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has anyone ever had one that worked? i can't see how it could for me.
... so yeah ... experiences and opinions please.
want to give it a go?
'open' to sleeping with other people but still 'together'
We are all different. I think it is hard for most peeople though because as humans we generally have an insecurity mechanism as it is, without adding to it.
Personally, me,no, no never. Someone I love fucking someone else? That would be heart wrenching. Nah, no, no not for me thanks
its cos your relationship is fail, or your parter is fail in bed
Who knows what goes on in people's relationships? I know I'm not one to judge, even if I don't agree with it.
because you don't love them.
But they fool around at tortue garden and stuff.
but its not for me
There's a communal aspect to it.
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I'm just plain boring.
unless both parties are:
1) Utterly sexually liberated
2) Equally desirable to the other sex
3) Have a laissez-faire approach to morality
and it works for them. i reckon i could do it. but i am not rly very normal.
occasional key parties.
maybe. its not just about wanting to fuck more than one person though, it's about not having much faith in or desire for the institution of monogamy as well i guess.
with the key party. looks like fun :/
but people need to sort of drift into them...
i can't imagine people getting into a relationship and then deciding they want it to be open. it needs to develop organically as an open relationship over its whole course.
1)You're scared of being alone, i.e. you're in a relationship for the sake of the relationship. You sleep around but you still have that base of "someone you can go home to".
2)One partner suggests it to the other, because they would like to think they can still lead the single life and possibly already eyeing someone else to sleep with, and the other agrees through few of losing said partner.
For me, open relationships are on the same lines as "fuck buddies". I just don't see either working, in the long run I guess, without too much emotional attachment*
*I'm not really too sure that is the correct word that I'm looking for but my brain has completely seized up.
..if I felt enough about so someone to have a relationship with them, then the thought of them fucking someone else is quite unpleasant.
the other person just turns into an imploding ball of hate...
most people are naturally possessive, in varying degrees, and open relationships go against that. might work for the minority i guess but mostly it'll just end in tears. both parties have to be equally happy with the arrangement. otherwise it's just 'i wanna do this, and if you won't, either we stay as we are and i'm unhappy, or i'll fuck off and do it anyway' - not exactly healthy state of affairs for a relationship.
i'd only go there if i was with someone i wasn't really emotionally engaged with, and if that was the case i wouldn't call that a relationship anyway.