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Or do they just 'settle'?
fancying another fatty is "settling"?
but I never fancied fat people when i was obese anymore then I do now or did last year. It depends on the individual
but I have wondered whether people sub-consciously fancy people who are more on their looks level though. Like I don't like gillette man looks at all, I can see it's handsome but it doesn't do it for me, why???
When you see a really obese couple, you sometimes wonder if they find that attractive. I'm not talking about slightly chubby, I guess I'm saying unhealthily obese people, who obviously have issues with eating. I don't find that attractive, so I was just wondering if they actually like the way their partner looks, or if they just see past it & into what they're like on the inside. I don't think it's moronic to wonder that...
Even if I worry that the overall visual effect is like that nature programme where male seals copulate with female seals, which are about half their size and it looks a tad ridiculous.
Incidentally I know a few men who fancy women who of quite a large build and they're all rather skinny. This piece of research has no scientific merit to it whatsoever.
Do ugly people who really really love each tell each other they're beautiful
I tell my boyfriend he's beautiful all the time :'''''')
His moustache is better than cleavage.
Although, sometimes I hold my finger up to try and block the moustache out and then he asks me what I'm doing and I say I'm trying to remember what he looked like without it and then he looks a little bit sad.
you win the stupid question of the day award
why? are they not individuals? some will feel obliged, some won't, it's exactly the same with thin people.
I can't really see how being fat/not being fat and being shallow/not being shallow would be meaningfully related...
Either they're less shallow because they don't see becoming fat as as much of a horrible state as most people, and allow themselves to over-eat. Or (where they've become fat not by the accord of their personality) awareness of their own fatness has altered them and they lose interest in making other people finding them attractive.
Then there's fat people who desperately want to be thin, and I don't blame them either.
if that is really not being shallow. Being more or less coerced into holding a seemingly enlightened perspective somewhat undermines it, IMO
I don't even know who or what you're refering to. Me? Fat people? theguywithausername?
Or are you calling me fat??
if you become seemingly less shallow because you've end up in a position where you feel you have to have lower standards, then you are still really pretty shallow. Not really disagreeing with you or calling anyone fat.
granted it wasn't a very erudite point to begin with
I can see your logic but I think you're wrong on this one Or at least I think people might be midly overweight due to not being that fussed how they look but I don't think you can get hugely overweight just by being a bit careless and generally poor self-esteem and an emotional dependence on food would be much bigger factors (or of course medical conditions in some cases, though not as many as some fat people would have you believe). I think once people get fat they often but a brave face on things and claim they aren't worried but I think that's a decision taken after the event.
The other point I'd make is there's a difference between not being arsed about how you look and not being shallow. It's entirely possible and not at all contradictory to not have huge standards about your own appearance and apply exacting standards to what you want a partner to look like. Or vice-versa. Not caring about your own apperance isn't necessarily a sign you aren't shallow when it comes to others.
i mean, it's not like she should be less shallow because she's overweight. the inverse is allowing someone to be a cunt because they're conventionally beautiful.
why they would end up with another fat person. Most of them want to be thin.
I think I used the term shallow to mean more than it really does. What I should have mentioned is that the root causes of a lot of people who're fat - like you said poor self-esteem and emotional dependence on food - are major personality traits that a fat couple would have in common and understand in eachother. And that if you're happy with your own weight (different from not being fussed about how you look in general), provided other people don't make it an issue, you're more likely to see past someone else's, which is definitely demonstrative of being less shallow than most people.
you prpbably disagree, but god this is boring, please don't reply.
Surely if fat people have poor self-esteem and emotional dependence on food they almost certainly won't be happy with their own weight and you could reasonably hypothesise the dislike of their own body image makes it turn less likely they'll fancy someone with a similar body image? And thus for this reason a fat person is less likely to fancy (or even not be put off by the weight of) another fat person?
I'd be very happy for you not to reply to this should you choose not to.
All i wanted to point out is that the situation i describe is possible, but i really doubt it's commmon.
Just wondering, like.
i fancy visually impaired people so so much and my eyesight's fine.
there's always some erm, 'pulling', no, no matter how conventionally unattractive the couple are?
i know a couple where the woman is quite large and the man is skinny. i personally think she could do a lot better than him, but maybe she couldn't because of weight? that sounds awful, but if i think of my male friends, none of them would ever go out with really overweight girls. personally if i was a man, i'd find curves, proper ones, quite sexy, but men seem to have REAL problems with it.
but pretty much never agree on anything you say about how men see things. Pretty much all men admit to liking curves. They, not unlike women, just don't generally like fat all that much.
just at a moderate, healthy amount
I'm sure you know exactly what I meant. If men didn't like all fat the human race would die out pretty sharpish...
but it's hard to know what one person deems "fat" and not just "curvy"
How about 'They, not unlike woman, just don't like massive amounts of fat'
and maybe i was generalising, but it's just something i've noticed. i think a lot of people don't differentiate between curves (say a size 12-16) and fat.
