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For suckers? For life? Once in a lifetime or two or three times if things just don't work out?
Go together like a horse and carriage
This I tell you brother
You cant have one without the other
Love and marriage, love and marriage
Its an institute you cant disparage
Ask the local gentry
And they will say its elementary
Try, try, try to separate them
Its an illusion
Try, try, try, and you will only come
To this conclusion
Love and marriage, love and marriage
Go together like a horse and carriage
Dad was told by mother
You cant have one without the other
that you're now condemned to have that damn song in your head for the next week. And if you don't, I'll IM it to you. Ha. Night night john-boy x
What is important is the person you are with and how you treat and feel about each other
however it is a quite nice kind of promise that you are assured of someones feeling, it enables you to relax a bit and not have moments of doubt (of course if you aint meant for each other then this may prove inaccurate, it might also lead to a bit of taking for granted.....but this can occur outside of marriage too, and sometimes it may help with self doubt and negativity cos these can put a stress on a relationship cos of jealousies...
it's not even 'and guest', which I thought was a little rude.
they knew there was a chance you would bring sarah.
they're actually from a group of friends who haven't had the pleasure of meeting her.
It's all about meeting up with friends and getting drunk. Not bringing someone else who might feel a bit out of the loop.
I didn't think of it like that.
it means that whoever's paying could well be paying for someone they've never met before.
we're a classy lot.
is a documentary like I think it is, you're guaranteed a lot of japes, whooping, and a very hot daughter.
it's just a natural progression in a relationship i think, showing 'the world' that you love each other so much that you're willing to commit to marriage.
for life, it depends. who knows what's going to happen? if things weren't working i would get divorced. though, after a lot of thought. and possible... i dunno. couples therapy or something. i don't know.
Actually the way to view it positively is like a promise to another that you intend to stay with them and not leave them for another.....i.e. you are going to stop actively looking for someone else, thats a good reassurance to have, if it is meant.
Maybe it also helps because its public so others know and dont assume you're available and pester you.
but I'm not ready to get married myself yet I don't think. I've been in a relationship for nearly four years and my grandparents keep subtly hinting at it :(
also, there aren't even any tax advantages now.
have a hand binding
but I don't like all this big wedding spending money nonsense, with a formal dinner and all that. It's going to cost me about £200 to go to my friend's wedding this summer.
I'd get married in a registry office, then put on a party with one of my friends DJing decent music. And no wedding presents.
If I got married I'd intend it to be for life, but you never know what's going to happen, do you?
they could get really fat.
The only reason to get married is to have a massive party with loads of presents!
you get plates and shit. WHICH YOU WOULD IMAGINE PEOPLE WOULD ALREADY OWN. Ok, I want a wedding list from Fopp.
It saves everyone fannying around looking for shitty presents, they can just give you cheques. Winner!
he asked for Argos vouchers as wedding presents.
I thought this was a nice touch.
and what your situation is going to be afterwards...
on our wedding list I've put two goals for the back garden.
if you like.
it was 64 people including us. We had a church wedding and then the reception was a nice sit down dinner with a cool rat pack style band for later. It was really fun and cos it was small I got to talk to everyone who was there. Wedding presents were great, we'd have been in trouble without them.
in somerset or something, it was beautiful. they booked a kind of camping area in a nearby field, where people stayed, and then they had like, an Arabian nights type boudoir tent thing as their reception place, with so much amazing food . they chose loads of decent music to dance to, and then a covers bands to keep the olds happy. i played football with little kids and fell over, ripping my tights. which i've decided that only i could do. go to a wedding, play football and go home with scrapes on my knees.
Into a massive game of cricket. In the dark. With a lemon for a ball.
is being held at Shenley Cricket Centre - touring sides always play there. Part of the package is a 'bride v groom' family game of cricket. Unfortunately the only person on the missus' side who likes cricket is her uncle who had a stroke last year. We're having a bbq, bouncy castle and disco in the 'Denis Compton' room.
I'm so having a bouncy castle at my wedding!!
am getting steadily more excited.
my father in law gave us 1K and we did everything for 1K
marriage, rings, trip down river with guests in 3 boats for the price of 3 pints at pub for the owners, wine , food for 40/50, cake, flowers, hall, a great disco fantastic lighting, dress and honeymoon
Of course some peoples presents were things like helping out'doing the flowers, etc'...Everyone took their own photos....gives you more choice
basically we never thought of getting married because we had a child on the way and thought we'd need to save all the money we could for that, but my father in law said he'd give us 1K to get married (his mum in eire is strict old catholic matriarch) , so we thought .....yeah a grand to paaaaarrty and see all our freinds......we can do that, fantastic.
