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I've always tended to go for extreme opposites, personally.
the extreme opposite side of the world?
But I don't think many people fall in love and stay in love with people based on looks alone.
i've never thought of it like that. i would hate to be in a relationship with someone similar to me in some respects, but in other ways it would be good. most pointless post ever? hi!
a lot of choice about who you find attractive, and also you might not really realise you look similar.
They kind of morphed into each other. I think if you're close to someone it is inevitable that you will be inspired by them and then the similarity goes from there. Yuk, I'd hate to be with someone similar to me. I think if you're in love with someone that is similar to you, you probably do love yourself, which is a good thing if you're able to do so. If you love yourself you are secure within yourself. Which is a good recipe for a lasting relationship.
and I couldn't spend more than a few hours with them before getting annoyed.
I think you need to have differences with someone, so you've got something to talk over.
Personally I'd want a gf to have her own interests n that, rather than her having exactly the same ones as me.
and have something to talk about...
I don't think I'd want to go out with someone like me - I'd be bored.. I usually go for high energy types, actually - in the past, party boys... which has lead to various issues over the years.. but I think I'll be settling down one day soon - but not just yet.
Best not to be judgemental, eh.
further explanation would be nice, but i guess i get what you're saying
i mean that "having things in common" is a generally cited reason for people to be together, and it just struck me as quite odd, a little at least.
anyway, what i really wanted from this thread was "what are you experiences of being with people rilly rilly similar to you?", but im too damn stylish to post something like that
You are a music geek and music is your life and then you can enjoy gigs and music together.
else you'd just argue and disagree about everything all the time.
Like I said, I usually go for opposites in personality.. ie when I was a bit more introverted in my early twenties, I was drawn to party boys, social butterflies, the last man standing (as I usually was the last girl standing)... because I found they had a lot more to say... and inevitably were out doing interesting things.. I also get very bored quickly.
My interests and personality are so varied, I think I can find a lot in common with most 'partners' and indeed people / friends...
Like I said, it's all pheromones to me. I've got really really good looking male friends (my friend Michaelangelo strikes me as one) where we went on a non-date date under the guise of a being a business lunch years ago (we both really were checking each other out but never said this) and nothing ever happened - I just wasn't into it.. something just 'didn't click'... although he became a great friend to me and still is.
I have NO IDEA what the answer is.
but is it narcissitic to go out with people similar to you?
I think that might be termed 'common ground'.. So no.
= party dude?
= machine doer?
(sigh and shake of head)
as it's quite easy to have things to talk about- and have shared experiences, like going to see a film you both want to see, or spend a day at the zoo trying to work out why pandas have those dark bits around the eyes.
Attraction is an odd thing- I've met a couple of girls recently who on paper I should be attracted to- decent taste in music, nice looking,- but for some reason I just don't think that way about them.
On the other hand girls who have a passion for something I find attractive, it's kind of like having something to discover about someone and what makes them tick. Someone who can suprise me is also good.
having nothing in common, then it's just sex and no conversation......
maybe I'm wrong
so long as you both know the score.
scare me. they look more like brother and sister. argh!
and differences keep them together.
girlfriend I had ever had was very different to me, and they always started with a bang and ended far too late with a whimper and, on at least one side if not both, burning resentment.
Now I am with someone with a very similar temperament and attitude to me. And it's great.
It might not be for everyone, though. The moral? Well, I'm not sure. Still, I'm alright, eh?
I was seeing a girl for a while and everyone seemed to think we looked alike, so they thought we were brother and sister, which was pretty disgusting, then when we broke up, they decided we were together, which got, and still gets a bit awkward from time to time.
on the whole though i like girls with similar interests, and who likes doing what i do and vice versa.