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i feel better. thanks
I'm not the pining for my un-requited love type
don't know how many
it was probably 7/8 years, but i forgot about it for a year or so and then it came back for a bit and it should be gone by now.
Luckily I got over it, although pretty soon I risked repeating the whole process. However, this time, within 5 months, I managed to start a relationship from it :)
i still love you, lily cole
and just about no longer counting
It’s been tempered somewhat by her being at the other end of the country, but every time I go back up to Newcastle and see her it tops up the butterflies.
Just boys in general. Sorry. Can we still be marriedz?
marckee's a loser :P
I'm pretty sure I love her though. I think that makes it okay.
when you're really young it's hard to tell, what if you'd never loved before?
It's not like identifying a plant you've not learnt about before. You *know* when you're falling in love. The first time (and maybe after, idk) you might not immediately realize you're falling in love, like match up the word, but as soon as you think about it, you know what it is.
Yeah, ok then, in that case it does.
Anyway: You're right, you don't know. It's not like identifying a plant you've not learnt about before. You *know* when you're falling in love. The first time (and maybe subsequent times, idk) you might not immediately realize it, not match up the word right away, but as soon as you think about it, you know what it is.
Suppose I actually don't know. Just something I felt quite sure of.
Do they know?
Do they have a partner?
Have you sexed them?
This was back in school. From elementary school through high school, on and off a bit. Both fancied each other. I don't know what he's doing now. We never acted on it.
I find it strange when people don't. I probably did that when I was younger. It's sad how teenagers can be so unsure of themselves :-(
And it was the fifth grade, not a lot of dating going on, and yeah, I would never have been sure enough of myself anyway. Plus he also liked another girl then as well, which didn't help.
In higher grades, we just weren't as close anymore and didn't know how the other felt for sure ever. I never fancied him quite as much again, anyway, once we weren't as close.
yeah, she knows. she kinda liked me for a while but we too geographically separate, as it were.
she has a partner
we never did owt
i'm gettin' over it
thanks for asking
A sequence of them, yes.
No, but I went out with her and subsequently found out she was a nutter. Ended it quickly.
This was in the final years of high school.
yeah (I think they still have)
Do they know? No.
Do they have a partner? Not at the moment.
Have I sexed them? No.
The problem is that she is in my circle of close friends, and experience has taught us that whenever any of us get together, it can cause problems. Added to that, the fact that just about all my male friends divide into two groups: those that have a crush on her also, and those that see her as a sister, means that really good friendships could be upset by anything happening.
not anymore, though.
giving me fits of "Oh my God I need to do something and tell her otherwise I'll die, even if it does ruin her relationship/our friendship group/my mental health."
But they only ever lasted a few months. Then I found someone else. I'm currently about 6 weeks into an unrequited crush, so am probably due to hit the endzone pretty soon.
will get a lot of answers...
I was pretty obsessed with her at one point, I used to bang my head against my bedroom wall and start crying because I couldn't be with her, yeah I was a REALLY emotionally stable teenager, lol.
If I see her again, (it's been several months, but she does disappear for long periods) I'll probably fall in love with her all over again. I'm sure that part of me liked her just because she was so nice to me at school and she didn't care that other morons bullied me, I really admired her for that. She was the first girl I could actually have a proper conversation with and not be scared shitless about it, I was impossibly shy.
Wow, this is painfully emo :(
just take solace in the fact that it will DEFINITELY work out between you two according to every american teen comedy I've ever seen (and that's quite a few)
because she might've said yes. It was too late by this point.
I felt awful about it before, but I feel so much better now, cheers DiS!!
If someone's fit I tend to fancy them forever
I'm quite good at putting that kind of thing to the back of my mind if thinking about it too much would be inappropriate for some reason. I can only think of one real example but there was maybe only a month or two in which I really thought about it at all over the course of two years or so. We're quite good friends.
from the age of 11 or 12 to about 17. I think it tailed off slightly when I was 15 and he left school, but then I remember coming home one summer when I was 19 and thinking that I saw him across the road, and yelling 'Adam! Hey!' and er, it wasn't him. So I probably still liked him, eight years on.
