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cos I never do anymore.
Until some Glasgow DiSers told me that this particular begger was a conman.
Now I don't trust 'em.
I give to buskers sometimes if i like the music. The tin whistle guy's ok, and there was someone playing an electric guitar in a tunnel the other day (must've been using batteries?)
Every now and again i think that i should sign up to shelter. Does anyone else ever find that their posts tend to trail off into streams of consciousness?
I don't want the money I've given to a beggar to be spent on smack or whatever. When I was in Oxford some beggar asked me for some spare change so I gave her some, then she had the fucking cheek to say 'that's not enough'. I walked back, took my money out of her money pot and told her to do one. Ungrateful bitch.
Hey Joe, how's things?
I'm alright thanks, am slowly losing the will to live (work stuff, I won't bore you with details). How's Le France? I'm supposed to be going to Paris sometime before July...
What are you off to Paris for?
Why have they blockaded the uni? My friend's currently working as au pair out there, and I'm supposed to go see her but I'm currently without a passport, and they cost a bomb to replace...
Job cuts and the like. Ooooh sounds like fun! I should be here til May/June, could day trip up to Paris to say hello... :) tehehe.
How much does it cost to replace a passport? I'm convinced I'll lose mine before the year's out.
I don't know Paris at all so you could be my official tour guide (free, of course!). It costs about £75, I lost mine, but the police found it and sent me a letter to inform me, but when I called them they told me they'd sent to to Peterborough passport office to be destroyed :(
why had they sent it to be destroyed?!
I'll be a tour guide but if you wanna go to the top of the Eiffel Tower, you're on your own, ditto the Arc de Triomphe. I will however take you to an awesome bar and we will drink tequila.
I did the London Eye and the Polo tower in Morecambe, that'll do for me thank you very much.
They destroyed it because 'it may have come in contact with a third party'. It DID come in contact with a third party, the police, and I wish they'd given it back!
I usually end up falling for the guilt trip, but you're right, it's damned ungrateful!
and been told to fuck off
There are way too many in this city and they're all bloody rude except for that black guy in the hat who's always singing and praising the lord. Stokes Croft is absolute hell.
about that horrible man who gives them fake 20 pound notes with maps to job centres on the back of them? He was photographed clutching one like it was a fucking oscar.
I love the poll results most. I voted Hero.
I find it hard to say no, depending on how they approach it.
'twas a pregnant woman the other day, and a South African backpacker a couple of days later. I try to limit it to silvers though.
Once my ex gave a girl who must have been pilling off her head £20. That was when I'd given her all my change and she'd asked if I couldn't go get her more from the cashpoint.
Cuz these days it pisses me off that all sit by cash points, or over here they all sit outside supermarket doors [i.e. knowing you've probably got dollar on you]
I'll buy the Big Issue though, and usually give them a bit extra [hopefully for a cuppa, but probably not. Sigh]
I hate the fact they seem to think they can guilt you into giving them money by sitting in 'strategic' locations.
It's about avoiding the whole charity bit, right?
people are more likely to buy it if there is a general feeling that the sellers are playing a role in economic society. The reality is, depending on your location, a few quid a day for 10 hours work.
"Obviously getting notes out of an ATM is going to make you feel guilty if there's a guy there asking you for money, but often the reason you've gone to the ATM is that you don't have any cash on you in the first place. And I'm not going to hand over a tenner. They should sit next to the machines in the amusement arcade instead. 'Got any change?' Get out of that one, gamblers."
wanting to sit in places where they're more likely to get money, what a load of dicks.
I do have some sympathy but I don't think it's fair of them to try and guilt trip the rest of the population [a lot of whom, right now, are struggling enough as it is] into giving them money by sitting right next to a cash point. It's as subtle as a brick and not likely to get them any empathy.
joeymahone's point is a good'un too.
either you can't afford to give them anything or don't agree with giving them money. I think you'll find if you just say "sorry i haven't got anything" they'll usually say "OK have a nice day", cos the're very concious of what people think of them and the consequences this has for people giving to them generally.
a cup of tea/coffee/slice of pizza more likely.
His memory was great, he knew you from the last time you gace him money (months ago) and hassled you senseless.
I stopped then. I think the last time was when this guy tried to sell me the Big Issue, i gave him the money and he asked me if i wanted the mag (!!)... i realised he wasnt a proper vendor. The little tyke!
only away from my house though. There is a guy outside West Kensington tube station who, every monday, without fail, hankers around outside asking for some money towards a train to Brixton. He's been doing this for 6 months. I thought he would've learnt by now.
because I feel like I should just trust them on principle even though I'm convinced that they're lying
in fact FAR too often, people base their opinions about homeless people on single incedents that have happened to them or that they've heard about. Homelessness is a very real and serious problem for far too many people, especially in London, and it saddens me to hear people demonise those in society who are needy and potentially desperate.
says she still offers food and drink sometimes, just not money.
