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Guess it depends what you're after. I'd rather be single than be with someone who wasn't right.
However, right now i've been with someone for an age who i utterly adore and wouldn't change for all the "benefits" of being single.
that's what I want. I think. I don't know.
it's just weighing up which benefits YOU more. I've been in some messy relationships before, but my b/f now and I just seem to compliment each other's needs very well. How vomit-inducing.
and since splitting with him (about 2 1/2 years ago now), i've never felt quite ready to commit again. But I think I want to, and then I don't, and then I do. Hmmm.
8/9 months and have very much been enjoying the single life till recently. I have gotten a bit bored with it now and I would like a proper relationship but cannot find that suitable someone. Well actaully I have but she happens to have a boyfriend, who as it happens is a very nice chap indeed!
Sometimes it's nice to be in a relationship, but if it's not working out then I don't see the point of being in one for the sake of it. Also rushing straight into another relationship right after one has just ended is a bad idea.
There's times I like being single, not having to worry about telling someone where I'm going, or being free to go and visit friends for a weekend is aceness. On the other hand sometimes I feel a bit bored and wish I had something more permanant than someone I'm just 'seeing'.
so i'm going to have to adjust to the single life again.
apart from the time Royter-Hatfood told me i looked like Sharron Davies
I thought you looked like the guy from Toploader.
but i definitely read "You look like Sharron Davies."
actually, it didn't happen. i'm just making it up because this coursework is driving me slowly crazy
if it never gets boring then being in a relationship is better
I'm also not made for being single
big fat eater
it does start to weigh on you quite heavily. Plus, it's a bit embarrassing to have to tell those friends you only see every few months that you're still unattached.
Why is it embarrassing to be single!? I do know what you mean but I'm just so very annoyed at the fact that so many people actually do think it's embarrassing, whether they themselves are single or in relationships.
if you're unhappy being single. people who are content being single aren't embarrassed about it. in effect, it's more the embarrassment that you feel like you're admitting to people your life isn't going exactly the way you'd like it to.
but don't like being forced to reiterate it to the same people over and over. I feel like my non-existent love life is a running joke among some of the people I know.
it doesn't really bother me that i have no-one. from time to time i think it would be nice but it never lasts long. as long as retain my friends i have no need for girls...
i need someone to validate me! and even if it all goes wrong, i can get some juicy relationship drama out of it, and that's like a real experience ISN'T IT???
seriously, it's a stupid question.
being in a productive and enjoyable relationship? GREAT!
being single and happy? GREAT!
'oh! gosh! a relationship!
i need someone to validate'
i read this as you having a go at my thread....was I wrong? apologies if so :S
treating this subject as black-and-white as the question you posed is.
i retract the twat comment. that was a tad harsh x
nail. head. hit.
they are soft.
My heart's as big as texas, yo.
these days it's about the size of Rhode Island.
bournemouth is full of coke whores, i hear.
which is the dilemna i am going through right now.
Six years is a long time to be going out with someone, and to come out of it was a massive shock to the system, leading to loneliness, self harm, etc. I miss the cuddles in bed in the morning both moaning that we have to get up at some point, having tea together in the evening, watching tv together, sitting in silence but comfortably as you dont have to say anything, weekend trips away to York, going to the pub and wasting all my money on the Bullseye machine and loads more.
It makes me feel better though when i think of things that got on my tits. Going to her parents and being really bored (tossers), having to listen to Chris Moyles in the car, having to do things i dont really want to do, like car trips to nowhere, having average meals in restaurants spending loads, arguments over nothing, shopping and watching her try on 5 things, awkwardly holding hands and more tc
I do miss the comforts of a relationship but i miss her as a mate the most as i liked our boozy nights talking bollocks.
Yup single is the way forward. Until someone comes along and fucks with my mind
but its a lot cheaper & I got a lot less to worry about, but I just like to have a shoulder to cry on... or someone to suprise and make happy as it makes me feel happy to make those I care about happy :(
But I'm not going to rush into anything Blind, im naturally cautious bout such things.