Not sure why - he wasn't even facially pretty or especially funny or clever, but he was really nice and quite cool (being a proper skater). However, he must really have had something as all the hot girls in school wanted to 'go out' with him (and they did :""""()
and then she moved to Wales. :(
until they asked me how I felt, then said they felt the same, but it turns out they didnt really
they did when they didnt?
She was in a relationship for a year, and then by the end of uni we were going to be in two different places. So I think the second goodbye helped me a bit, i.e coming to terms with something I struggled to do before. It's quite a crap experience to be fair.
there's just so many hot people out there. it seems a real shame to pine after someone who's not interested. i mean, if you can't face going out with someone else, spend that time making yourself feel good about life in general?
it sounds really doctor phil, but i can't really imagine feeling all the angst that i did back then (well,not being teenage anymore). it just seems so much wasted energy.
Not now though.
I can't do it.
I can turn anyone anytime should I so please.
Been pretty hard as well, what with her being a best mate and all. We havent really seen each other much now she's got a boyfriend. I think she knows I still like her (I told her last Jan, she was seeing someone, it was glossed over), she only ever invites me to nights she knows her bf wont be present at.
rather not dwell on it.
A lot of things, why you like anyone I guess. I would elaborate but I can't really, there was just something there, y'know? Sigh.
from 11 to 18, of varying intensities. He's not even hot now! We nearly kissed once. God, I was a teenage loser.
But that imploded messily in a Werther/Charlotte-minus-the-mediating-3rd-type-situation, though obviously not quite as messily as it could have. I tried to extricate myself from the whole thing feeling it was deceitful and selfish to pine after somebody so much, but she sent me a letter every day for a month expressing her (platonic) love. I read a lot of Baudelaire in that period. Ultimately we severed the link.. I still receive letters and lines from things in the post, though we don't speak anymore.
Then I did what any decent man would have done. Got horrendously drunk and used my position as a Student Union DJ at a university where 70% of the campus population was female to move on.
Don't think you can love (in the 'in love' sense) someone you haven't been in a relationship with either. Sorry all.
with someone that you don't really know the first thing about, relationship-wise. You can rlly, rlly like someone and have some good foundations but that's about it.
Doesn't depend on how you define 'love' or being 'in love' either.
You're wrong. What do you know about this guy or girl, really? Have you woken up next to them for weeks on end, seen all the annoying little things they do, watched them throw up into a toilet bowl, argued furiously with them over who last had the remote, agreed to go and visit their parents even though it bores you to tears, seen first hand what they are like with a partner rather than just a romanticised projection of what you think they're like etc? Nope.
but it's still love, even if something happens in the future to spoil it.
then i said something. not good move. we did get back to being friends pretty soon after though thankfully.
Its a pretty low level kind of fancying that gets reactivated if I see her. She's only got more attractive, and the stupid thing is I reckon I might have a chance if she didn't live in a different country. I'd rather keep her as a 'what if' though - it'd totally spoil it now if anything happened
we ended up going out and doing all sorts of naughty things. i was 15. she was HAWT. I remember when she said she liked me, I actually was like "you're kidding,y yeah?" and then i was like :D. that was an awesome summer i tell thee
which happens to be about 3-4 years.
No, she doesn't know
Yes she's in a relationship
No sexy time.
which happens to be 3-4 years
No, she doesn't know
Yes, she's in a relationship
No sexy time
I fancy him but I don't want a relationship with him because his mates are all bellends and he pays too much attention to them.
Oh yeah, she knew as a result of me drunkenly phoning her after a gig to confess my love. The next day we went for coffee, so I call that a result in a sense.
It was a bit of an obsession for a while. It all came out a few times and we kissed & stuff a few times. I always blew it by getting all like “woah I’m so into you” and rushing things forward. It was pathetic. The other day I met up with her again and she told me she had a boyfriend which pretty much knocked me for six but put things in perspective – I’ve been obsessed for the same girl for the last six years, it’s time to move on you fucking douche. If anything was ever going to happen it would have done a long time ago.
and it's good because you have an excuse not to direct your mental energies elsewhere.
then I got drunk and asked her out. I recommend it.
Almost 3 years
but then we were sleeping together at the time, it just wasn't a relationship.
We are great friends. So that isn't as sad as it looks.