Sorry nightshift, this is not a nice thread to read. But I'm clueless so would like some advice please.
A friend is terminally ill. He has a brain tumour which has rapidly advanced this year. If he sees his 30th out at the end of October I think everyone will be grateful for that - it's that bad.
Last time I saw him he became incapacitated in a very short space of time and ended up in hospital again. All sorts of nasties happen when you have a tumour so he blacked out. Turned out he was okay that time but he'd had a three day lapse into a coma not long before then.
Contact has been brief since.
I've sent two texts in the last week. "Hey, I've got next week off, fancy meeting up? I'll come to your neck of the woods if it's easier". That was Monday. No reply.
Yesterday "Did you get my text earlier in the week? How are things?".
So now how do I make contact? I have his fiance on Facebook and I've also hunted down a very good friend of his on there - I just don't want to be a massive pest and contact *everyone*. Do I call him? If I contact her and things are really bad she's likely to be in a bad way and I, don't know, I just feel like it's not my place to intrude.
The friend I think is more realistic about things, but is also very very close and I sense also extremely upset. He was the guy who told me that his flatmate's boyfriend died two months after a "shunt" operation for a tumour.
My friend had his shunt two and a half months ago.
What should I do? I don't have any of the friends numbers.