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personally. any ideas welcome. im feeling very low at the moment.
fuck happy thoughts
contentment is the way to go
drinkings actually a fairly handy short term fix
Share everything you're worried about with a friend. Then go do something fun with them (have some beers and watch Anchorman for example). It's a cliche, but a problem shared is a problem halved is pretty spot on.
part of my problem is that the only person i can do this with at the moment is ignoring me.
ends up making me more depressed.
im not sure Shearwater is helping though.
is where it's at.
made me feel nothing rather than better.
if i'm feeling low i always find tidying helps, it takes your mind off stuff, and also being somewhere messy is really depressing. So yeah, tidy and have a shower.
see, it works!
2) Suck it up.
Hammer the red wine and weed until my brain becomes a horrible self-pitying mulch and I no longer have any control over my motor functions whilst listening to every sad song attached to every bad memory in my MP3 player. Repeat a few times till depression reaches it's lowest ebb and up is the only left way to go.
I should point out this is not the method medical professionals would recommend, but it works for me.
They should be in my newly converted lazar house spinning flax.
oh yeah, it's because you're an unempathic self-obsessed cunt. right?
Are you one of the following?
1. A 1950s Public Service ad
2. A PE Teacher
3. The Duchess of Devonshire
either way, that's not the most "helpful" response you've given.
You have no idea what may ahev caused this bloke to feel like this.
if it's actual depression, see a doctor
i dont know if its actual depression. i get in this sorta mood every 3-4 months, but not as bad as this.
Do lots of physical exertion. Tired bodies tend to need sleep and have little time for (ir)rational thought. Plus, you'll get the body of an Adonis which may cheer you up.
i have weights at home. dont fancy running alone. could ask my housemate i guess
Never your housemate.
exercising at home is great if you're uber-motivated. If however you're doing this to battle the onset of depression, I guess that won't be the case. Try to join a gym and get there 3-4 times a week; failing that, running or swimming. You should absolutely try running alone; even if someone comes with you occasionally you're not going to want to be depending on someone else.
Exercise is great because it also serves to help with regulating sleep patterns as gowman says. Also on the irrational thoughts thing; a great idea is to get into audiobooks and podcasts(/radio 4, even). It's very difficult to attend to speech and generate subvocal speech at the same time.
I need to get more exercise too..
Helps you forget your troubles, and gives you something to look forward to.
it doesnt really help. sometimes i feel just as depressed with them. and its not because of them.
I remember once at a very low ebb I took the day off work because I was feeling so dull-headed and decided to work out all the money I owed people and what I was owed, going back through all my bank statements, making sure of my insurance, etc.
I actually felt a LOT better by the end and hadn't realised how much a lot of this was weighing on me.
Pee_vee's right about tidying too. Have a clear out. Make your total stuff 'less', putting things on ebay or whatever so you psychologically lighten your load.
All this is fairly light because I can only talk about the sort of depression that makes you very sad but would never lead to you being self-destructive. I've never had the really bad sort.
maybe yr right about tidying out. i do have a lot of clutter
or you're just feeling a bit down.
Practical suggestions (exercise, getting out more, addressing life things etc) can help both sides, but if you're in a massive funk of 'medical' depression then sometimes you just need to bite ze bullet and go see a doctor.
i genuinely don't know which is which, or how you define it
do you feel at all suicidal?
are you being reckless/self-destructive?
do you find the notion of even opening your mouth to speak to someone ridiculous and embarrassing?
I'd say if you answer 'yes' to any of those then you're probably best off going to see a doctor.
sucks to be you! i kid, i kid.
yeah, just go see a doctor. they'll probably offer you medication and to put your name on a waiting list for NHS counselling. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is very trendy right now so they'll probably mention that. It's entirely up to you what you choose to do - do be wary when checking out anti-depressants online as there are a lot of scare stories that really really really are nothing you need to worry about.
(dont really do this)
make a list of why you're depressed. tick the things off one by one as you sort them out.
congealed to one. im not sure what i can actually sort out, but i guess its gotta be step-by-step
a trip to a farm would work wonders.
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=G-yaHgwxMV4 try 2:48 mins in.
if im ever stick in some shitty class and well upset,i draw shite
a map of eurasia is the latest thing
nefore that just loads of swirls and shit
I just stop thinking about it and move on.
and have elongated chaaaaaat. Works for me when I'm down.
i just feel idiotic.
but there was one point about a month or two ago where things just got too bad, so I fired off a text to one of my best mates who i haven't seen in ages but still text alot etc...either way, pouring it all out to her was really theraputic, if a bit brutal in the midst. Also went for a pint with lbc earlier in the day which cheered me up alot.
and just CHAT (call someone who is chatty) I promise you will feel better after.
i had someone to talk to. I don't have any close friends anymore.
I had someone to talk to. I don't have any close friends anymore...
