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how do you go about this? do you just admit it (times be a changing)? or do you make up an elaborate story?
I can see absolutely no reason why you wouldn't. If they take it the wrong way, or think you're weird, that's their problem.
"and that's their problem"
If you want to lie about it, go ahead. You shouldn't feel the need to though and it reflects badly on anyone who reacts in a negative way to "internet meetings". I wouldn't just admit it, I'd question whoever I was telling about their opinions on the subject, if they happened to react badly.
I am creating your elaborate origins in preparation. Srsly, its a social stigma thing. For some reason, meeting girls online is ok amongst my friends, but now I chat to male DiSers my associates seem to think its really odd! Its societys crime, not ours as Uncle Monty would say.
twice removed. We found each other again when I had to do a family tree project in school about 7yrs ago.
i explained how i met lauren to a friend last night.
i said that i met lauren through nestor, who i met through lucy (junxtaposition), who i met through friends from school. the best part is that this actually could be true, as lucy does actually know people from my old school.
just don't forget it or re-tell it wrong.
Works for DiS, which is the only site I'm going to meet someone off of.
I'd probably lie if they'd think it was really weird, like if I was telling someone at work or something.
(as in we met at a gig)
for example, I'd probs lie to my mother...she's convinced everyone on the internet wants to rape/kidnap/murder me.
I'd hope your mother worried about people doing things to you before she worried about jenesaipas.
If I was explaining to friends: well, depends on the friends. For some reason, meeting people off the internet is still stigmatised, even though the internet isn't purely the preserve of sun-shy geeks and lechy old techy men any more.
Some of my friends would understand that its not that different (hell, probably safer due to social networking) than when people used to meet up with their pen friends or whatever... and some of them just wouldn't understand.
a) stop caring so much about what other people think
b) get better friends
as you frank
Unless it's work colleagues.
but lying to your friends about it is absolutely ridiculous
Friends aren't always carbon copies of yourself, and you can't expect them to react exactly the same way as you, to any given situation, at any time, or have exactly the same ideas and opinions on what is social acceptable or not.
I mean, I like all my friends a lot, but some of them are twats. The only reason I wouldn't lie to some of them if I'd met someone online is that there'd be no point because they'd find out off the others anyway.
I realise being on the same side as Frank is apt to make one a pariah but he's right here. I don't have a 'perfect' set of friends but I'd still tell them the truth...
well... not perfect, nobody is perfect. I wouldn't associate with people who were so closed minded about things and I guess this is one of those "things" that's a good indicator.
It's the need to lie that I can't understand. If you were to tell them and they didn't agree with you, why would it matter? If you think they would react badly to it, then yes you really need better friends. If they were just sceptical and didn't think any less of you because of it, then that's nowhere near as bad. When people on here would consider lying, it makes me question the relationships they have with their friends, it's that ridiculous.
would you tell all your friends what you've told everyone on here in the past?
"£5 on the 3/1 favourite 'Bollocks' to win, please."
Remember that thread you made about getting pissed off at your friends insinuating you were gay all the time? Yeah, I can really imagine them being welcoming to any of things you've talked about on here in the past...
they were blatantly joking and I wasn't "pissed off", read my posts properly in future, ok? I actually found a lot of it quite funny.
And yes I would tell my friends anything, some things they don't need to know (obviously), but I would tell them if necessary, yeah. It wouldn't bother me at all and they'd be cool with it as well.
Some of my friends would just take the piss relentlessly if I told them I'd met someone off the internet. It wouldn't bother me that much as they take the piss about everything anyway, so I personally wouldn't lie to my friends, but I can see why some people wouldn't want to tell some of their friends some things.
then fine, that seems like a good enough reason.
I was talking more about the reluctance to tell people because of the social stigma. I'm sure you'd agree that's pretty silly. You should be able to tell your friends anything, lying about it is ridiculous.
it's 2009, anyone who still has an issue with it or thinks its FOR THE NERDS is a dunderhead.
he met his new gf online...really tried ot hide it.
