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Have I just been stupid and horrible or other?
kinda, yeah. But at the same time, if it wasn't worth keeping up over the distance, it wasn't worth keeping up over the distance.
next year, bath to France/Spain
year after, wherever I am after I graduate to Bath.
She's currently in Spain on her year abroad. They've been fine so far.
I probably shouldn't say that...
Obviously there's a lot more to it than just distance to factor in. Having been separated by distance and nowt else I know the feeling.
anyway, at the minute it is ok if difficult, but mentally (as well as financially) I know I won't be able to do it next year. I guess I wanted to end it before it got to that stage.
Her name's Nicole. Working for Vodafone in Madrid. Having a riot, I hear.
Sounds like you took the sensible route. Give it time, it'll be fine.
It's a tough one, because it really hurts now, but if staying together was causing you both heartache then you might be better off this way in the long run...
even when it feels like it never will, it does, i promise.
it was more of a nip it in the bud...at the minute it isn't too bad, but I know in myself that I won't be able to carry a relationship on over a year by only seeing her once, twice if that...first every gf too...gash. God this is getting a bit too emo.
this was the explanation my ex gave me back in october, but we live on different continents. he said he couldn't take seeing me only once or twice a year & that it was unfair for me to travel over when he couldn't come up with the money at the time to visit me, etc, although when i'm in the uk i tend to be visiting my family so i think his reasoning was faulty in some aspects. ah, me going emo now, sorry.
but you have to do what you have to do right? it hurts and sucks for both parties involved, but if you didn't feel it could last i guess it's better to do it sooner rather than later cos it might've cause more hurt and whatnot later...
so i don't seem so much a downer. :)
If it's another continent then you did the right thing. If it's a couple hundred miles then you're basically saying that your relationship meant less to you than the cost of a return train ticket.
Go with your gut.
I did pretty much the same, but I realised that I wouldn't have cared about distance if there really was nothing else wrong.
sorry about last night, that's kind of when it all came out.
I think I am a bit needier than I thought I was.
Come to White Heat on tuesday night yes?
then theres nothing worth keeping
i didn't work.
that was after 5 years of awesome times. wooo. :(
Bit cold like, but the right thing to do.
because she was so upset it was awful, but I guess I couldn't really expect anything else. It wasn't like I was planning to do it this weekend either, it was just worming away in my brain and came out. But yeah, better now than in the aftermath of a row in the summer.
Meh, I'm just a bit down about it - not that it wasn't the right thing to do but the fact that it occured. I'll try, man, I try :)