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and not socially incompetent?
WOO! LESBANIMS HERE I COME!
as in, if this girl doesn't like me it means that i'm "socially imcompetent"???
cutting off your penis and smearing on some lippy should pretty much do it. Wait til the bleeding stops of course. Otherwise it's just silly.
My inner-censor is holding me back
they're normal people. They don't have a weird mating dance or anything.
Watch 'The L Word' backwards and it plays voodoo chants
from hitting on a guy...
so i guess, i should ask, "guys, how do you hit on girls?"
Talk, smile, buy drink for, etc
There is no blanket way of hitting on women. You know this, right?
so i kinda assumed there would be for hitting on a woman. i mean, i know everyone is an "individual" but i can pick up any guy i want, but i dont feel that way about girls at all!
seeing as you've met me and all :)
cause i never do fail. so ummmm YOU'RE WRONG
If you make it obvious to guy you are willing to sleep with him, then more often than not they'll do it. Doesn't mean they like you or find you the least bit interesting.
But 'hitting on a guy' in the sense of letting him know you like him and getting him to like you? No fail-safe formula, unless you only go for fuckwits
geez. you make it that hard for the girls? it's not very hard to get a guy to fall in love, i must say.. sorry, but guys are just too easy!
I started typing out a response but can't be bothered really
if you were a girl you'd have at least a few boys in love with you at any point int time, ask any of the girls on here!
will your ego still fit in?
you obvs dont know me, i have no ego or self-esteem whatsoever, but i'm not going to lie about how things are. just because i'm not gorgeous and fabulous doens't mean boys don't fall in love with me, that's pretty harsh for you to think they wouldn't. why would you think that?
to see a situation crop up a few times an presume that is the standard.
And it is pretty egotistical to think you can have any man you want.
Also I have no idea what any of your post meant
with anything i say, so i don't blame you for not understanding me.
there are some very definite male/female characteristics, people aren't defined solely by gender and so cannot be seen solely in those terms.
I don't fall in love particularly easy. In fact, more often I hear men being slaged off for being devoid of emotion.
all the boys i know fall in love alot
easier than the girls i know...
But maybe the reasons for that have more to do with other attributes or characteristics they possess, and not simply the fact they are male?
but then you say that i can't state that they all fall in love with me.
and i can't help it if it's true.
it's not being egotistical if you are telling the truth. maybe if i hungout with asshole guys all the time none of
them would be in love with me!!!
probably, so anyhow, i don't even
know my point anymore, it is way too late/early for me to think anymore.
all men fall in love easily or that you could have any man you wanted and these things aren't true.
But yeah, crossed points and all that
have any guy i want, i just meant that in the past it's never been a problem.
i never mean anything to relate to the future cause how the hell am i suppossed to know how that'll be!?
and as far as i know no one's in love with me!
deep down ive always known
Or so they say.
i met a girl tonight who i'd love to practise on. but geez it's weird...just not like a boy at all, girls are MUCH MORE COMPLICATED!!!
but actually a best friend of mine, a boy, acts more like a "girl" in behavioural situations, as in, wanting to discuss things WAY more than even i'd want to, etc.
and i agree, aishapra, girls aren't complicated but they ARE different from boys, and i think it IS a while diffrent way they must be dealt with to hit on. cause well, my "eyesies" was not working for her. i just wanted her to take me home and nope, that did not happen, though there is no doubt if she were a boy that she would!
you're straight luv.
but it's not like the first time i've fallen for a girl..
I haven't been to bed.
is it time to hit on you lyet lezza?
The same as you would a with male being. I don't think there are any rules. I've never actively 'hit on' someone. If I see someone who looks fairly interesting, I'll go up and talk. It helps being either at a gay bar, or having some sort of clue that the lady is attracted to other ladies, otherwise they'll just think your being friendly and will be super surprised when you lean in for a kiss. Trust me.
we've hung out all evening and she's made it clear that she's a lesbian. there were many points where we could have kissed, but didn't. usually it's the boy who does. so now, it's like, neither of us are a boy so how do we kiss? it's not like i'm unsure she likes me..she walked me home and later texted to say i was adorable..
such a situation is out of the ordinary for a man and a woman to find themselves in
Ask her out somewhere that's more ocviously a date, like for a meal or to the cinema or something. Wait 'til the right moment and lean in really close. If she doesn't back away, kiss her. If you lean in close enough, she'll probably kiss you.
I have a better suggestion
do you swim? suggest going swimming together
this works and can be a regular and healthy adjunct to a regular and healthy heterosexual lifestyle
unless she turns out to want you all to herself
i don't swim :(
well, i do sometimes, in a lake in the summer with my inflatable Sharky. but otherwise, no.
to explore your Sapphic curiosities will remain alien to you
other athletic activities will do
ever.i get asked.
the mechanics of it aren't that alien to you?