I mean we might have had a hand binding otherwise
and was used extensively.
Me and Mrs Knees really want to go to weddings as she really wants to wear a silly hat
I had an image of you ruining a nice white dress in dirty old on the rocks.. would you do a stint on the door?!
being married is acer
the whole committing yourself to someone else in front of friends, family, god (if you're churchy) is a brilliant thing to do, it's like a proper proclamation of total devotion to each other...
I think too much attention is given to the 'wedding' when it's spending the rest of your lives together that should be concentrated on...it's not easy but it's great
me trying to break your marriage and steal you for myself. Because it isn't.
I was looking forward to the actual wedding being over to be honest. It was one fun day, but I was looking forward to being married and getting on with life.
it's like when people have babies and don't think that they're actually going to become people one day, not like a pet!
but if I was getting married I'd probably do it in another country so everyone that makes the effort to come are well wishers rather than free loaders.
not many of Brendan's family could come over from SA. I decided to keep my invites down so that it was only family and friends I'd know for a very long time. A few people were a bit put out I think, but I just had to explain. I also barred all children, which was possibly evil of me.
Good idea to ban kids, I wouldn't say it's very interesting if you aren't drunk.
with family and friends when I was over at Christmas. 10 months later. His immediate family had come over and there were video messages from everyone else.
of doing the 'weeeeeeeeeeeeeeee' across the dancefloor slidey thing!
reasons that they were banned.
I also have no family except my mum and dad and sister, so that would limit the elderly people on my side.
my Grandma went and sat in another room at my sister's reception cos she said it was too loud.
on the bouncy castle. And they steal all the jelly and ice cream.
at the last wedding I went to I didn't get to enjoy the free champers as all the shitty kids were drinking it. where's the fairness in that?
was at a wedding, on buck's fizz. So I'm actually not sure on where I stand on this now.
for one, i have approx 10 aunts and uncles, plus their spouses, and their kids. so, that's about 40 people straight off the bat. plus my dad&partner, mum&partner, brothers & dates. AND cousins with dates. so....... approx 55 maybe? just close family. jesus. then there's family friends, and their children. other relatives who i don't know but who i'd probably have to invite. school mates. uni mates. random mates. work mates.
so, i'm guessing just with me, i'd have about 100+ guests. erm.
what does mr fox think about this?
still, if there's no groom, then you can fill up his half with your guests and fit even more in.
'Bride or Groom?'
'Who cares! PAAAAAARTY!'
and learn to hide your revulsion
misunderstanding, I thought you meant Mr fox as in 'mrs knees' 'mrsthewarn'
You crazy people. Although, is it the Bride's Dad that pays for it, traditionally?
Unlucky Papa Fox.
with my partner and all our parents. or something.
Are you going to start abbreviating that to 'jf' from now on, grockle-style?
it's going to be the most amazing piss-up ever
it will be fantastic, i'm sure.
i'd have to invite other random family friends and possibly people that knew my granny. because... we're like that. it's weird.
just a pity. i would probably have to invite lots of people too. but i wouldn't invite anyone i genuinely didn't like.
to get married at a music festival, are they actually legaly binding?
do they have a registrar type person though..you might have to go and do the legal bit in a registry office, 5 minute job.
I'll be getting married in september, not sure to who yet.....
Anyone fancy coming to the electric picnic?
fine, you'll all rue the day you didn't marry me
I think it's a really lovely thing to do, to feel that strongly and confident in someone and your future together.
I'd have a little ceremony somewhere that isn't a church and a big party, preferably outside with a bbq with posh sausages and Bamos DJing.
and hope to one day. Perhaps. I think.
i spent most of my life believing that it was really quite a shallow thing and that it caused more trouble than it was worth, but thankfully i've found someone who i want to spend the rest of my life with and so i want to get married to her as soon as possible. i do still believe that two people don't need marriage to prove they are devoted to each other, and i don't really believe that marriage is in the presence of God and so forth, but i think it would be romantic.
I think this is good reasoning and it makes me smile.
Well done :)
Unfortunately i can't afford to get married right now :(
but as long as the sentiment is there, that's the main thing :)
Who needs money or an imminent marriage when you've found someone who you truly believe you could spend the rest of your life with?
I repeat :)
quite nice yes.
i didn't realise it was THAT serious.
:) & hugs x