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so if you are willing to compromise...
..I would do it for the woman I was with, although I wouldn't feel the need to personally.
so i don't find the whole thing particularly 'magical'. or with any point at all.
can anyone trump this?
which marriage were you the product of?
I have siblings from every marriage.
Gets a little confusing.
my mum only had kids with one of her marriages...
although i have plenty of step-siblings to confuse matters.
The worst was my mother also remarried and had more kids. I have 3 brothers and 3 sisters (all half) as a result.
Yay for us.
although no. 3 is catching up in length.
i think. maybe. i'm not sure. she's great anyway. although ill right now :(
mine is too oddly enough... and he's awesome too...
though i don't see engagement happening for another couple of years yet
but i'm not looking forward to the wedding part. the idea of spending a whole day with my extended family seriously stresses me out.
i might have to not invite my dad.
so that wouldn't be a problem for me.
which you leave halfway through...
to me is pointless. letting all your mates have a massive party on your account, drinking all your booze and food, whilst you fuck off on a honeymoon? stupidest idea ever.
Go somewhere so far, far away that extended family can't afford to fly out for the day.
he's such a dremaboat no?
you go get married pet
That's very very clever.
I do, and I want an indie disco and my first dance to be either Outdoor Miner by Wire or This is the Day by The The followed by an ace indie disco and either a nice barbecue in a big garden or perhaps a haggis neeps and tatties fest in a village hall if it's winter.
The idea of seeing my auntie dance to The Fall is something I definitely want realised.
As you can tell, I haven't given it a lot of thought or anything.
I didn't get much choice though. The future mother in law was such an horrendeous woman that neither of us wanted her there so we told EVERYONE, including my own family, that nobody was invited to the wedding (in Barbados, and therefore also share the honeymoon, can you imagine?!).
It worked well but I did cry five minutes beforehand because I wanted my family there and my sister called and made me cry.
at the wedding?
i thought they had to know you though?
people get their friends and family to do it normally cos its nice to involve them, but it can be strangers
The witnesses were included in part of the wedding package.
i want a big fuck-off wedding that gets me heavily in debt. and then plenty of kids to do the same.
Where's the Romance?
and web 2.0
no kids for me either
...via txt message.
i bet this happens these days... sigh.
Pls mry me?
i would be a terrible husband and probably a reckless father. but we shall see.
Maybe one day. Too young at the moment.
i love that album cover so much.
how many kids? Oh yeah, OHAC? annual income etc?
i intend to get married sometime
i thought i'd be married with kids by the age of 25....
and then i grew up and realised that's a very preposterous idea. maybe when i'm in my 30's??
times were different, innit.
i dont think marriage ages can continue to increase ad finitum. i think they shall rise and fall cyclically. life expectancy will continue to increase i guess, which will raise marriage age, but maybe technology and society will make it easier to raise babies young. WHO KNOWS.
because these days you have the extremes.
teenage pregnancies.. (and celebrities seem to follow this trend... married with kids by 21....)
and then you have the other group... marriage and kids not on the cards til later on.. 30's or 40's..
i have revised my 'marriage plans' to:
when/if i find someone i want to marry, then it'll happen then. if i never get married, then that won't really bother me.
there's something of a class/wealth/whatever divide, as well as localised divides.
and you change your plans, but, not wishing to be a massive sexist, women are known to suddenly have immense desires to be With Child. biology aside, it's got to be nice to have someone to grow old/be old with. or you end up going insane in a home
although the whole celebrity phenomenon is a bit of an anomaly. as they are currently more likened to the behaviour of lower class chavs. hmm... (generalization!)
as for biology. i can't see myself ever wanting kids. All my girl-mates go gooey over seeing a baby. and i can't stand them.
definitely want to grow old with someone though!
Though I can't see it happening anytime soon. I feel like I'd be officially be an old guy if I got married, and I don't want that at all. I'd have to have been going out with the person in question for quite a few years beforehand too, no spur of the moment stuff where marriage is concerned.
definitely would be waiting years...
nearly did this. She moved to New York, met a guy and 5 months later they were engaged and set to get married. At the last minute she moved back to the UK and pulled out of the whole thing, which could well be the best decision she's ever made. I can't contemplate doing something like that at all. I'll probably be in my 30's by the time (if) I get married.
..you bumped into recently... and things were possibly gonna pick up again?
Yes it was her. I went out a few times with her to various things, but I'm not convinced its going anywhere. Again, probably bad timing. Think maybe I wanted it to happen more than it was actually going to, just with the surprise of seeing her again.
I'm still really good friends with her, but I very much doubt were going to go out with one another. Which is fine. I'm moving soon anyway, and I'm fairly happy being single.
yeah timing is a bastard though aint it. everything is about timing!
I've had enough of trying to make things work for the meantime. I'm just going to let stuff happen. Until that gets me nowhere, then I'll start trying to make things work again.