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fucking annoying aren't they.
is no-one that my offer didn't apply to. Even sadpunk \/
Now hug me!!
that's quite a big word, are you sure it's the right one?
My best friend turned into a nightmare and I am still wondering if we will come through it, with the friendship unscathed. I was patronised for absolutely EVERYTHING - my other friends, my music hobbies, my djing stuff, my job, the fact I seemed 'happy', err... oh and the fact that I 'don't understand' what it's like to want to have children because I am not her age (she is two years older than me).
After a point I got very pissed off and stopped talking to her for a month because she basically had a go at my character which was totally out of order and line. She panicked as knew she was in the wrong and it's also rare my temper explodes these days unwarranted.
We are still mending the friendship. I still receive patronising comments every now and then. I put it down to THEIR shit, and not mine, basically....
And people go through mentalism in their life and I am assuming this is her hormonal version of that. I believe in the best in people.
with one of my best friends recently because of this. She's 10 years older than me and we always used to go to gigs etc as we loved all the same music, and she's pretty young for her age I think so we got on great. She started seeing this guy (who is my age BTW) and didn't make ANY time for me any more at all, apparently I should have not said anything and given her space (this was about 6 months into their 'new' relationship) and apparently I don't understand what it takes to make an adult relationship work. She also started to talk as if she was going along with stuff I suggested we do to make me happy. I had thought that she actually wanted to come to these gigs and parties. She made it sound as if I was making demands and pressuring. Sorry, that must have been awful for you, having a young friend trying to encourage you to do fun things and considering you when she makes plans. How awful. I've got plenty of other friends who value me for what I am, so whatever.
after moaning to my friend who's in a long term relationship about another friend who's in a long term relationship, she turns to me and says 'dont worry you'll find somebody, hang in there'
im fuckin 21 and perfectly happy in singledom thank you very much!
I don't know what sarkyfox is referrng to as people being 'patronising' but the one thing I hate is that kind of benign well-meant "everything will work out eventually" platitude from someone who has absolutely no idea of how you feel.
If one more person tells me that I'll "find someone eventually" I'll scream. For one thing I'm usually relatively happy being single and, for another, I'm an emotional fuck-up who won't find anyone eventually anyway, even if I wanted to so I wish people wouldn't try this kind of dumb reassurance.
Change your freinds
tries to suggest i'm an alcoholic every time i go out for a drink and tries to give me advice on every single aspect of my life in an annoying Barnet rasp.
when she realises that i actually don't care whether she lives or dies, maybe she'll stop being such a twat.
particularly bad. STOP FORCING YOUR HAPPY DOMESTICITY IN MY TIRED FACE
.....oh, right, i see. Carry on.