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Has anyone got back together with someone even after clearly stating that they never would and why?
I went out with a girl for 2 years then she dumped me, she got back in touch about 6 months later and said she had made a big mistake blah blah blah. I said forget it but then I thought why not, she was a very good looking girl after all. We split up again 8 months later - a total waste of time and i didn't speak to her for 5 years!!!
It was a bad idea and it ended a month later. But you know, I got to have sex.
just on a horizontal kind of a basis
Head saying it won't work out but heart still loving the person in question and wanting to get back together.
but I feel like I've changed since we met and don't love her like I used to. But I still really care for her.
Basically I feel like vomitting all the time.
you should never go back
And I'm dirty as a Frenchman..guess there really is a Simpsons (semi)quote for every situation you can face in life.
Yep. Confusing and horrible.
'working it out' seems like a potential minefield of ways to hurt each other even more. But not trying at all also seems weak. Its tough either way basically.
Ive moaned on here before about it
We ere going out for about six years.After 4 years we got a mortgage together,everything was cool.Just before christmas we split up, continued to live together and just after new year I moved out.Its got the stage where im getting post from her solicitor about signing flat over to her name(flat is curently for sale)and her parents are offering my share of the sale early.Its a horrible situation for me at this time.Miss my flat, my dog, etc.Half of me wants to go round and beg for her back but the other half hates her and wishes she she never existed.
it ended again about a year later.
and i'd rather really not see him ever, except to cuss him.
and it ended in disaster. Never again.
they are no more in love than ever and living together
or were we too weak to kill it?
I'm gonna say it once more...
NEVER EVER GO BACK
It went wrong because in the time apart we moved on, became different people, fell in love with other people and resented each other from keeping us from the people we wanted to be with
Ever! unless its a revenge shag...where you bang her and purposfully never call her again just to fuck with her...
a very very cruel person!
I'm sure it's fine!
I've done it twice, then eventually realised it was a big mistake, and subsequently broke up with them. The second time it happened was with someone who I had a very turbulent with; at times it was amazing, others it was soul destroying. We met up two years later, I guess I was overwhelmed by the fact that I was hanging out with him after all this time, went with my instincts then realised that I'd made the wrong choice. I wouldn't recommend it really.
We then got married. A year and a half later I left him for good. Simulteanously the best and worst thing I've ever done. Married someone to get them out of your system is a bit extreme. Needs must, I suppose.
(only for about a week) last summer (he wasn't the main cause of my issues last year tho - but he came sniffing around at a time when I was weak and vulnerable - he could smell it a mile away - it was almost predatory actually, come to think of it - and because I was weak and tired it was the only reason I let him back into my life - BIG MISTAKE)..
We had broken up 2 years earlier, actually... despite him dumping ME at the time, he was not one to let go and tried getting in touch ... and I have to admit, he was the first one who broke my heart...
I didn't tell my friends who knew him because they knew I was going through a horrible time anyway and I think would've thought I was COMPLETELY insane (I was - temporarily). But he convinced a lot of people who met him during that time and the lead up before us getting back together how nice he was etc.. We dj'd together even and the only consolation I have is that my friends and I (only three of us) wracked up a £200 bar tab at his expense... (he owed me money anyway) so at least I got something back. Brilliant.
It didn't work out (of course) because as it happens, HE is the one who is COMPLETELY INSANE (and fond of overlapping with women).
Which is a shame because I really loved him...
Even when we were talking about getting back together, i thought of the 300 things he did which were terrible to me post our break up (during our time together it was perfect - nothing bad)... but he went temporarily insane and had issues and well, I'm just a humble girl who really, despite liking and being drawn to eccentric people, would like a bit more stability in life at my age. Too old for other peoples shit as have been there and done that and am not 'saving' anyone anymore.
I hope I never hear from him again but sadly, he will call. He used to call every 12 weeks (and I'd ignore) and before xmas told me he would call me in June. I have no doubt he will. He's just 'like that'.
There you go. This won't make sense to anyone except Vikram. Ha. Where is that boy??