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I dislike/hate mine. He's a bit of a cunt.
he's a bit dull but he means well
I am going to ring him tomorrow and tell him i love him.
THINGS AREN'T ALWAYS THAT BLACK AND WHITE, OKAY?!
when we fight it can go on for weeks. However yesterday he sent me some money and a really nice letter which made me miss home a bit.
and wiggle wit it.
and yes i do.
im a daddys girl
Iz it coz he iz black?
He has really unusual interests like collecting Scandinavian modernist jewellry, is deeply intellectual but also likes beer and football, is ridiculously friendly, really outgoing and generally fantastiche
I mean dad
Has a huge ego and gets offended extremely easily. His opinions are broadcast loudly in the living room as if they're fact and if people disagree he says they're ganging up on him. In the real world he's like a timid little toad.
havent spoken to him in 2 years.
In many respects he is a bit of a knob, and he is very weird, but I kind of like the weirdness. He's improving with time, he used to be more aggressive and violent but has calmed down a lot.
i hope i never have to speak to him ever again.
I can never relate to people who ahven't got good dads.
I dunno what it is, my last few girlfriends had shitty dads and used whinge about them, and I'd just sit there going "I'm sorry but while i sympathise you may as well be talking about your period."
also, just don't go out with people who are lame and moan. if you let a girl moan once she will never stop moaning
if you judge people on a handful of experiences.
I'm not judging people, far from it in fact. It just that I have no experience of bad parenting so when they talk to me about something I can't apply my own personal experience to what they're going through, so I end up just saying vaguely comforting things and try to change the subject.
Both of my folks are still alive too, so the same goes for people who have lost a parent. I can't relate cos I haven't experienced it, and therefore don't know how the feel.
and i couldn't relate to her culture's part hardships so i dumped her
"eah mine's ace.
I can never relate to people who ahven't got good dads." is very extreme. having a shit parent does not determine who you are unless you let it.
if it does, that's just the person being whiney.
Well then the way I phrased it comes across wrong. What I meant was that when people say they have a cunty dad, I'll never say, yeah I knwo what you mean, cos I don't. It's not like I don't relate to people who may have a bad relationship with there dad. I mean my best mate has punched, and been punched by his dad, and all I can say "shit that must have been tough...so what about that local sports team."
I take it seriously but I'm also very aware that I'm in a very lucky position.
you don't live the same lives as other people, you can't be expected to know how people feel with everything. all you can do is be there for them to talk to and show support in any way you can if they need you. that's the basis of a friendship. i would never say i know what it feels like to be mugged or beaten up, but i would listen to people share their experiences, my friend has been stabbed but that doesn't mean i say i can't relate to him because i don't know what he's been through.
but thats what I do, I do my best to say comforting things and jsut generally be there, but well what more can you do. I think I'm being painted as a bit of a dick by a flipant remark which is being misconstruded(if thats a word, it certainly not spelt correctly)
TOO obvious for what you meant and it could be taken two ways. as a person who has shit parent(s) sometimes i know what you mean about it being awkward. but you can't relate to everything in life on that level, it isn't possible.
you aren't your parents.
i hope so anyway :(
Very kind. I've never once lived with him in my life and so I'm completely utterly different to him in pretty much every way, but I love him very much.
Aren't I nice?
He looks like Treguard from Knightmare, quotes the League of Gentlemen (incorrectly) and got me into brewing beer.
but i dislike my mother far more
We're both stubborn and blunt, and share a great love of Steve Martin films. Although I just watched Parenthood, and decided I'd like Steve Martin to be my dad...
he left when i was 1
but I don't particularly like him as a person. He's very forgetful and lazy and hasn't remembered my birthday since I was 12 or 13. But I have a lovely mother who listens to Beirut and Okkervil River and is quite amazing!
i saw him for the first time in years a couple weeks ago. i said goodbye for the last time, a couple weeks ago. fortunately he lives in another country, so avoidance is easy.
i called him tonight and he was at a Bollywood fancy dress party, which made me laugh. i can just imagine the Benny Lava/dad dancing hybrid.
but my Dad is fucking awesome.
He aint too bad.
we used to argue a fair bit when i was younger but we get along great now. he drinks a bit too much but other than that he's fantastic. yup.
but hes pretty good (not that i would ever tell him that)
he really likes my older brother though, which makes me feel like an accident.
I think maybe he couldn't be arsed to raise me having already done it once with my brother 5 years previously.
i'm turning into my dad, which is a bit terrifying. i love him but i dont want to be like him.
but, by god, he's an idiot.
but then I grew to understand and identify with him when I stopped seeing him purely in terms of his functional role.
and he was a twat anyway.
but it's like we live on different planets now, we don't have anything in common that we can talk about and most of the time he just really fucking annoys me. certain traits of his that i've never liked have become more enhanced as he's grown older and i do find it quite hard to get along with him now.
also some of the things he did while i was growing up, and/or how he dealt with things, are just ridiculous and i'm a bit bitter about it cause if he'd behaved differently in certain situations then both our lives might have been fairly different by now.
dick isnt it
I mean, seriously cool - in a dad-sort-of-way.
my dad is a cunt. He always starts arguments, always thinks he's right and he's stubborn as fuck, plus loads of other cunty things. But other than that I love him.
my dad is a cunt and i hate him
blatant racism, dubious politics and stupid tempermant, he's ace. he means well.
more like the cheeky mate who'll always get a beer in or muck about. alot more closer to him than my mum i reckon.
but liking him/getting on with him is often difficult. Sometimes he's very thoughtful and kind, but frequently he's stubborn and hurtful. He's done numerous great things for me as I've grown up, but at the same time he's also done several reprehensible things which I just can't really forgive a grown man for.
I get on with him a lot better nowadays, we've both chilled out a bit basically, so thats good. We're not that close, but we definitely love each other. I hope I've learnt from his mistakes and his strengths and can avoid making similar mistakes when I'm (hopefully) a father at some point in the future.
But he's more of a friend than a Dad- I lend him money, we go to gigs together and stuff. He used to be quite the alcoholic and I didn't like him then, but then he nearly died and stopped drinking as much and now he's cool. He's incredibly intelligent and knows a ridiculous amount about music, and has all sorts of interesting anecdotes from when he was an angry young man. Despite the fact he sometimes wears short shorts to gigs he's not a bad person by any means.
I'm really lucky, our history hasn't been perfect but he's now capable of telling me he's really proud of me, which he's never done before, and I like it!
though it's quite worrying as he wanted to be a record producer but ended up a radio drama sound engineer and is constantly teased by my step mum about how he had such vaulting dreams as a younger man and never achieved them. I hope I don't turn out like that, in the nicest way possible.
But at the same time he's a selfish, immature, arrogant bastard who doesn't really give a shit about me.
He is on holiday in France right now.
We have sent each other crossword clues.
He asked: Roman flower (5)
He wrote this
hes a nice dappy old man
yh i dunno how i'm not fat
feelings hurt, hurt feelings
I love him cos he is my dad.
but I am HUGELY conficted about him....pretty much one of my first memories is of him hitting my mum and my parents split up when I was very young.
I'm quite scared of turning into him...but I recognise I do so many things like him.
We both absolutely fly into incandescent rages when we get angry.
Essentially the Everclear song Father of Mine describes our relationship.