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How do you do this without becoming horribly depressed? Is it possible?
i am horribly depressed living alone.
i find immersing myself in endless sitcoms helps numb the pain. i'm on Scrubs at the moment. WACKY!
you should live with people off here. we had a place available but it got filled just recently :(
i hate moving anyway, but i am moving in with a friend at the end of sept probably
ps i'm listening to For Hero now for about the 6th time since yesterday. awesome stuff!
the rest is wonderful too. i still prefer yell and ice, especially the song with the guy from bracken and the guy from wolf parade and the one with why?
Practically in the same room for both. And it hasn't done me any harm whatsoever. That said, I do hate people.
but now that i think back to everything I've ever done...yes, yes i do.
I like being on my own though.
but then you read the rest of his posts and realise that he's a massive, massive liar.
having no-one to talk to, and so just sitting on your own for hours on end can be a bit boring
i salute it
Nice people, anyway. And it's good as well if you ever need help with anything like killing a spider or moving something heavy, and there's someone else already there who can help you. Oh, and if you forget your keys, you can just knock on the door and someone will let you in. And sometimes you get home and someone else has done your washing up. (Y)
without having spider assistance and someone to open the door for me when I can't find my keys, and the washing up fairy. Social interaction is the important thing. Not everybody wants to be sociable when they're at home though, some people need more space to themselves.
I don't even like it when my housemates are all out.
I think you can do it if you're really anti-social and not really in touch with reality or if you have loads of friends and go out a lot.
but I've never been more wrong. Genuinely. Like maybe once, and then this is the second-biggest mistake I've ever made, probably.
Have you got space to get someone else to live with you, or could you move? In the short term: watch lots of DVDs, read lots of books, get a new hobby, try to go out lots.
And I've signed the lease for a year. It's been a grand total of six weeks now. Yeah, I go out as much as I can, and have company sometimes (but I don't really like to do this as I've got so little space and am in a crappy neighborhood) but ultimately I'm still alone.
The only other thing I can think of is if you have any friends who who are living in shared accomodation but want their own place who you could swap with, but that's a pretty long shot. Being lonely sucks.
Especially so i can get a kitten
but it's a lot worse than living with people and I'm spending far too much time on the internet.
one of the worst weeks ever. I really cant live on my own.
am i going to die?
i'll save you buddy.
i crave the social interaction too much
is the answer to your question.
the feeling depressed and alone.
You can't play 'Ooh, I wonder if he's bought milk...I bet he hasn't' then buy milk, get home, find out he has, and think 'Oh well! Two pints of milk for me!' then cane the milk as a suppertime treat alongside some toast. Even though you secretly knew all along that he'd got milk. It's good to kid yourself.
Also, if I lived on my own and ran out of fags, I'd have to get off my lazy arse and buy them rather than going 'Got any fags? I've ran out'.
These are the best reasons to live with someone else.
that shit is like 50p a pop.
They involve my flatmate making too much mash and letting me cane the rest; him coming home slaughtered on a Friday night with a bottle of sambuca and slamming on the best of Shed Seven; borrowing books/cds/whatever is a lot easier; you have someone there to help you up if you accidentally slice your toe open in the shower, then fall over after hopping about in pain and get stuck.
The "borrowing food" one is the best reason for me, though. I could see myself coming home to an empty fridge and accidentally killing myself because i couldn't be arsed restocking. Killing myself through lack of eating, i mean. Not just "oh, the fridge is empty, just like my life! I'll end it all now!"
I can see the interviews with the neighbours now: 'Oh, he kept himself to himself. If I'd known he was having issues with his empty fridge, I'd have posted him some ham myself. Poor man'.
of being killed by your housemates for nicking their food all the time :)
those are great reasons!
you've just reminded me that we've been playing "Ooh, I wonder if he's bought milk...I bet he hasn't" for about 5 days. and there's 3 of us. I have never seen so much milk, AND i have cookies.
i can do what i please when i please. i'm very sociable but i really love my own company too, i like being alone
but I'm already depresed anyway so I don't think it would matter that much. I have got bored of living with people from Uni days and want some space.
but i don't think it'll ever happen
enjoy my own company so. It just depends on what kind of person you are. I haven't lived on my own yet, but I cant wait to really. And I will go out as much as I can just to not get bored. Having time for urself is really nice:) the only person I'd want to live with would be a boyfriend.
i lived alone most of the time last year as my housemates were always away for long periods of time. it was nice.
and they're just gone out of the house for awhile, for the day or for a trip or something. That's why I thought I'd like this, but somehow it's totally different.
you merely exist.
I could decorate the place exactly how I wanted. There would be no one to steal my food/cigarettes/shampoo. I could have people round after a night out and no one would complain about the noise.
Blah, there are lots of reasons.
and live in it on my own...
I've spent a lot of time on my own. The secret is to keep busy and be happy.. try to fulfill yourself in other areas of your life... Learning to enjoy your own company can be a skill.. it took me YEARS to do it.
unless I was in a new city or something, where I was lacking in friendly social interaction. But I'm an only child so I've always coped fine by myself.
but I don't think I should. Living with someone else requires me to maintain a level or normalcy and links with proper social norms and/or conventions. I would probably get odd(er) on my own and be confused as to why the rest of the world wasn't on board with it.
no small talk, no nagging, and it actually made me get off my arse and go socialise more.
Theres something nice about sitting around watching crap telly with a flatmate though.
I'm just lazy enough to not get off my arse and socialise. I also might forget how, I'm not the darling of the chattering classes I used to be!
To the second point, I find much of my life to be like peep show; sat around a far too big TV taking sides for fun.
I do that all the time. If there is an underdog in any given programme, I will support it, no matter if I dont even like them,. I just like the conversation of protests that follows my declaration..maybe I am meant to be alone!
not alone, just with forgiving flatmates!
I thought it was quite fair.
have had relationships with lots of stayovers at hers or mines but I've become used to living alone. The only time I really have a problem with it is if I'm ill and wanting someone to wait on me hand and foot, guard and comfort me in my hour of need
I also go on holiday, to gigs and the cinema on my own, obvious dangerous loner
for me not to be there.
but I like people
and you will still get depressed anyway.
line, my 23 yo sister lives on her own and weight something like 6 and ahalf stone, and there is nobody there to pour sunflower oil all over her celery sticks:(