Don't get that.
I don;t need to explain anything as my meets stay in the basement
Hmm. You're actually a serial killer?
or alternatively, if it's someone off dis and you want to sound slightly less suspicious: "i know them off this one music forum that i post on"
i met some guy off THE INTERNET at a gig cos i sold him a spare ticket i had, i'd talked to him a lot previously but i pretended to my friend that he was off scarlett mist or something and i didn't actually know him. but that was because he was a bit of a massive paedo, really. so that was an excuse for LYING.
but i don't think my friends would be too bothered really, i mean one of my bfflzzzz met her (ex)boyfriend off myspace and he was okay. and we used to have massive lols over myspace boyfriends beforehand
basically, as long as you like them and they're cool then your friends will probably overlook the whole INTERNET FREAK thing, if they're weird though, it'll increase their weirdness.
I fucked it up within minutes of meeting her dad. He really didn't seem too bothered.
I wouldn't worry too much about it.
although I havn't actually met that many people from the internet, despite seeing loads about the place.
your friends aren't weirded out by it because they're all INTERNET PEOPLE themselves
but yeah, if 'several of your best friends' are off the internet they're hardly gonna go OMFGGG EWW INTERNET FREAKS are they?
Bloody nosey parkers around these days. But yeah, get over it. Everyone is OFF THE INTERNET these days.
my flatmates were just like 'haha, all your friends are off the internet, loser' but now they have met some of them and realised that on the whole you are normal types, unlikely to rape them in the night, and it's all fine.
you potential rapist you
if you don't think it's sad then why would you have a problem admitting it. But Dicko deep down you do know it's sad, thus the embarrassment.
I believe that's the widely accepted ettiquette
People don't ask questions.
but it has something to do with the name of my house.
Maybe we're related in some kooky, distant sorta way.
will usually just admit it to being the internet. i don't really get the big deal, the view's quite dated and it's a pretty solid way of getting to know people; the internet is hardly peddled as a solitary activity nowadays, is it? also, i very vaguely knew my current dude from here/facebook - but i'd probably say we met at a gig (which isn't a lie).
but thats only because everyone knows for a fact I haven't got a facebook or a myspace and will assume I'm arranging meet ups in the darkest corners of the internet
I lie to everyone about the fact i met my current girlfriend on the internet. I just say "i met her on a night out". I don't like that akward moment when you say "i met her on the internet".......i'd just rather avoid that
Obviously there's a pretty big generation gap, with those around and above the 40-year-old mark seeing it all as a bit odd and unsavoury (especially if it's their kids doing the meeting - my parents are still convinced the only people who could possibly want to chat online are paedophiles, completely sincerely, and that even admitting to chatting online is like saying you're giving smack addiction and trial run).
But with the younger generation, especially those under 30, it seems entirely natural. But I'd argue that there comes in a certain degree of classiness over which site is involved. If I met someone on here and became good friends (or, heaven forbid, anything more) then I would be pretty open about it. But meeting someone through a site like, say, Faceparty (yeah, it still exists) would be kind of like admitting you met in a car park used by dogging enthusiasts, surely?
I'd have no problem admitting I met someone via the British Sea Power forum, DiS etc but probably not other sites.
Amusingly, I used to live with one DiSer I met after posting a "I have a spare room" ad. We also lived with an old fella from my work which led to an immortal conversation with the parents:
Parents: "Who are you living with?"
M.A.Evans: "A guy I met on the internet and an old man".
I used to get this on the Sea Power boards- people were convinced I was a woman called "Ma Evans". Convincing people I was actually a Michael A Evans was difficult.
faceparty. That shit was ahead of it's time. Shows what kind of people went on the web 5 years ago that the early social networking sites was just people trying to get there end away and/or have sex with underage girls.
What a fucked up site that was lol.
tasty indie flesh
eg "i met them at a gig. we knew the same people"
people always think dating site
easy, and true.
we met at an indie disco after an all day gig in a church, when the dj played a sonic tune and we danced together. it was fun.