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and starting again...
is this possible?
but I acutally need contacts from that.
I've managed ot delate an entire group of people.
But I was thinkign about this.
I came to London on my own. I didn;t grow up with any of the people I currently know...I don't think I have to tolerate their bullshit anymore.
Maybe I can pretend I just moved to London or something. And start again. But I don't know how I did this in the first place.
I've acutally forgotten how I met these people
just let it happen, hang on to the worthy few
it often happens when you move cities
it's easy. and you can force yourself to meet lots of lovely new folks
I would have gone on holiday somewhere
as I'm a reclusive, elusive social hermit because I'm skint, have no job and quite a bit of depression. I wouldn't say it was easy though and I wouldn't recomend it hehe.
I've moved into my own place and now that I know my ex is ok I've severed all contact from her....unfortunately my 'musical mates' are connected to her in various ways..so they are the first to go. And bascially that was a group I was only tolerated in the first place. The next are mates from uni...one group is moving into the next stages of life...and their settled life is killing me...the other half are a bunch of coked up rich kids that will never change..and they are killign me in different ways...
i need to get out
Run like the wind and don't look back. Don't let the situation unwind slowly, you'll only regret not making the jump when you could have.
Don't know why its there. I think I was going to express sympathy...Having a group of friend still in contact with an ex is awful. It makes you develop an automatic speculative/fantastical tendency. Best to extricate yourself from the situation entirely I think. Or entirely change your world view. One is easier and potentially more fulfilling. The other is idealistic, torturous and impossible.
good luck to ya
peeps from uni and colege and school moved away from me ages ago. But then I do live out in the sticks.
Just be a bit alusive and aloof with the people your not that fussed about and that bring you down and you will meet new peeps along the way. It'll be tough but things will start happening and you'll get back on track.
Its slowly slowly happening for me with the social life. The job stuff is taking its time though and the depression is just a fucka to shake.
I've got battlefield and soon xbox!
keeps ya busey for a while I just end up crashin again though after a day or two. But thats just me haha I've been in it for a while.
My best male friend and female friend started going out, but she kept trying to cheat on him with me - I made the mistake of telling him after warning her for months and months. He chose her.
The love of my life, who it took six years to win over, met someone else at Christmas - so she and two of my other best friends went down the pan cus I can't really stand being round her.
For me, it's less the fear of not being able to find a new group - more that I can't face having to meet new people/know them for years to get back to where I was. Particularly having seen how fast people turn.
just feel really shit about yourself and decline invites everywhere- people will soon get sick and stop bothering with you
Think of yourself as a character in a Tom Waits song. I did it once when I left a group of friends behind for similar reasons to yours. It made me feel better about myself.
about packing up a backpack of my belongings and just getting on my motorbike and fucking off round Europe and never coming back. It got to be so tempting that I actually sold my motorbike.
i was temped to leave everyone i know and run into KL city and get a job in a restuaruant or something as a kitchen hand and start a new life....
it was dizzying..the thought
I touched base with a couple of old mates last xmas when i was visiting my sister. exciting thought.
but it has become bigger and it's no longer close-knit.
But I was nthinking of moving to manchester where most of my old mate still stay
Since coming to a different city for uni, I've found it is quite a bit of effort keeping in touch with and actually meeting up with old friends. If I'd wanted to, it would have been easy to ditch everyone I knew before.
Why do you want to?
outgrowing my friends from uni mostly..
and one set of friends I've madwe through music who only meet me with a group of people I do not feel comfortable being around...they make it clear that they only just tolerate me..and the whole group are mates of my ex which just makes things worse...
And plenty I've met since I was 23. More 'cos I didn't like who I was than anything they've done. It works for me. I still have Reggie Perrin fantasies though.
sorry...its 3am and this jacques is just so Jacques cider is sooo moreish with digestive biscuits
I don't really regret it - one in particular I'm grateful I'll hopefully never see again because I finally worked out she was the most manipulative, selfish person I've ever met in my life. I didn't then and don't know need that shit in my life. Then again it takes me a while to get to that point... I'm much happier now and don't regret it at all.
I think in the last two years I've ditched close to ten 'friends'... I guess I realised who the good ones were and my priorities changed.
It's healthy, I think!