't chat to the ex for about a year and have seen her a couple of times and its not been so bad. I understand her reasons for ending it.
In the last few months I have been seeing a new girl and its going really well. You just have to try and keep positive (granted that's easier said than done) and keep busy. I hope everything works out for you.
It's not really to be feared imo.
1 month going up and down between yay freedom and oh my god i miss you
then 1 -2 month fuck you yay freedom and new people and new things.
2 months dam i miss having someone i can depend on to be there but im ok i guess
then it slowly evens out except you have to start watchin porn again.
:( hard work all this malarkey :(
thanks for all my cyber hugs - at least im having a half day today. so im getting out of here at 12!
everyone in the office now thinks im mental, makes a change from just plain weird.
is to fill your schedule for the next few months with things to do and look forward too and start a new hobby for anytime you dont want to be alone with your thoughts :)
quite stressful, even with someone I quite adore.
The worrying, compromising plans/sometimes yourself, thinking of what to say during the quiet bits. Am I the only one who thinks this?
Maybe I've been single too long and am just used to it.
the people who enjoy being single most as the ones who are single least
i'm still in the novelty phase
i've been single a lot, which means i've got used to it and am therefore now selfish and used to doing as i please...which in turn means i wont 'settle' for anything less than what i want because i'm quite happy by myself.
should i get the cats now?
i think if i become a lonely old man i want to be one of those old men who keeps like sixteen years of newspapers and leaves them stacked up in piles all round his house
but it's made me act like more of a cunt. Or just brought out my cuntish tendancies more.
However...I am currently in my longest relationship ever. We've been together a week and we've spent 2 evenings together, due to him going back to uni...so you probably shouldn't listen to me. The single life is all I know, and it's not been too bad.
except for a lack of steady sex, it's pretty excellent.
you can do what the fuck you want and not have to explain or justify yourself over every little thing.
then you win!
this is the downside
they are still interested in the world, coupley types are just content being boring
relationships are so self indulgent.
is how the original premise of this thread isn't "oh, i'm going to split up with someone", which would be horrible, but far more "I'M GOING TO BE SINGLE!!!!".
Seriously, if you feel that shit about it ending, fucking fight for it!
This isn't meant to be heartless, just trying to give you a kick up the ass that might take the 85% that's sure that it's going to end and make you use that 85% to do something about it, if there's something that can be done.
Apart from regular bonking and permanent company, there's nothing that really appeals on a major level.
I don't get how people become such wrecks when they break up. Are you not your own person? You don't need anyone else to function.
It's been ages since I had an actual girlfriend, but I'd say my life is better as a singleton. When you go out with your mates and everyone's single, there's a collective 'woo! I wonder what's gonna happen tonight!'. Not a desperate thirst, just that little thrill. When you go out and you've got a bird, you egg your mates on to get girls, while you sit back and send stupid, pointless texts to your lady, as she constantly asks you "what you doing now? xxx" "how come it took youages to reply? xxx" "why don't you put kisses in your texts? is something up?".
Appaling second half.
Are you sure you're cut out for life in the top flight, son? :-)