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I am in my day to day life, but at work I'm pretty much the complete opposite. I dunno how I do it it's like there are two opposing people stuck in me.
but amongst a certain type of person/group I can be though. I haven't really nailed down what this is, possibly people who are much more self confident than me.
go very quiet when I'm amongst people I think are mongs and this has led most of the people I know to believe me to be shy, which could not be further from the truth
I just can't be bothered to talk to people I think are incredibly boring/stupid/uninteresting, so as a consequence they think I'm really shy and talk to me because they feel sorry for me.
Also, this board is so emo tonight. Seriously, look at the thread titles. I love it <3
But yeah, I'm shy, apart from the odd time where I am overconfident, and then become shy again, as a result of the fall-out from my overconfidence.
I'm beginning to deal with it though. Hurray.
but i'm more confident than i was.
through fear of saying something that might ruin my chances. So I just end up coming accross like a grunting, sycophantic, personality-cancer victim.
It annoys me, my attempts to becaome more confident have failed so far.
it can come off as rude because I just don't talk :(
It would have been a whole lot of standing there and not saying anything!
When I meet new people they tend to think I'm moody and off but it's simply because I can't think of a single thing to say. The very few times I open my mouth to speak the most stupid words fall out.
this is me
but I think I cover it up pretty well by just trying to be as brass as possible. Then I go home and cry because I know I've just made 10 more people hate me.
I think I thrive under the pressure.
me as well.
definitely getting better, though. in big groups i used to just be so quiet that people wouldn't even notice when i got up and left, sometimes like i was physically unable to open my mouth. these days i'm pretty comfortable starting and holding conversations with people that i don't know, and not seeming like a total weirdo. to the average person, stuff like not being able to converse like this must seem absolutely crazy, but it's always comforting to know that it's something that affects alot of people.
Not shy, no.
i agree with most of the people in it.
you should have come to Vertigo, then you wouldn't have been replying to emo threads. Also, it was ace as fuck.
oh dear. I saw the last two bands, the first was a shitty singer-songwriter but the second band was this extraordinary French group with horns and a two-stringed bass and a couple of the best feedback guitar solos I've ever heard. And then I DJed for a bit and it was great. Then I danced and got a bit drunk. And it seemed like I was friends with half the people there. Awesome.
Now I'm just socially awkward. I'll agonise for weeks after saying stupid things to people. Not even stupid things, awkward pauses, unimpressive entrances, parting words that leave the other party unsure as to whether the conversation has ended, unintentional cold shoulders. It torments me because I know I can be eloquent sometimes. I really, really envy people who can just be well-spoken on demand.
Iv'e actaully spent a large portion of this evening agonising over how I said goodbye to my friend before and how I didn't say hi to the new people at uni.
shy and won't / can't say a word, which is why i have strong tendencies to drink, a lot at times. When surrounded by people i know and love i'm confident and lead conversations. Really annoying when a guy who is actually seriously hot and lovely shows an interest, i get completely nervous and get butterflies, and then they get the wrong message,
so i tend to aim low : (
i agonised for the whole of last week over the way i'd acted round someone, thinking i may have been a dick, turns out they didnt even notice. I hate it when people say im shy though, cos im always trying hard not to be, never works though.
Usually I'm fine, I don't have a problem meeting people and maintaining conversations etc.
Work-wise I get quite shy though as I'm the youngest here (a scary thought..) and most people in my area of work tend to be quite senior, and I'm worried I don't really know what I'm talking about.
The only other time I get a bit shy is when there's a girl I really like, I feel a bit 'arrrrgghh!' inside, but it's kinda quite a nice feeling, and then I get a bit giggly.
It's not hard to talk.