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not talking one night stands here, but say a fuckbuddy situation? is it possible? or can men do it but not women?
that whilst I have had sex many times I am totally inept at being able to talk about it with any authority. I suppose it is a matter of who the person(s) is(are).
I can imagine it is a perfect situation for some men, but worse for others.
best to decide where you stand.
So's not to knock anything over.
I had a sort of fuck buddy who I cared nowt for.
and I don't think my conscience could handle it without crumbling like a 10 stroy house made out of shortbread under extreme gales force winds.
to me i mean. i don't see how the situation would ever arise where i'd have sex with someone i didn't think was physically attractive, and i don't think sex would be good if i did.
i'm basically fucking a guy who's a bit of a bastard to me and yet i still want more. even though i know i don't *really*. i guess a lot of it probably comes down to self esteem issues.
he's not really a bastard at all, he's very generous etc... just a bit cold a lot of the time.
this is one of those things i probably shouldn't be posting on an easily googleable forum under my real name. um.
It's another of those threads that's escaped from a Christian forum that discusses life issues...
i'm well christian, me.
of course i have morals. maybe they just differ from yours a little bit.
I don't make judgements about them because I know they are decent people.
As I think in the majority of situations one person wants more, even if they aren't entirely honest (perhaps not even with themselves) about that fact.
Certainly the one time I can remember being in a situation where I cwould've been happy to do it, I also knew the girl involved would've wanted it to be more than sex so in the end I didn't do it 'cos I didn't want to make her (and, less selflessly, my) life unnecessarily complicated.
That said, I think it would be doable. If I was single, they were single and both of us were clear we just wanted the sex then I think it could be done for a short while at least.
I definitely don't think men are better at it than women. Certainly I'm not any good at separating sex & emotions the majority of the time - I think men are just conditioned not to admit that.
and thats about as much authority as I have on the subject
Maybe if I really didn't like the person but found them attractive this would work but I still doubt it.
Fuckbuddy situations never seem to work out, one party will get attached, I think it's incredibly hard to have a purely sexual relationship without feeling something.
But in my experience sex tends to be better within a relationship.
I find I never have any sort of affection for anything, something I'm sticking my cock in or otherwise.
it really annoys me too
but for men, yes
for women, less so
But you can definitely seperate them with some effort.
It's all personal and depends on situations though. But yes.
but I know I'm not very good at doing it, but I certainly pretend to be sometimes