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I'm curious to see how many of you are going to lie and say, "personality".
I go for mental and physical stimulation, if you get spiritual and emotional it's an added bonus
It can make a less good-looking person attractive or a good-looking person unattractive.
To be honest I suspect anyone who says either "personality" or "looks" isn't being entirely truthful - I think fancying people is one of these inexplicable things where you're either attracted to someone or you aren't and, although you can find ways to explain your attraction to someone (i.e. they're good-looking or have a good sense of humour or whatever else) really you like them 'cos you "just do".
Certainly I've been aware of circumstances where I can say "I fancy this person 'cos they're x or y" when in actual fact I could see the precise same qualities in someone else and not be interested in the least.
I like really horrible ugly people.
to be in the position where I'M making that decision
personality and looks in the long run. I've learnt the hard way that you really do need to find someone physically attractive as well as having them make you laugh. Luckily I found Mr Starshaped who is a great all-rounder.
When have you not found a large breasted woman aesthetically pleasing and also interesting?
I could talk to breasts for hours whilst looking at them.
could have got much lower . . .
when talking to us.
just for them?
opportunity, and I think they'd be sorely disappointed.
Personality. It's the cult of pesonality, innit.
Sadly, I think I've been a bad judge in character mostly.
it's 2am over there.
or am i mistaken?
work in tandem.
Looks attract you initially and then the personality is the killer. Ideally a physically attractive boy with an alluring personality.
I'd take a good personality over looks long term.
but someone with the personality of a whelk is not someone you want to spend any amount of time with.
Anyone who is saying that looks don't play a part at all is a big giant liar. Or blind.
personallity for sure
that I met someone recently who I get on incredibly well with, yet I'm seemingly unable to find them attractive. It's not even that she's particularly unnatractive, just kind of 'not my type'.
There's a fine line between picky and shallow.
It's rubbish! I think i'm in the same situation.
Talked to some nice-looking girls last night who all turned out to be dribbling idiots who shout 'lol' instead of laughing..
Need to blend the two somehow.
who are great!
if they are hot and have a slutty side.
Girls that you can discuss favourite dinosaurs with rule.
you can do much about that. if you dont "like" them physically then i dont think there is much chance of a physical relationship, just really good friends?
Sometimes you can get to know them and love their personality, and then find them hot when you think about them 'in that way' a bit more.
that there's a large extent to which this imperative to find someone 'attractive enough' is external - we need to be seen with somebody attractive because we have a social position to maintain.
you don't want to make ugly babies now do you?
*little bit of burny sick comes up at the idea*
it is usually looks that pull you in then personality that holds you there..
I didn't fancy Mr SCL when I first saw him but I really really liked him, and then I started noticing really beautiful things about him and now it's completely shifted, I think he's gorgeous and I fancy him loads and he still has the best personality :)
That's never happened before.
Without seeing what they look like first, so presumably "looks".
Personality is the deal-breaker though.
I knew Mr Kayleia by just looking at him for a couple of months and when I spoke to him, I actually liked him <3
I do think he's attractive now however
sitting on it
not Mr Kayleia
I don't fancy him in the cowboy hat or his black skinny jeans.
I have informed him of this too.
but it helps if you find them attractive immediately. I've started "unofficially" going out with this girl, who I didn't fancy at all on first meeting, but we met up again alone, last night, and it went well enough for me to want to keep seeing her.
I like women who laugh at my jokes, whether they think they're funny, or they just fancy me. Either way is good :D
it's a fine line.
When I first met my girfriend I was attracted to her instantly, then having got to know eachother I realised there was so much more to her than just good looks. We formed an emotional bond.
it's unavoidable that there are situations in which these two factors become separated to a greater or lesser extent.
For instance, we tend to see somebody before we talk to them, and their appearance inevitably colour how we view their personality when we do.
then usually a combination of the two.
Though I have stayed with some vacous idiots because they were hot.
I don't think you can seperate the two you just fancy *them* and they look like who they are so you like how they look, their personality shines through everything they do, their style, their expressions and mannerisms etc. The only girl i've loved was so beautiful because of her looks and personailty which are completely entwined.
Was born with roses in her eyes. But then they buried her alive one evening 1945. The cunts.
Great song :D
people look like they have a nice personality?
i saw a girl on the train yesterday and she had a very friendly face. i imagine she was nice.
is this ever misleading?
esp with girls, they can be pure evil, but look like sweetness and light. You have been warned.
i could predict this .. i know the kind of girls you're talking about
is the PC term.
i made that mistake at guides.
though i think, you can see, if you look hard enough, whether someone is radiating genuine warmth or just faux-niceness
they're absolute cows to other girlies, (unless they want something out of you) but boys absolutely love them because they make them feel like they're god's gift to women.
then if the girl turned out to be a prize twunt I'd sack her off.
until you meet someone, it may be mainly one or a combo, or their passion or their voice or their smell as well. remember 'the man with two brains' when he's looking for a 'body' to house his brain love in? and he finds the woman who sings 'oil oil oil dook of oil oil oil'
summed it up perfectly at the beginning of this thread
then personality stumbles along later.
I think Big Brother shows that attractive people can become less attractive when they act like pricks.
some girls dress up like they have a personality but then they're all like 'what did you do? I did this. Did you ever do that? oh I knew someone who did that. I want to do it someday.'
In conclusion people who can only talk about 'stuff they've done' are boring.
and therefore unnattractive.
I genuinely think most people are somewhat attractive. And somewhat is good enough for me. Even if they've got a face which is really terrible, then i'd still be hard pushed to reject them if they were nice.
I don't think a good personality is as easy to come across, so that.