Well, I mean, I'd get married, but that's different because it has a purpose.
even if it's an arranged marriage or some kind of golddigger arrangement, you've still got to live with them and get on with them!
But it's not like a relationship. I mean, you'd be getting something out of it. It's more like an investment kind of thing.
being single when you can't find someone you like enough. i hate couples who are together for the sake of it, and who need someone else to emotionally depend on and kind of validate their existence.
And I really enjoy it....I just get a bit concerned that I might have to compromise my lifestyle in some way if I am in a solid 'realtionship'. But saying that, a huge part of me also wants commitment and all the nice things that go with that.
post lots of sweet boyisms in this thread
a girl will pm me
and we can go for a lime and soda.
and talk about bands
and ride bikes and shit and watch cartoons.
I'm way too insecure to be happy being single. I mean, if I were in a relationship, I'd probably think my partner was cheating on me literally all the time, but I think even that's preferable to the fear that no one would ever want me.
you should stay single, at least for the time being.
I want nothing more than to be in a relationship. BUT it has to be with the right person. I'd take being single ahead of just using someone to keep my self-esteem up. Sure, you can say "I have a girlfriend" but it's ultimately hollow and unfulfilling. So, until I find the right person, who I'm properly suited to, it's single all the way baby!
you don't need a girlfriend! etc etc
What's being in a relationship like? I've never had one. Summarise it. It seems pretty tiresome to me. It all depends on the person though doesn't it? God you can tell I've been writing my CV, I'm capitalising things!
maybe i'll just insert a picture of a dog's body.
looks pretty boring most of the time. you seem to have to do "the duck walk" more than i would like.
someone tried it with me once but i was all like HEY, WHAT ARE YOU DOING, THIS IS NOT PRACTICAL. i can go with holding hands i guess but y'know, i might need that hand. i like walking like a soldier and i can't walk like a soldier as well if someone is holding one of my hands.
walking with an arm around your shoulder. unless the guy is like 2ft taller than you.
it's so uncomfortable! god i would make an awful girlfriend.
i like having a strong mans amrs around me, it makes me feel safe and secure, but that could be just because i fall over alot.
The cinema, Pizza Express, house parties, gigs, comedy, spending all day in bed, kissing in public, sitting in cafes chatting for hours, walks along the beach, lost weekends where nothing in particular happens....but you know you had fun then it all goes........
Rampant coke abuse, drunken arguments, twattish friends, dysfunctional families, demands that you attend funky house nights, mood swings, lies, duplicity, indecision and cowardice followed by bitter recrimination, mistrust and ultimately, sheer hatred.
Other than that, it's great!
that when you start a new lovelife with a partner
you have to go through the whole process again
from 'i definetly don't want a realtionship rigfht now'
'isn't it great we can have this Thing, y'know, together, i am so glad we feel the same, and it's so much easier not making it offiial'
'i love you.'
and the inevitable:
'i wish.. we we're both.. older.. or it was another time in our lives... i just can't.. do... this'
We should all just get back with our exes and fuck it all off.
with the wrong person.
I'm living proof of this.
But yes, it is lovely when you do meet that 'right' person.
to be honest, if singledom was all brief sexy flings and stuff it's be great, but I'd prefer to be in a bad (not like, depressingly so, just a sort of boring going nowhere one) relationship to being single, at least it offers the basics of:
1) someone to regularly sex up
2) amanda (I mean...woman) huggankiss
3) people seem to find you more attractive when "taken", meaning it's probably easier to find another partner (Im not saying and act on it before splitting up) whilst in a relationship than out of one.
is this a horrible way to think about it?
What I don't like and can't do is the whole non-comitally dating various different people at one time and not really caring if any of them work out thing because
a) I'm just not good looking enough (or at all) to have that many people interested in me
b) I don't have the patience to be interested in various people at once and
c) I only ever ask someone out or accept an offer if I already really quite like them and think that eventually it will go somewhere
and never actively thought to myself "I NEED to find someone to have a relationship with. Now." - it's always just come naturally and realised I wanted to be with that person. But right now I can't imagine being single.
because i have only had 2 in my whole life.
the relationships were pretty shit. i really want something good, even if it's only for a few months.