You just ask!
so i guess i'm hopeless
I had an offer rebuffed once and was surprised to find the world didn't end
you talk like i'm a 12 year old. of course i've "had an offer rebuffed" in the past, but that doesn't mean i want to avoid such a think for the future!
so kiss her next time?
Sorry - I mean, what's your point?
how could it be? all i want to know is how do girls normally hit on other girls. if there's no one here that does such a thing, fine, but i figured their was at least a few people who knew a bit about stuff like that, cause i sure as hell don't. the last time i tried i failed MISERABLY and so i really can't trust myself to be able to do this with only my own judgement!
of all the posts on this subject on this board are patronising. who cares?
constantly find things offensive or patronizing. it's rediculous. but of course it's 5 am, i'm all stoked inside about a new crush, so i forget and i post something and then i just get hell for anything i say, when really i'm just hoping there's someone out there who has some idea on the way i should act as i feel completely lost in this situation.
actually, dark_truffles was a good answerer, yay! and of course you'd always be, lovely guntrip!! ahha
err actually thats what Mrs Knees said to (withouth the ahahaha)
how is he not?
but in the past when I have said that people have ridiculed me, but you are right I shouldnt repspond to peer pressure, its time to stand proud and say what I think.
"Guntrip IS lovely"
there, I'm outed.
you're lovely too mr.creakyknees, just so you know!
The first mention of fucking lesbians and all the undersexed perverts get excited.
girls who like girls suddenly only in the rhelm of "undersexed perverts"??? i
doubt anyone got EXCITED about this thread, it's mostly a bore, it wasn't very useful for me whatsoever, just a buncha people trying to be PC and saying how its' no dif to pick up a guy than it is to pick up a girl, when it's obviously different for anyone put in the situation!
ok i guess i do, if you say so. my dad always says i'm full of crap, so i guesss if both you and him say it, it must be true. lame.
and post a load of boring contradictory crap, which isnt particularly interesting, asking people who have no real expertise to give you their opinion and then criticising them.
You seem like a nice person 99% of the time but you can just be annoying when you do this!
that no one would have any "expertise" in this topic? geez i'll just fucking write to tegan and sara or something ha!
and then of the women some of them MIGHT not be lesbians?
Why are most people bi? Don't tell me, I'm supressing my true sexuality.
And also, the fact that men and women aren't governed solely by their gender is nowt to do with being PC.
Not whilst he's supressing his true sexuality.
the first time someones said POTD to me. slightly tainted, but good nonetheless.
were the third person to post in this thread.
I didn't say that I wasn't an undersexed pervert.
as Guntrip and Creaky.
in sex at the moment. but thanks for your interest - i'll stick you on the mailing list for any future updates!
I came really late on, and all I did was offer practical advice that would apply to anyone anywhere. And then I made a little joke at guntrip's expense and then retracted that with an expansive positive post.
she so was!
c) Guntrip and I
but maz it was wrong for you to hmpf at that point, because Id just actually made (what some would see as) a shameful admission. You should have made a general thread hmpf by replying to the first post
'hmpf'? hmmpf- means nothing?
/today is going to be a bad day.
creakyknees, if you're on facebook you
should befriend me as i don't think i can stand the arrogance here, when all i did was ask a simple question and answer sincerely everything, yet somehow people think i'm putting on an act or something.
also my link is playing up :(
'hmpf's mean precisely the opposite of 'nothing'
i have previously ignored them at my peril
barry, please :(
I said you were lovely further up.
what's the worst thing that can happen? Girls don't generally get all freaked out like guys. Even if she doesn't feel the same she will be flattered, probably enjoy it a bit and then you can laugh about it after if your'e way off the mark.
a surefire hit with lesbians is to lick your lips, stare at them, whilst hitching up your skirt to reveal you are pushing a scotch egg up one hole and a pickled egg up the other.
I'll leave you to decide which hole to stick which type of eggy snack food up. Some things are best kept spontaneous
Ella - the answer seems pretty simple to me. How would YOU like to be seduced by a woman?
From my experience they're usually pretty upfront about making advances, she's admitted she's a lesbian, has said lovely things about you, but is being coy (perhaps she's not sure you feel the same way).
Put yourself in her shoes and romance her the way you'd like to be. Only, in your case, perhaps with slightly less scary 'grrrrrrrrrr', yeah? ;)
hehe...sorry- yeah. I couldn't resist. This ones a classic :)
That's all though. I'm busy finishing songs.
Come to the kelley stoltz gig I'm putting on this sunday- it's in whitechapel
details then pls. you've got my myspace.
sometimes things seem obvious and i think maybe lots of people thought i was stupid to ask how to hit on a girl, and now that it's no longer 5 am and i'm not drunk and high anymore, i do see how it's not THAT hard..haha, i guess i was just really excited/nervous!
anyhow, i dont think i'd romance her the way i'd like to be romanced as i just want dinners cooked for me, flowers given, walks at the zoo to watch the eurasian squirrels, haha. *sigh*