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who won't listen to anything positive you say - pretty frustrating?
best thign to do is to distract them away from the matter entirely, that'd probably work best to boost their morale.
I am the world's worst person when dealing with crying people.
replace with people are even slightly upset...
Crying people I'm just completely lost with.
hug and don't saying anything.
Then you tell him to man the fuck up.
even if it doesn't seem like it's getting into their heads or they say no to what you say, it still helps them to hear you say that you care. really.
I'm sort of quite good at this but (obviously) hate doing it, particularly if they're disproportionately upset in terms of what they're upset about.
where I comforted a female friend who was really upset and who, as a general rule, hates opening up to people and doesn't trust people.
Afterwards she got really awkward about having opened up, I got really awkward about awkward she got and, although I stil see her around, the friendship never really recovered. :(
usually relationships get stronger from that sort of thing.
and try and find fun things to do that are not seen as fun at first?