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being unable to step out of my comfort zone and do things i want to do is really frustrating.
sarah, what's bothering you?
a really good night, been to a really good gig, sitting around with a pretty person thinking, right i'm going to speak to them again in 5 minutes, then i left without speaking to them properly.
that's probably part of the problem
makes you less able to step out of your comfort zone?
i mean the problem of this post being completely pointless and self-absorbed. blah. anyway.
it's an epiphany
and the most difficult to impliment, but just don't think about it. then, conversation comes naturally and laughs will be had.
though, i'm still like that with a few people i had crushes on when i was younger, even though i know they're knobs now.
another trick i used to use was trying to convince yourself that they're quite unpleasant people and, if you get past the first couple of minutes of scowling at them and being sarcastic, you get around to getting along really well with them.
thank you the man that is jonathan
That's just common sense.
if you need help in that area
I realllly hate it, sometimes i'm alot better then other times but I cant stand being juged or crticised & rejected also. But when I think 'they are probably going to just judge me as the quiet shy one' or 'The person that didnt take a shine to me' just get involved in convosations that arent too personal to people and very general.
I.E. if they are talking about, I dunno, pets...
Just wait for something you can attach a small anicdote to more often or not this results into them asking further questions and steadily you get a better flowing convosation and you get more confident. Of course this doesnt always work, dont do LOVE drugs such as E or MDMA around people you dont know to well but fancey, plumping your head on them or hugging them may be creepy *speaking out of experiance*
hope this helps x
i'm usually quite scowly/ignorant towards people i actually like, which is a bit silly, but it's to hold back the massive red face which would stare them in the face if i said something silly. that said. i'm not really that shy.
i dno. i'm quite intimidated by other girls around me. house parties are soooo much better for meeting people. everyone is sociable.
Got red face syndrome, even when I dont need to be embarrased
i went to leeds and failed to utilise colin's advice on girls because she disappeared.
grammatics with colin, sarahhh and lauraspelledwrong.
train home and then to the fab cafe.
We turned up at 9-ish. Was pretty rubbish.
I was thinking of going to Grammatics in York... should I have done?
they had matching outfits and little else in their favour, grammatics were good and colin is a fantastic cheerleader. i don't really like the sugars either so if you'd just gone up for the gig it'd be not great value.
But I felt it would make me unpopular :)