I just personally don't want the risk of my money going on alcohol or drugs. Sorry.
i imagine you do a damn sight more than most (including me) to help the homeless.
i just think it's better to give to homeless charities than beggars. unless you happen to have a spare sarnie or fancy buying a cup of tea or a can of stella. and people refusing food is just ridiculous, especially free hot restaurant food.
and i don't think it would be very common, and so shouldn't form people's opinions (I know it hasn't for you)
in the case of when they refused, they initially said they were hungry as a way of getting cash.
I'm now going to browse the Daily Mail website for two hours to wash my brains of this comment.
And I don't disagree with giving them money - it's clearly very degrading for somebody to be reduced to begging for money to survive.
It's difficult to explain, and obviously some will disagree with me, but I just object to those who sit by cashpoints. It's a cunning move to try and get cash, and even if we "shouldn't" feel guilty about it, it puts the pressure on to give something and I always feel uncomfortable getting money out with somebody sat by my feet wanting me to give them some. I just don't think it's fair game, I guess, though I suppose equally it's hardly fair game that they're in that position in the first place. I'm not mean by any stretch of the imagination... But sometimes they take the piss. A woman in Paris overheard my friend and I speaking English, so stopped us and held up a sign asking for money - in English. Outside Gare Montparnasse in Paris is just chaos with beggers around trying to get cash off commuters/tourists.
When I worked in a restaurant, a woman came in begging for money saying she was hungry. We offered her a free meal and she walked out. Hmm.
a beggar came up saying 'i have no money and i'm starving can i have some money'
my mum says no but you can have a doughnut (a krispy kreme nonetheless)
and he says no thanks and walks off
cue us being very bemused.
If I'm in a good mood and loaded, it depends on the person.
I don't like to be patronised, and I don't want to hear sob stories. I don't expect them to be grateful, but if they ask for more I'm firm with them "you're taking the piss mate" or something along those lines.
I don't care what they spend it on.
Catch me right and I'm very generous. If not I'm a miserable miserly bastard.
I gave one a tenner once & I think that’s basically got me covered for life.
I've ran two half marathons for the same homeless charity (Julian House) and raise nearly £500 quid. I'll be one sat next to Ian Botham in the afterlife.
who don't appear to be smackheads. Or I give them my food if I happen to be eating at the time.
I'll offer food or a cuppa, but to date only one person has ever taken me up, an Irish bloke in Camden, who was incredibly thankful for the bag of chips I bought him.
My hals of residence were on the edge of Oxford Street and Covent Garden, so I've more beggar anecdotes than you can shake a stick at, most I won't bore you with as you've probs all heard them before
otherwise, not that often to be honest. Yes, sub-human scum.
last night I went past a beggar sitting at the South Bank, when it was raining terribly. He kept asking for change for a cup of tea. I mean, situations like that, when it's pissing down with rain and the guy's obviously going to be sick if he stays out, make me not care at all what the money's for, as long as they make enough to decide to get up.
not that i actually did give him any change. just uh, thought about it.
Sometimes I'll give them a cigarette if they say "Can I have a fag?" and I say "No, it's my last one" when it isn't my last one. I pretend I've gone to buy a new packet and go back to give them one (I also do this anyway if it really was my last one). Every time I do it, I always expect them to be appreciative and be like "Oh, cheers pal!" but they always just snatch the fag and go "Got a light?" Smelly, ungrateful bastards.
So, to answer your question: No, I don't.
the irish guy in camden who goes around telling politcally incorrect jokes.
well. everyone knows who he is anyway.
i was sad :'-(
even if they're a bit shite.
I sometimes give money to beggars, more often to women than men.
I give to buskers almost always, but never beggars.
And if I was the Terminator, I'd crush the face of every single one that came up to me and actually asked me to give them money.
"people say don't give money to beggars cos they'll just spend it on drinking or drugs, but to be fair, i'll just be doing the same with it and they probably need it more than me"
though i'm not directly putting money into a beggar's hands, i like to think im giving the money to people who can help them a lot more than my bit of change could.
I occasionally give to buskers.
1. BEcause I'm a complete bastard.
2. Because I'd end up a very poor man myself, given the amount of beggars in Exeter.
The guy by the M&S is usually worth a quid or something
and if i know i don't need it myself.
i just think, if i was on the street, i know i'd always want people to give me some money, so i help them out.
even if you don't give them money, i think it's really important to at least look at the person talking to you, say 'no, sorry', or at least give them some kind of response. it sickens me seeing people just stride on past, not even looking at them, as though they're sub-human. it's horrible.
the angry woman with the little dog scares me too much. She's actually one of the scariest women ever, in the world. :'(
a.) they are really nice to me
b.) it's friday and it's my weekly donation
Is that sufficient?
on a strictly case-by-case basis
I sometimes give money to the tramp who writes poetry because he is polite and respectful.
I know he spends it all on Heroin though :(