We're either fat or not. We can't be curvy!
If you read fashion magazines then Kate Moss is now a much bigger size than she was before and Kate Winslet is fat. This might be the reason why so many "normal-sized" women seem to diet constantly and feel bad about their "fat" but few men would agree with that definition. SCurvy and fat are different things.
Scurvy probably makes you thin. And dead eventually.
height? bra size?
damn, it's just an eye :)
I already have an image in my head, although it's probably completely wrong. Wow, that sounds creepy, sorry.
you're called Kate, all Kate's are hot as.
and i'm a size 8/10. i hate it when people use it as a euphemism for "fat"
let's not forget this key fact
Maybe it's like you say and it's because I think I stand more chance with them, I dunno. I don't like thinking that because it confirms my even deeper belief that I am actually a terrible person.
of individuality or independent thought, and your brain gets replaced with a chip that just generates random food names.
This is so stupid even for a stupid spin-off thread.
I didn't make it seriously, I know it's a stupid thread.
then how about, you, know, not posting it or something?!
do you just sit at home trawling through the internet looking for things to get irate about?
In the hope that maybe people will realise they're being stupid and attempt doing something about it. But I guess that makes me an overly optimistic person.
But, hey, maybe we should just accept and forgive stupidity as a society. That would be a great idea, no?
meaning that you think stupid people should be punished in some way? If you mean stupid as in people with a lower level of intelligence (however you measure that) should be treated differently or not be allowed to talk or act how they please, then I think that society is pretty much a facist regime. I don't think stupidity is something society should have to 'forgive', and why should those you consider 'stupid' not be accepted by society?
So yeah, I do think it would be a great idea if society accepted people who weren't blessed with a fantastic intellect.
pocketmouse is this odd internet robot who sees anyone who says anything to disagree with her as "stupid". as far as i can tell, she lives roughly the exact lifestyle you'd expect someone like that to live.
There's probably not much difference in stupidity levels between Oxbridge and an inner city council estate. You don't have to know things, or be academically able - being stupid is different.
This thread is stupid. Not being able to multiply two numbers isn't 'stupid'.
I spend most of my internet time here. This thread is in my view. That's basic vision, not "trawling".
God forbid anyone should have free speech.
Not your borderline-offensive view of what 'stupid' is.
is what makes DiS funtimes
the thing with DiS is, you can have stupid so long as those who are good at stupid play ball.
So this is funtimes for me.
or replace food with lots of drink
or maybe loks are only skin deep.
that by the standards of the social board it's pretty mild
but i took a course about a year and a half ago as an elective about interpersonal communications (completely outside my field of study). in it we studied quite a bit of different things, but if i recall correctly people will tend to date people they find on the same "level" of attractiveness as them...although i don't completely understand this. like say you see someone really attractive with someone you find completely unattractive and undeserving of a partner of that standard, the attractive partner likely sees themselves as that attractive or whatever, if you get what i'm saying? but it seems contradictory to me because the other partner is probably not in that mindset, although i guess if you have the opportunity of dating someone "on a higher level" you won't turn it down? frankly, i feel like it's a load of bull, but that could possibly be reasoning. that and what people find attractive and whatnot.
...get bamos in here and ask him if he fancies me, you'll have your answer then
people fancy people who are the same attractiveness as them. so fat on fat is a strong possibility
haha yesss. lol.
wait...???? I can't really judge that can I? If I fancy someone of course I'm going to think they're really attractive.
I can think of some real car crash threads...
isn't that funny.
Gimme chubby lovin' (anyday)
my weight has been known to fluctuate massively (in the summer I cycle up to 20 miles a day and eat properly - in the winter I eat all day, do no exercise and blob out) and I have fancied people ranging from 'skinny as a 12 yo boy' to erm... well 'voluptous' would be the generous way of putting it.
Acutally that isn't interesting is it? As you were.
Not sure if the same rule applies to fatsos.
it really depends on how fat. Some tubbers are pretty hot, as long as it's chunk and not rolls of greasy flab
i like fat chicks