I've just moved into a new flat at uni, and it's supposed to be a 7 person flat, but it's not really, it's just 7 separate rooms with a shared kitchen, and you can't even leave your door open because they're those fire safety doors which slam shut automatically, and I've been living here since Sunday but I haven't even seen anyone here, because I'm too shy to go and knock on people's doors and I've just been eating in my room by myself, so today I thought I'd bite the bullet, and went into the kitchen to wash my cutlery and stuff and put a lasagne in the oven, and there was no one in there, but on the way back I saw a girl coming out of her room, so I said hello, and I kind of looked at her for a little bit too long as I complicated introducing myself and saying a bit more, but I couldn't really think how to do it comfortably, so I just kept walking and went back to my room, and it's my birthday tomorrow and now I feel really sad.
Hmm those weird shared house setups are odd.
Why not put a note somewhere communal offering birthday drinks in the kitchen some time over the weekend?
I dunno. Actually that's a bit geeky. But I wouldn't want to knock on doors either - you never know what you're disturbing.
I didn't talk to anyone in my block for the entire year. I used to go and cook in another blocks kitchen, and just go back to my room to sleep.
That's probably more retarded.
I saw a girl in my area at a gig, and spoke to her briefly. And she's really cute. I walk past her all the time and should say hi, but we just smile at eachother :( :( :(
just go and knock on people's doors and say 'hey, i'm one of your neighbours. just thought i'd introduce myself and say hello. it's a bit of a strange house to be living in isn't it, haha... etc etc' and you'll be mates in no time!
when i moved into halls i had a similar nervousness then my friend i already knew in manc came round and forcibly pushed me into my neighbours room saying 'hi, this is tim he's cool talk to him'. and we made friends. easy :S
that sounds like the setup we had when I moved into halls
We all went out and got tanked within about ten seconds of moving in, and I can't see how it could work any other way, really. I think your best bet is to buy a fuckload of beers, sit in the kitchen, and drink them, and if someone comes in, make them drink one as well
whatever happens, make sure you get some booze down yer neck. Taking some weed would make you at least a couple of instant chums, but some of the sportsfreaks might thing you're a junkie
that really isn't what halls are like, in any way shape or form...mine were an endless succession of vodka jellies, hot knives, and having a go on the ginger bird downstairs
do not become a hermit like I did! If you can't bring yourself to knock on the door just talk to people in the kitchen this is a good method. My flat now only has 6 rooms and beside the two friends I moved with I found that just by sitting in the kitchen the other 3 people would come and talk. The more you talk the easier it gets!
I've been here for a couple of weeks now and not really done loads of socialising. But then I am a grad student living with other grad students so it's a bit different I guess, people generally have other networks of friends and aren't so desperate to do the whole "bonding via getting trashed together every night" thing.
Can be a bit lonely of an evening sometimes though.
Excellent!
examples pls.
Okay, okay, I'll tell you
I've just moved into a new flat at uni, and it's supposed to be a 7 person flat, but it's not really, it's just 7 separate rooms with a shared kitchen, and you can't even leave your door open because they're those fire safety doors which slam shut automatically, and I've been living here since Sunday but I haven't even seen anyone here, because I'm too shy to go and knock on people's doors and I've just been eating in my room by myself, so today I thought I'd bite the bullet, and went into the kitchen to wash my cutlery and stuff and put a lasagne in the oven, and there was no one in there, but on the way back I saw a girl coming out of her room, so I said hello, and I kind of looked at her for a little bit too long as I complicated introducing myself and saying a bit more, but I couldn't really think how to do it comfortably, so I just kept walking and went back to my room, and it's my birthday tomorrow and now I feel really sad.
:(
right, go back. Knock on a door NOW. Go on.
I presume she was going out
because she wasn't going towards the kitchen. But tomorrow, yeah? TOMORROW. If I can remember which room was hers.
there's 5 other doors!
go and knock on one NOW.
After dinner?
If my friend's not here yet? And I don't think "It's a bit late - they could be asleep"? People go to sleep before 9 o'clock.
people go to sleep at 10
any time before is acceptable.
Yeah, okay
Maybe. Yeah. :)
yeah
:)
Is she hot?
Not really
Otherwise I would have stopped, innit.
I always do stuff like that.
