It's different when you're in school and you already sort of know each other at least a little bit, no? Or when you're already friends, no? At least, I've not had this problem before and I think that's why. I am not an intimidating woman to pursue or anything, at all. But the guy I fancy right now, and he fancies me, is usually pretty nervous and I guess sort of stunted(?) when we're around each other. (I am nervous too, but not to the same point.) So we have some pretty dull chats. Which is a bit of a turn-off and so it's not to help get us anywhere. It's making it harder to ask him out. So what do I do?

Please don't say "be more aggressive" (literally EVERY person's advice thus far); that makes no sense here.

(I know this is the most boring thread subject ever, but I have been stuck for truly decent advice so far. But I bet many men of DiS will be familiar with this. (<That's not a dig.) Also, sorry for how slightly self-obsessed it kind of is, isn't it? Sorry.)