Talking about it with some understanding people helps sometimes. Distracting yourself from it all helps thru the day. If your feeling really low for a long period of time maybe go and have a chat with ya doc's or something like that. Good luck man.
and i know exaclty why. this doesn't help things though.
if you were suffering from clinical depression, there's no way you'd be chatting on a forum. You wouldn't be doing anything at all. Lots of handy pick-me-ups are listed above, especially the one about telling a close friend how you feel (family are too close) and doing something fun with them. I personally can vouch for that, i was in the depths of doom for nearly 3 months, years ago, and what turned me around was getting back in touch with friends who I had been avoiding cos I had lost all sense of worth and I had a really negative self-image. Existential anguish on the other hand is perfectly rational in this day and age ;)
and drink lots of water.
Also don't hide away from the world, and try and laugh at stuff, i know it sounds simple but it really helps.
Not being on the internet.
Self administered cognitive therapy.
Get lots of sleep.
Do things. Be active.
each person will deal with it different depending on what's causing it.
Personally I've found trying to work out what's wrong and trying to be very proactive helps, but stuff like exercise and good diet can go a long way to making sure you don't feel lethargic so have a bit of energy to go about changing things.
I'd avoid alcohol- it's a depressant and can make things messy!
binge on a mcd's and get two smarties mcflurries.
is to wallow in it. Don't fight it. you can almost get pleasure from delving right into your sorrow.
And also stick with the thought that you will always, always feel better again at some point, no matter how remote it might seem.
have a listen to bill hicks, bobcat goldthwait or henry rollins, read some more of the Vonnegut i'm currently devouring or having a walk across some fields and hills near where i live.
there's only two ways to get through this if you don't want to just ride it out and stand-up/reading/drugs don't work for you: have a cry, or go and get tanked.
if you're struggling to pinpoint what it is that's making you depressed (and with the nature of depression it can be nothing at all), trying talking to a close friend about it, or if that's not really an option, look towards counselling. you're at uni, right? most unis have a free counselling service, they may not be the best of the best but they're generally helpful and useful to a point.
those are long-term fixes though right? in the short-term, i dunno? surround yourself with people who make you feel good about life - try to get into fun social situations that don't involve excessive drink: alcohol can be good in these circumstances, but it can be bad too and the worst thing is you never know until you're drunk whether you'll react well or badly on each particular occasion.
also, i know it might seem tempting, but avoid music which you know makes you feel sad, or invokes bad memories. try to listen to more music that makes you feel good about yourself as a person, and reminds you of good times, be it from your youth or last week or whatever.
but if you really feel you are suffering from depression, go talk it through with a counsellor, and if it's getting worse, go and see a doctor: i hate the idea of prescription medicine for depression but the fact is it IS a medical condition caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and yes, medication can ease it, although i'd say that would have to be a last resort. but if you really feel you're suffering, look to improve your mood as and when you can in the short-term, and seek out solutions maybe like i've suggested to help you in the long-term. but it is different for everyone, and as such there's different little things and treatments for everyone
go out lots. surround yourself with people you associate with good times. place yourself in a position where drinking, dancing and conversing are inevitable.
become awesome at your job. MAKE yourself be organised, push yourself through the apathy that does tend to accompany depression and get loads of stuff done so you can feel proud of yourself.
stay in with popcorn and your favourite comfort food and watch back-to-back brasseye/the day today/insert-failsafe-comedy-here.
talk it through with someone, but not so much that you go round in circles in a self-proving argument. get it out in the open, see what advice is on hand, then try and occupy yourself with something else.
you just REALLY really have to find someone that you trust and can be open with. I know not everyone has a person like that but....its really better to just open up to SOME ONE than not telling anyone about it and keeping it all inside. If there's no one irl, then internet people? Help on different sites? I hope you get some help soon:)
the one person i could talk to just accused me of being "clingy/needy". so....
sorry I have no useful advice. I feel lucky not to suffer from this, and when I feel a bit down (which is fairly rare) surrounding myself with friends tends to work for me.
Hope things pick up for you x
very angry and thump walls and things. It doesn't work.
I really wish I knew a good answer to this.
thats pretty much the most sober piece of advice here
i think so too
to encourage the conditions for breaking out of a cycle.
go out and hit the bottle. i'll assist you with this strategy next friday?
alcohol really doesnt help me though. but i think going down to london (being somewhere different) might cheer me up
even though I think most people would be depressed if they had my life. Anyway, when Im down I just draw the curtains, make my room look superb, eat and drink all the best foods and watch something hilarious.
OR go outside and look at the stars through binoculars, I can't get enough of doing this lately.
does not help mine it makes it 100000 times worse. forcing myself to speak to someone about it really helps me when i can actually do it (but i have depression coupled with social disordery something or other so temporarily conquering the latter is what makes me feel better about that i think) but other than that ummm. listening to music and writing fiction which is just awful but makes me feel better. TRAVELLING. just getting on a bus or train and going somewhere helps a millionfold. but for the most part i'm shit at dealing with it. oh well, i start my short life's 4th cycle of CBT tomorrow ha.
CBT is a godsend when you get someone good, i'd recommend it to anyone.
you can unload on them and they will listen, help you explore your feelings and get to the root of why you are feeling the way you are. with some friends i tend to feel when talk to them they dont really listen at all or offer some shitty advice or crappy cliche like things will be different in the morning etc, not really want u wanna hear. I volunteer for them, well worth a shot.
I discovered Elliott Smith and Finlandia Vodka isn't the best way