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girls would you offer to pay ur share and or would you be pissed off if you had to pay ur sharE?
girls that expect to be paid for can seriously fuck right off
I'd offer to pay my share if it was a bad date.
If it were good I'd offer to pay next time.
"I'll, umm, be back in a sec, need to go to the loo"
*sound of running feet*
It was a proud moment...
As a general rule I obviously think people should go Dutch.
The idea of the man being expected to pay is antiquated, illogical in an era where women work too and slightly patronising, as well as carrying the bizarre connotation women can and should be "bought".
it was probably to ensure she felt no further obligation to me whatsoever :(
but if he insisted on paying so be it. I'd do the "no it's fine" "no, really I insist" "oh, go on then".
I've previously been in relationships where he paid for NOTHING and was a total scrounge.
she sounds nice
a) a reply in the wrong place
b) a gender fail
c) a joke I don't get
thought starshaped was a guy saying he went out with a girl who paid for everything. but alas. i was wrong
to make huh? I mean I still think YOU might be a girl.
i just read the post wrong!
though I might hope for a nosh or something at some point. But the last time I went on a date, that shite remake of Starsky and Hutch was on in the cinemas.
i went out with a girl once who's parents were rich and got her a very well paid job in their office. however she thought the idea of me 'taking her out' and not paying for everything was disgusting. needless to say the bitch got hacked up and left in some dumpsters
just the done thing innit?
realise you've left your wallet at home
apparently i have no chance with girls ever because i think its a major turn off if they expect to be paid for.
I wont pay for bother full stop cos its suppose to be mutual attraction of personalities not her attraction to a free meal. I like the idea of cost no associated thou, ie. i pay for first date she pays for 2nd then its up to the person and their income as to what they choose to spend.
and i usually insist on paying my share, particularly at early stages, otherwise i would feel like i owe the guy something.
that said, i have let a guy pay recently because he took me to some fancy place way out of my budget and he obviously wanted to show off. and then he turned out to be racist, so i felt no guilt about it at all.
ooohhhh, one night in heaven
then let the girl take me to the off licence
then it's back to my beanbag for watching hollyoaks and fingering
It's date between you and a man. Just because men in general get paid more doesn't mean that particular man will be paid more than you.
but secretly hope that he'll say 'i'll pay'
they've always quite strongly insisted they go dutch and they hate the idea of men paying for them.
I'd happily pay for them but this has always happened. Of course other dates i paid for everything, just as other dates they insisted they pay for everything. It's all good.
it's nice if the guy pays, but the girl should still offer to pay half. After that, you should go dutch unless someone is treating someone for a reason.
guys probably don't think of the expense it takes girls to get ready for a date - nails, waxing, hair, underwear etc., all cost money
That's just being silly. You might as well factor in how much the car cost if the guy drives you.
ur dates have to buy underwear! :S what kinda kinky shit is this?
i like paying for people cause I know in the near future I'm going to be broke an dhope that early generousity will be rewarded with sympathy food.
when i've got a job, i'm such a ridiculously generous person, and i spent so much money on my girlfriend/other people. giving/lending money out left right and centre
however it all gets returned when i go 6 months without a job and my parents and girlfriend have to lend me £££
but I don't think its noticable enough
i'll pay for my half with it, you can pay for your half with money. deal?
i'll use real money.
you can pay for it by other means. Breakfast goods probably.
it basically adds up to women expecting men to pay for sex
they are not worthy of respect.
and not be pissed off if I had to pay my share. However...depends how the date was arranged. If someone says "can I take you out for dinner?" then of course i would still offer but probably expect them to pay. Is that reasonable?
then i guess its a loop hole, cos they could assume it means u just offered to by them dinner..
But if someone casually said "do you fancy going to get a drink sometime?" then it's a bit different. Or even "shall we go out for dinner?".
But yeah, I think it's really unfair when girls expect boys to pay for everything for them.
as it's always annoying when people don't just let you pay.
I would then ensure I paid for the second date though.
But splitting also fine and maybe preferable. It is nice to have someone buy you dinner though, just as I'm sure it's nice for a boy if a girl buys them dinner. All equally as acceptable.
moved on since men, and women, thought that the gentle, fair, weaker sex are unable to handle money and therefore need a gentleman to take care of her.
Now we're supposed to treat women like they're the same as real people. It's ludicrous.
u just both contribute somthing. or agree to other person paying next time :)
i don't think i've ever been on one :(
normally friends fo friends etc. often kinda a double with a proper couple. *awaits seedy jokes*
he said "let's go see that new jake gylenhaal film" and i thought he was talking about brokeback mountain but he was actually talking about jarhead. he paid for the tickets and i paid for the popcorn. anyone who knows me knows i only go to the cinema for the popcorn (extra large salted) so i ended up spending more. i wasn't too bothered.
other than that the closest i've come to a date is when i went to pizza express the other day. and that was more like a 'double date', if anything.
this time this boy asked to meet up and we got stoned in a park and then broke into an outdoor pool and went swimming. i've never been invited out for a meal/cinema. ACTUALLY, maybe i'm not sad about that. sounds pretty dull.
wanna go on a date with me?
i mean, YEAH TOTALLY. where you gonna take me? you have to pay. i'm all about traditional gender roles.
this applies to friends too, not just dates.
50% of the time though, i don't have it, so share (date) or get free meal (friends). the system seems to balance out overall.
since you're potentially talking £50-80 for a date though, girls who expect to be paid for are a bit cheeky if it's obvious you're not the richest man in town. it's nice if there's an offer to contribute, even if i insist on turning it down.
the man pays, unless they ask you, if they offered i'd say thanks but i wouldn't let them pay for it.
One step closer to being a kept man.
I always pay my share.