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Does anyone else sometimes get really nervous before making a phonecall?
I do :(
As has been well documented by the world media (a thread on here) I am unable to do it.
Job update: I have now applied to 10 different places, and have not even received a "we have your details, we'll call you if anything comes up" from any of them.
At least SOME recognition for trying to get a job, so my dad will shut the fuck up. its impossible.
if i've got to explain something important to somebody at work. i jumble my words a bit if i'm unable to just point at something.
i hate it. despite managing to work in a call centre for four months.
as I always get paranoid that the other person won't want to talk to me. It's absolutely fucking stupid, but that's what you get with self-loathing.
Do you just get people to phone for you too?:(
I can't even phone a shop to see if they have something in stock.
I get my little brother to do it: Pathetic
except for arranging stuff...
Which is nothing to get nervous about.
I lead a very boring life :(
a few weeks ago, which i don't think is very fair. I had very little idea what to say, unsurprisingly they didn't call me in for a proper interview.
No answer. Now comes the "do I ring again?" conundrum.
I hate making phone calls at work as I think everyone will be listening (they obviously have nothing better to do) and I'll sound like a twat.
to compose myself, i have to go through exactly what im going to say unless i fuck it up
It's called social anxiety disorder. You retard.
I'm not familiar with the medical terminology..
But yeah, I have that.
Well, "help". Seriously though, if it bothers you (along with other things, like crying yourself to sleep at night because you have no friends), you should speak to your GP about it.
It's been part of my life for a while, and I try and work through it, with success, in many situations.
Having said that, it did lead to the break-up of my last relationship, indirectly.
it might not have even "broken up" and if it has, why do you think that's the reason?
but that doesn't answer why you think that caused it. I think that's a really steep jump (yes STEEP JUMP makes sense!) to make in finding out why what you think happaned, has happened.
I was doing so well :(
Even if it's someone I know quite well and am reasonaly comfortabl;e with, I still get all edgy before I phone tham and usually end up putting it off for ages..
but you know this already!
I just don't like the ringing before the small pause and then "hello?", and then when we start talking I just ramble nervously.
when the office is quiet. I'll wait for some kind of background chatter, and I usually try to work out exactly what I'm going to say first.
Not that I do...
I have been known to write it down when I know I have to leave a voicemail.
I still hate doing that. But I know that everyone else does too so I don't really care anymore and I just laugh at myself when I cock it up and sound like a twat.
I always ramble then have to ring back and go 'oh yeah, the point of the last message was...'
Then one of my old jobs pretty much threw me in the deep end of making scary phonecalls all the time. Now I'm not bothered.
I put it down to my best mate's dad being terminally ill when we were young and I was always worried I was going to ring as he took his last breath.
Dating attempts were even worse.
This is why I love the song which starts;
'I wish the telephone had not been invented,
Cos I keep picking it up to say stupid things to you'