Content yourself with the knowledge that 90% people are cunts so in all probability she wasn't worth the effort.
Aww don't be rotten!
Hmm those weird shared house setups are odd.
Why not put a note somewhere communal offering birthday drinks in the kitchen some time over the weekend?
I dunno. Actually that's a bit geeky. But I wouldn't want to knock on doors either - you never know what you're disturbing.
don't be silly
he lives with them! He has to meet them some time! Knock on the doors and offer birthday drinks over the weekend!
Thanks for fuelling my anxiety
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Have you met anyone since going to uni?
I didn't meet my proper friends for a month or something - don't worry too much.
Well I've been here a year
so it would be a *tiny* bit worrying if I hadn't.
I had a similar setup at uni
I didn't talk to anyone in my block for the entire year. I used to go and cook in another blocks kitchen, and just go back to my room to sleep.
That's probably more retarded.
Warning
Exit through door 7 only, all other doors contain man-eating tigers.
"Ok hold on so... Rocky II plus Rocky V = Rocky VII: Adrienne's Revenge!"
Sorry... err good luck!
me too :(
I saw a girl in my area at a gig, and spoke to her briefly. And she's really cute. I walk past her all the time and should say hi, but we just smile at eachother :( :( :(
Say hello next time you see her.
DO IT.
Really.
Nah.
Let her come to you. Drop a bit of interest via MySpace or something, and watch her pester you for the rest of your life.
awww...
just go and knock on people's doors and say 'hey, i'm one of your neighbours. just thought i'd introduce myself and say hello. it's a bit of a strange house to be living in isn't it, haha... etc etc' and you'll be mates in no time!
go on, DO IT.
OKAY
(After dinner. I'm having lasagne. With a green salad. And some bread.)
Then tell us
and post pictures.
yum :)
yes, please do! i was mega-shy when i was at uni and i always regret not being braver.
^^this
when i moved into halls i had a similar nervousness then my friend i already knew in manc came round and forcibly pushed me into my neighbours room saying 'hi, this is tim he's cool talk to him'. and we made friends. easy :S
ok cool - you are
If you want
I'll come to your flat and make such a commotion arriving that everyone will come and see what is happening and say hello?
Genuine offer...
yeah
it's great, isn't it !
Yeah
did you wimp out? :)
Play some sort of Deal or No Deal
With the 6 doors.
Win something.
bf
that sounds like the setup we had when I moved into halls
We all went out and got tanked within about ten seconds of moving in, and I can't see how it could work any other way, really. I think your best bet is to buy a fuckload of beers, sit in the kitchen, and drink them, and if someone comes in, make them drink one as well
bf
whatever happens, make sure you get some booze down yer neck. Taking some weed would make you at least a couple of instant chums, but some of the sportsfreaks might thing you're a junkie
haha
one of the cleaners at my friends halls used to sell weed to us.
this is the reason im not going into halls
bf
that really isn't what halls are like, in any way shape or form...mine were an endless succession of vodka jellies, hot knives, and having a go on the ginger bird downstairs
that sounds even worse
id rather have a cosy flat with steve
bf
we'd ALL love a cosy flat with Steve, but sometimes we have to make do with vodka jellies, hot knives and the ginger bird downstairs
^actuaLOL
That's EXACTLY what my halls were like.
My halls were like that but with 20 people to a kitchn
do not become a hermit like I did! If you can't bring yourself to knock on the door just talk to people in the kitchen this is a good method. My flat now only has 6 rooms and beside the two friends I moved with I found that just by sitting in the kitchen the other 3 people would come and talk. The more you talk the easier it gets!
i was in Loring!
chunty was in raymont. or whatever
racmac halls?!
where the fuck were they?!
HAAHA
at least I knew what they were.
noob
yeah i heard it was meant to be pretty mental
ps. rachel macmillan halls
oh i know :)
that was for newbie chuntys benefit :)
Done
Thank you :)
just stay in your room
and talk to your internet friends, you dont need anyone else.
I can kind of sympathise.
I've been here for a couple of weeks now and not really done loads of socialising. But then I am a grad student living with other grad students so it's a bit different I guess, people generally have other networks of friends and aren't so desperate to do the whole "bonding via getting trashed together every night" thing.
Can be a bit lonely of an evening sometimes though.