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your partner going to jail for 25 years, or your partner dying?
at least if they died you could move on without as much of the guilt.
away with ye
that took you a while
it's just like saying "I win, I'm old and stupid"
just occasionally eloquent.
Never sleeping with anyone...
atleast if they were in jail you could visit them.
if he died i would feel like my guts had been ripped out.
THOUGH if he's got 25 years he's probably done soemthing bad. if it was a violent crime or rape or something that would be a whole other bag of trauma
would you really stay with them? for the entire time? you couldn't have a life with him. it would be massively lame and would make you really fucking miserable.
it would totally depend.
to be honest i dont think i could give up 25 years of my young life. especially if they had done something really bad. but it depends on circumstances etc.
but your answer shows you have never been in love.
i could never choose death over prison, that woul dmean i could never see/speak to/touch him ever again. that would be heartbreaking, as would him going to prison, but it wouldnt be SO final.
next time, on Jerry's Final Thought..
but i still feel that with death would bring a certain amount of closure, and really it depends on the marital situation between the two of you, whether you have children together, a house etc. if, for example, it was you and steve, i think jail may be favourable because you're both young and don't have any massive commitments together (children, mortgage etc), but if you were married and had children it would be a lot harder to try and move on if you know that your husband, the father of your children is still alive.
this is all in theory though, obviously.
but i think that the point re: jail us int he future etc all depends onw hat crime he commited, if it was soemthing horrible, that affected my love for him then i wouldnt feel as much guilt about carrying on with my life without him etc.
but then thats a different point.
i know claire hasnt been in love because she's told me.
i believe jail WOULD hve finality, if you decided to end the relationship because of it and you could have more decent closure, talk about thuings etc.
whereas if youre partner died he would be suddenly snatched away from you, with no chance to say all the things you may have always wanted to say and being able to say goodbye properly.
i think it would be unbearable to be seperated formt he one i love by something as uncontrollable, unforseeable, sudden and absolue as death.
and have led to me feeling stricken, bursting into tears and becoming irrationaly terrified that he's goign to die ont he way home from work.
its not a nice feeling
There's a good chance if something genuinely bad happened to you, you'd react in a calmer, more perspective-filled way. Based on my experience with melodramatic people. Like you. You're melodramatic.
surely if i am (as you say) melodramatic then if somethign CTUALLY happened i'd have even mre reason to be meledramatci about it?
still i dont think its drmamatic for your stomach to drop out of you at the thought of someone you care about dying.
im illiterate as well as being melodramatic, apparently
I'd say that was pretty melodramatic.
All I'm saying is I have known two or three melodramatic people before who have lost people close to them and their reaction was very calm and it made at least one of them very philosophical about what they wanted from life. None of them are nearly as melodramatic about little things anymore.
I know you have lost at least one person close to you, and I don't know how you reacted to that, but just saying what I've observed from looking at people.
You're actually mental instead of just putting it on.
this heart is just too big for me ;)
please don't be
What? What does that mean? You couldn't have a free relationship no, but there's more to life than mating.
"You couldn't have a life with him"
Well this certainly changes things. I'll be in other threads for a while.
Just go waterskiing every day.
I hope she hangs herself in prison, stupid bitch.
YOU SICK FUCK
YOU'VE WON £10000000000000 !!!11
you'll simply have to give it to me at zonino
of giving it to you instead?
I'M NOT GOING TO ZONINO!
I'm moving to London on 7th July - fancy a pint that week (before my unemployment fund runs out?)
hasn't run out by then (fingers crossed I'll have a job by then though), yes.
hatred for you two
No-one else here likes me. Its about time you saw the light
but I'm not supposed to say that, right?
It is now a size 2
for the same reason as clare said. although im guessing 25 years=something pretty horiffic.
he's Blake Fielder-Civil!